Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I thought it was very funny. 'tips for gaining brownie points with me' LOL! She has a nice sense of humor though, I'll give her that.ksoileau said:Now I've seen everything! This UG geek has posted an instruction manual on how to court her! LOL Apparently there is a horde of AFC geeks that fawn all over her, and it's gone to her unwashed head...
http://sacha.free.net.ph/notebook/wiki/OnLove.php#sec1
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It is sad. I liked it so much better when the term geek was an insult and strictly a negative label. Now, sadly, geekiness has become like a trendy fashion statement. This UG is a poseur. As a matter of fact, just about all girl-geeks, geekettes, or whatever they want to call themselves are self styled, not negatively labelled. Even the nice ones (and I know a couple) but they are certainly poseurs if they shamelessly promote themselves online like this. This chick is just one of many (like this one) who jumped on the fraudulent "geek is chic!" bandwagon once they found out they can get attention from lonely AFC sycophants, many of whom don't qualify as true geeks themselves. If they did qualify, they'd be too busy cracking code, doing science experiments, or true geeky stuff and wouldn't give these idiot girls the time of day.ksoileau said:The thing about this that caught my eye is that only in today's AFC world would an UG geekette like her dare to post a public list of demands for any guy who wants to chase her. This chick, aside from having a good intellect, is an UG with greasy hair and a disrespectful attiude toward men. Aparently the only reason she gets away with her attitude is that enough pathetic AFC's are willing to treat her like a supermodel. This is just wrong...
I agree somewhat with what you're saying. I'm annoyed with the "geek is chic" movement, but I don't want to go back to the days of negative labels. Labels like that, which demean a certain type of person just for what they are and what they are interested in doing doesn't help anyone. Maybe I'm an AFC, but as long as a so called "geek" isn't hurting me in anyway, I could care less. Let the geeks romp in their silicone fields.Yotsuya-san said:It is sad. I liked it so much better when the term geek was an insult and strictly a negative label. Now, sadly, geekiness has become like a trendy fashion statement. This UG is a poseur. As a matter of fact, just about all girl-geeks, geekettes, or whatever they want to call themselves are self styled, not negatively labelled. Even the nice ones (and I know a couple) but they are certainly poseurs if they shamelessly promote themselves online like this. This chick is just one of many (like this one) who jumped on the fraudulent "geek is chic!" bandwagon once they found out they can get attention from lonely AFC sycophants, many of whom don't qualify as true geeks themselves. If they did qualify, they'd be too busy cracking code, doing science experiments, or true geeky stuff and wouldn't give these idiot girls the time of day.
Though you are right, negative labels should be avoided. However, back in the day when the terms geek and nerd were thus, there was no danger of trendy poseurs intruding and bastardizing anything just so they can be part of the scene. In truth, we (that is ME and others like me) never styled ourselves geeks. We simply knew that, smart as we were, we just didn't fit in with normal folks (yuppies, townies, ect). Back then, as you may recall, there really was no "geek subculture". There were, however, various subcultures that catered to the interests of people that happen to fit the geek profile (Star Trek and other Sci-Fi for example), interests that you could count on being made fun of. It's not so much about preferring labels, it's just that the ones who are stealing this label (and the image to go with it) for themselves don't know or care about the history behind the terms.snbatman said:I agree somewhat with what you're saying. I'm annoyed with the "geek is chic" movement, but I don't want to go back to the days of negative labels. Labels like that, which demean a certain type of person just for what they are and what they are interested in doing doesn't help anyone. Maybe I'm an AFC, but as long as a so called "geek" isn't hurting me in anyway, I could care less. Let the geeks romp in their silicone fields.
Where can we find pictures of the girl referenced by the OP?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.