get a girl to open emotionally, but not be used as an emotional tampon?

[theory of knowledge]

how would this work? i know to elicit feelings and certain emotions in conversations, but wouldn't this lead to me being used as an emotional tampon?

and if all/most dates are action oriented, when does the talking come in?

lastly, if i have a similiar case or emotional experience as hers, is it acceptable to tell her?

thanks

 

[Tom Juan]

You ask too many questions, kid.

 

[theory of knowledge]

okay dad...do you have any answers?

 

[MetalFortress]

An emotional tampon is just someone who listens and is totally non-sexual. If you are not a nonthreatening AFC, you can listen all ya want and still succeed.

 

[JJMcLure]

Well I see a lot of "theory" in youre question, but little practical understanding.

Get around chicks, hang out with them, have fun and relax. If they start talking about their ex-BF, their life problems, some harrowing experience in their life - then cut that sh1t off because you'll become an emotional tampon. Also, you don't want to be associated with negative feelings and if she's talking to about them guess what - you will be. Listening to all their problems and crap is how you become an emotional tampon.

You don't want to be getting into deep "emotional" conversations early on, forget trying to connect with her by telling her your similar "emotional experiences". Keep it light and fun. Nothing scares people off faster than someone spilling emotions or neediness all over them early on.

What you want to concentrate on generating is attraction, the rest comes later. As far as generating emotions, I think you're getting caught up is speed seduction talk and it's way ahead of where you're at anyway (even assuming SS was worth pursuing).

 

[IsiMan84]

You ask too many questions, kid.

*cough* Waste of a post *cough*

Anyways, if she tries to spit out all the emotional crap, find a way to lighten the mood or change the subject. Just find a nice segway into something else. But if she's interested in you then I doubt she would even bring up stuff like that, because there's no way she's going to attract you with her problems. If she's truly happy to be with you then she should forget about her problems. So the best answer would be to prevent it before it starts, which means you need to not act AFC which would give her the image that you're the type of guy who wants to hear it.

 

[Remulak]

You know that terd that your dog made that you don't feel like cleaning up? Treat her like that dog terd sometimes, treat her nice sometimes, tease her, make her laugh, shower her with attention once in a while, confuse the shyt out of her but not in a psychotic way and she'll be begging to suck your d1ck.

 

[jakeyboy]

You know that terd that your dog made that you don't feel like cleaning up? Treat her like that dog terd sometimes, treat her nice sometimes, tease her, make her laugh, shower her with attention once in a while, confuse the shyt out of her but not in a psychotic way and she'll be begging to suck your d1ck.

HAHAHA. i get your point mate... but that was a weird as analogy. you treat your dog turd nicely? you tease your dog turd?! HAHAHA. my bad. that just cracked me up. XD

 

[Delta]

i think it's simple,

'emotional tampon' implies that you're getting used and you're not getting what you want out of it.

if you're fing her, you're in the clear. the way men determine if they're in a bad place is the state of the sex.

if you're taking it out on her hide, you're good.

delta

 

[DonJuanByNature]

listen... flip the chair... if you sitting and talking to some girl (Lets say Sarah) about your x, do you think your doing it because you care about Sarah or u really dont give a sh.it about Sarah and you care more about your x (cause obviously you still talking about her)... NOW.. imagine Sarah would slap you accross the face and say "look Bobby, I like you and want to be more then friends, I dont want to hear about your x, and if your not interested, then lets just go our seperate ways, I am sure I can find a guy that will be into me and not always talk about his x when his with me... Now at that point, you will think WOW, i.e thats shocking and straightforward, and at that point you will let her know where you stand and she will stop wasting her time (no matter what the result is)...

Hope you get the picture... Dont be no tampon man... Smack her and say "whos your daddy" and see what she says.. Grab her hand, when you walking down the street.. see how she responds...

 

[Delta]

i still think my way is easier... just make sure you're fing her senseless and then it almost doesn't matter what she says....

delta