Genuine reasons for losing interest?

[Flex Luther]

Just wanted to state an apology to any replies to my last thread that suggested I move on from my gf. Our relationship didn't quite work out as some suggested but it ended none the less. Gone ghost. It really is difficult to let go when you love her, but my mindset is changing for the better.

Interesting point though.. On returning from a weekend away, I could feel the cold shoulder. She basically began a ljbf talk over dinner, but her initial reasoning was that she felt me to be too 'cool', 'selfish', 'nonchalant' in the relationship she said I was never open enough with her. I never told her how beautiful she was, what I loved about her. I kept these things to a minimum on purpose.. Surely they are AFC behaviours? So, inevitably, as I was in love I f***** up, by opening too much until I became everything I wanted to avoid, and her interest declined for then obvious reasons, became nagging, *****y, less sexual etc. So I ended it.

Maybe we were at a point, and her at an age (31) where she is looking for some level of verbal and physical report to take it further. I don't know?

Has anyone ever heard these reasons from a woman for losing interest?

Always keen to learn

 

[ZTIME]

Just wanted to state an apology to any replies to my last thread that suggested I move on from my gf. Our relationship didn't quite work out as some suggested but it ended none the less. Gone ghost. It really is difficult to let go when you love her, but my mindset is changing for the better.

Interesting point though.. On returning from a weekend away, I could feel the cold shoulder. She basically began a ljbf talk over dinner, but her initial reasoning was that she felt me to be too 'cool', 'selfish', 'nonchalant' in the relationship she said I was never open enough with her. I never told her how beautiful she was, what I loved about her. I kept these things to a minimum on purpose.. Surely they are AFC behaviours? So, inevitably, as I was in love I f***** up, by opening too much until I became everything I wanted to avoid, and her interest declined for then obvious reasons, became nagging, *****y, less sexual etc. So I ended it.

Maybe we were at a point, and her at an age (31) where she is looking for some level of verbal and physical report to take it further. I don't know?

Has anyone ever heard these reasons from a woman for losing interest?

Always keen to learn

I've personally heard everything you have listed and more! Funny thing is my guess would be that if you didn't end it, she would have. She had probably been thinking about it for a while.

When a woman starts saying all of these things, she's ready to bail and now needs you to take the blame. Notice how all that's wrong in the relationship is all your fault. (according to her).

Don't know how long the whole thing lasted, but at some point she seems to have lost interest. Maybe some other dude???

 

[Flex Luther]

Ha yeah it's a good point you raise mate!
As for another guy, quite possible, she is definitely capable. Lasted around 10 months all in all, bf/gf for 4.
Thanks for your input man!