general progress and proceeding with top plate

[dosquito]

Hey there folks,

all is going well for me. Have not busted a nut with any girls in over 6 months, due to a variety of reasons. I did make out with a girl about a month ago and I went on a few dates. I'm more interested in a LTR so i go after (for the most part) high quality, never trashy girls. This last term at school I made a lot of progress on my inner game and now feel much more comfortable with myself. When I get back to school there are about a dozen girls that i've promised a date, so i'll have to do some narrowing down lol...

#1 plate right now? funny story.

she "liked" a comment of mine in a shared facebook page. i clicked her profile and saw that she's really beautiful and sent her a message. made sure to demonstrate indifference (basically was like "I see you're a few years younger so I can see if this might be weird, but you're really beautiful. I thought you should know that, at least.") She said "im willing to move beyond at least..." and we've had a very natural progression in our conversations since. however I am weary to communicate so much online before actually meeting the person. But this seems to be going well.

It seems that nothing can harm as you as long as you're indifferent. a lot of the time we are afraid of being socially shamed, but as long as you phrase yourself as a totally indifferent, noncommital, genuine compliment no one is going to socially shame you for that. worst case you feed that girl's ego and make her feel better about herself.

I've now had a few conversations with her or break with high interest levels. And more importantly, she seems like a good match for me LTR. She still maintains close relationships with her family (in particular her mother), very smart, sweet, gorgeous, etc.

The thing that I'm concerned about is how to swing this. I am 3 years older and she is a freshman at the same university. It could be perceived that I am taking advantage of her relative immaturity somehow. I need to make it clear somehow that I am indifferent about the situation (can spin other plates) but at the same time receptive to her affection...aka taking things slow. I want her to be sure that its her decision to be with me. I'm not sure how much I should actually factor this into my strategy, or if she will somehow respect me less for not just trying to screw her as soon as possible like any other girl? I don't want to put her on a pedestal but I also want her to know that Im willing to offer a lot. I need some balance here.


takeaway points:
1) as ive said lately, work on appearance
2) indifference should come naturally. attitude: **** i already got enough females to worry about!
3) confidence is just putting yourself out there. attraction is either there or it isnt 99% of the time
4) knowing how quickly to (sexually) escalate is crucial
5) social proof. always social proof.
6) what turns on a sloot could scare a good girl away

 

[YAboi]

you are not taking advantage by being 3 yrs above especially in college. It should be your decision to be with her. You are the man in the relationship.

 

[Dgwizdal]

...demonstrate indifference (basically was like "I see you're a few years younger so I can see if this might be weird, but you're really beautiful. I thought you should know that, at least.")

How is that indifference? You complimented her right off the bat and then you DLV by admitting what you're doing is weird.

You've never met her and she's your top plate?

Not trying to be a hater but come the f*ck on bro, you are far from actually being indifferent and have this p*ssy on a pedestal before you've even met or banged her. Have you learned anything here?

Seems to me you are trying to beat around the bush here with this chick by remaining/appearing "indifferent" when all you are going to do is come off as unconfident. You've got to b*ng this chick before you worry about anything else PERIOD (let alone dating her.) If she likes you and thinks you're the sh*t - she's going to want you to f*ck her whether she's a sloot or not. Taking it slow is going to make you look like a phaggot.

So, at this point in time, remember that you've got other chicks lined up so if this one falls through you could care less, and invite the b*tch out for a drink via playful, ****y, banter. You already have rapport built, hence why you know about her family and all this crap which makes you think SHE is suitable for YOU (Remember YOU are the prize), but now you are backsliding ALREADY before you have any attraction built up with her.

Say something along the lines of "Going to be dancing on tables tonight at XXX bar, come take a shot with me if you're down to cause some trouble." and then when she agrees or gets there, bust her balls for being a bad influence for pouring shots down your throat all night bc you have an exam the next morning.

You don't have to phrase it like I did if you or she don't fit the frame but you should be a fun, dangerous, ball-busting, confident guy anyway who doesn't give a f*ck and you should have come off like that from the BEGINNING. Once you have even the slightest amount of attraction from her, take that sh*t and run with it. Frame her as the pursuer, the chaser, the one who is instigating, and the one who is a jerk. Tease her relentlessly. This sh*t is gina tingling crack for chicks.

