Geeky HB "study buddy" coming to my pad, suggestions?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

sighsigh

Don Juan

Oct 10, 2012

Just get a pizza delivered. You want her to be in a good mood when you make your move and that's going to be more likely if she's eaten delicious pizza and not your crummy frozen burgers.

Escalate the kino and show your desire through eye contact. If all the IOIs seem there then definitely go in for the kiss. Do it in a confident manner: like you KNOW she wants it and is definitely going to reciprocate. Don't do it cautiously. Dante1a had a good post.

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.