How easy is it to catch genital herpes? Will a condom offer much protection? Frankly, I'm pretty confident about a condom's ability to protect against HIV, and the other main nasty STDs out there. But Herpes, I've heard all you have to do is come in contact with the skin of the infected person and now you've got it for life. You can't be stroking away between a girl's legs and not have you skin touch hers down there. Condoms wouldn't do crap in that case. That scares the sh*t out of me. I'm herpes(oral and genital) free, and don't want to have that crap for life. How do you avoid it?
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
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Avoid it by taking a blood sample from her on your first date.
perform some lab tests on it, maybe some PCR to search for herpes virus dna
if its positive, forget about it
if it's negative, hit it on your second date
may take a few days. its good though shows ur not desperate for 2nd date
perform some lab tests on it, maybe some PCR to search for herpes virus dna
if its positive, forget about it
if it's negative, hit it on your second date
may take a few days. its good though shows ur not desperate for 2nd date
roflDesert Fox said:Avoid it by taking a blood sample from her on your first date.
perform some lab tests on it, maybe some PCR to search for herpes virus dna
if its positive, forget about it
if it's negative, hit it on your second date
may take a few days. its good though shows ur not desperate for 2nd date
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Only someone who's never had sex would ask that question. Once you have sex, its definately worth the risk. The only way to avoid it is to live like a monk, not reality, its just one of those things that you have to accept that you have a 20% chance of getting no matter what. But don't waste your valuable energy worrying about it cuz its not going to get you anywhere.Maxwell said:
If you have had sex with more than five women, chances are you have rolled the dice at least once. My number is higher than that, so I have most deifinitely been in contact with a female who has it, but I'm clean, and I'm not gonna sweat it and let it ruin my life.
I actually had a "scare" awhile back. After I fukked a chick who rode me REAL hard, a few days later I got what looked to me like a bunch of infected hairs. Went to doc to have it checked just to make sure, but came back negative. I must have gotten some infected hair follicles since she was grinding on me so hard.
I was pretty relieved, but even if the tests came back positive it isn't the end of the world. Don't let fear rule your life.
I actually had a "scare" awhile back. After I fukked a chick who rode me REAL hard, a few days later I got what looked to me like a bunch of infected hairs. Went to doc to have it checked just to make sure, but came back negative. I must have gotten some infected hair follicles since she was grinding on me so hard.
I was pretty relieved, but even if the tests came back positive it isn't the end of the world. Don't let fear rule your life.
This needs to be taught in schools, lol.Desert Fox said:Avoid it by taking a blood sample from her on your first date.
perform some lab tests on it, maybe some PCR to search for herpes virus dna
if its positive, forget about it
if it's negative, hit it on your second date
may take a few days. its good though shows ur not desperate for 2nd date
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Desert Fox said:Avoid it by taking a blood sample from her on your first date.
perform some lab tests on it, maybe some PCR to search for herpes virus dna
if its positive, forget about it
if it's negative, hit it on your second date
may take a few days. its good though shows ur not desperate for 2nd date
Awesome.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Is it true that a girl who's had a coldsore can transfer the oral herpes virus to your d!ck when she blows you?
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Same here, neg also. Just a bony ass causing some ingrown hairs but ditto on that not the end of the world, from my understanding for most people with normal immune systems it's just not much of an issue, like someone said, essentially a cold sore once in a while.STR8UP said:
Oral herpes and gential herpes are two different viruses. I don't think you can get gental herpes by getting a blow by a girl with oral herpes. I could be wrong though. I'd ask an expert.cant think of a user name said:
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
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CDC says yes, different viruses, and no, you can get either in either place, either one can infect any mucous membrane.speakeasy said:
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one and two are the same virus, just different strains, which means 1 is less severe than 2... and you can spread either strain to either place. (( just like i did))speakeasy said:
heck, you can spread them to your eye if you aren't careful. (thats called ocular herpes)
How easy is it to get herpes if the girl has no visible outbreak signs? We've all just made out with some random chic we met at a club or party I'm sure and then never saw again. I wonder how risky that is. And if she has genital herpes in her bloodstream, will kissing you pass that into your body?
RE: Herpes
sorry but you can get herpes even using a condom.. a cold sore on the mouth can give you herpes on your **** or in your mouth or even your eyes and herpes on the genitals can give you a cold sore on the mouth (which is herpes) or eye herpes - just touch an open herpes or cold sore and you can spread it to other places. Sorry for the bad news - you may want to become a monk and I don't think a condom is gonna save you from HIV either if you perform oral sex and you have an open cut in your mouth or an open cut on a finger and do a dirty deed- you could also contract HIV I believe... learned this through Nursing pr ogram from VA years ago.
sorry but you can get herpes even using a condom.. a cold sore on the mouth can give you herpes on your **** or in your mouth or even your eyes and herpes on the genitals can give you a cold sore on the mouth (which is herpes) or eye herpes - just touch an open herpes or cold sore and you can spread it to other places. Sorry for the bad news - you may want to become a monk and I don't think a condom is gonna save you from HIV either if you perform oral sex and you have an open cut in your mouth or an open cut on a finger and do a dirty deed- you could also contract HIV I believe... learned this through Nursing pr
ogram from VA years ago.Condoms are effective against the herpes virus because it cannot pass through latex. You are at practically 100% risk of getting herpes when you make skin contact with outbreaks. That's how the virus spreads itself.blue08 said:sorry but you can get herpes even using a condom.. a cold sore on the mouth can give you herpes on your **** or in your mouth or even your eyes and herpes on the genitals can give you a cold sore on the mouth (which is herpes) or eye herpes - just touch an open herpes or cold sore and you can spread it to other places. Sorry for the bad news - you may want to become a monk and I don't think a condom is gonna save you from HIV either if you perform oral sex and you have an open cut in your mouth or an open cut on a finger and do a dirty deed- you could also contract HIV I believe... learned this through Nursing pr
HIV spreads through direct blood contact. Like through tiny cuts.
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.