I am 38 and getting a bit tired of the serial dating/hook up carousel. In my 30s I tended to go for quantity over quality and am coming to realise that sleeping with women even if they are really hot isn't much of an achievement or something that will bring any lasting happiness. It is also incredibly time consuming and expensive.
I am not looking to get married as I am not interested in having kids and do not want a messy divorce. But I have a lot of admiration for confirmed bachelors like Clooney (back in the day) and Di Caprio who have relationships that last a year or so and then move on to the next one. Of course it is easier when you have your pick of women and they all will commit in a heartbeat. More difficult when modern women have multiple options and are mostly serial daters who will rarely commit to a guy because they are delusional and still think they can find a Mr Big or whatever.
But I think that there are some rare women out there who are able to commit and interested in relationships and have the desirable qualities such as being giving and affectionate and so on. Question is how you find those women and how should you change your approach? The DJ approach is geared towards seduction and sleeping with women as quickly as possible and I have found it quite effective with most women who are easy and respond to confidence, physical escalation and banter. But in my experience quality women are put off by player vibes and
Also in terms of age range any thoughts? I am starting to think that late 20s is where to look. And preferably someone who has been in long term relationships already so haven't had many years of dating experience. And perhaps from non-Western backgrounds so social norms have deterred them from excessive promiscuity. I've found the ones in their 30s who have many years of serial dating tend to be very messed up and have commitment issues, are incredibly picky and delusional and also have very high body counts which comes with all kinds of problems. And also good if they are quite focused on their education/career so are responsible and not party girls and take life including relationships seriously.
Any other input welcomed
I am not looking to get married as I am not interested in having kids and do not want a messy divorce. But I have a lot of admiration for confirmed bachelors like Clooney (back in the day) and Di Caprio who have relationships that last a year or so and then move on to the next one. Of course it is easier when you have your pick of women and they all will commit in a heartbeat. More difficult when modern women have multiple options and are mostly serial daters who will rarely commit to a guy because they are delusional and still think they can find a Mr Big or whatever.
But I think that there are some rare women out there who are able to commit and interested in relationships and have the desirable qualities such as being giving and affectionate and so on. Question is how you find those women and how should you change your approach? The DJ approach is geared towards seduction and sleeping with women as quickly as possible and I have found it quite effective with most women who are easy and respond to confidence, physical escalation and banter. But in my experience quality women are put off by player vibes and
Also in terms of age range any thoughts? I am starting to think that late 20s is where to look. And preferably someone who has been in long term relationships already so haven't had many years of dating experience. And perhaps from non-Western backgrounds so social norms have deterred them from excessive promiscuity. I've found the ones in their 30s who have many years of serial dating tend to be very messed up and have commitment issues, are incredibly picky and delusional and also have very high body counts which comes with all kinds of problems. And also good if they are quite focused on their education/career so are responsible and not party girls and take life including relationships seriously.
Any other input welcomed