And the best part is it doesn't even have to make sense! Often times, when I want to amplify interest or create a hamster spin - (a bit hard to explain/advanced) I will do something or act a certain way and then when she mirrors/or addresses it - blame her for it. For example: Act Super hot and then Super cold back and forth for a while (30-45 minutes) spinning her in circles until she goes "ugh!" out of hamster spinning gina tingling frustration - immediately blame her for being "hard to figure out" with a sh*t eating smirk and piercing eyes and she'll freakin melt - "ME?!?!" and then laugh in her face with confidence cause you know what you're doing.

Another example: Turn up your a**hole game and clever comments and then blame her for being a smart*ass. Rush her around the place and then tell her to stop being so pushy. Kiss her and then tell her "It's gana be 20 bucks; im not that easy"

MIND BLOWN. GINA WET. GIRLS LOVE WHEN YOU'RE SO INDIFFERENT/CONFIDENT; THAT YOU ARE ACTUALLY F*CKING WITH THEM. AMUSED MASTERY/NO F*CKS GIVEN = ATTRACTION ON LEVEL 10.

Sorry, got off on a bit of a rant here due to your inexperience but I'm here to help buddy


Women want a wild animal they can TRY to tame. Be that f*cking guy, stop trying to do everything right, have some fun, and f*ck this broad in the bathroom of that bar.

 

[dosquito]

Im convinced that lots of you are just into / have no other choice but to be with low quality women. Personally Im trying to find a girl I can respect and be in a relationship with. It's funny how some of you think that somehow makes me less of a man and have this absurd caricature of women.

Some of you really need to get out into real life and socialize with normal people. You'll realize how absurd the average mindset on sosuave is. My #1 advice for people on this website is to go out into reality and try things so you can learn from your own experience.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Da Fuq?

Im convinced that lots of you are just into / have no other choice but to be with low quality women. Personally Im trying to find a girl I can respect and be in a relationship with. It's funny how some of you think that somehow makes me less of a man and have this absurd caricature of women.

Some of you really need to get out into real life and socialize with normal people. You'll realize how absurd the average mindset on sosuave is. My #1 advice for people on this website is to go out into reality and try things so you can learn from your own experience.

Great response - glad i wasted my time trying to help you out.

? Dude you came here asking for advice on your "top plate," who you have met online and are afraid to ask out (LMAO) AFTER a 6th month dry spell.

Please define NORMAL people kid... I live in downtown Chicago after being a frat guy at a Big Ten University and pull all different types of women. I constantly bang 2-5 chicks at all times. I have a huge white collar social circle. All women are attracted to the same basic instinctual triggers for you to f*ck them: high/low/no quality - all the same. And then from there it is a matter of a woman's compatibility/Congruence to YOU. You think that from meeting your dream girl online you're able to tell that she's good for you or "HIGH VALUE?" Da F*CK is she supposed to say? "I hate my family, i have no friends, and no value" lol.

Who here is knocking you for wanting to be in a relationship? You don't even know/seen/or have banged this chick before and you're trying to make her your girlfriend? Good luck with your "indifference."

Maybe f*cking her in the bathroom was a little strong but it's only to prove a point. Loosen up, be a bad*ss, and all women will gravitate for you to do the choosing. Don't be a pedestalizing phaggot.


IF SHE IS HIGHLY QUALITY - THAN SHE IS USED TO HAVING GUYS BE POLITE, SWEET, GENTLE, ATTENTIVE, TAKING IT SLOW, AND SHES F*CKING SICK OF IT.


Piss me off that i typed that sh*t up to help you out and i get the winey, AFC, white-knighting, response from some kid that clearly has no game whatsoever.

 

[trent_afc]

Piss me off that i typed that sh*t up to help you out and i get the winey, AFC, white-knighting, response from some kid that clearly has no game whatsoever.

FWIW, your post helped me, and other lurkers like me. So, thanks!

 

[Dgwizdal]

FWIW, your post helped me, and other lurkers like me. So, thanks!

Thanks brah that what it's about!