MasterPlayer
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Gav's Guide to Motivation (includes help with studying)
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
fender2007
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wow very good post.alot of good info thanks.
Jizamurai
Don Juan
THIS is why i think this site is so valuable.... it isnt just about seduction techniques....
In order to become more succesful with women, your best bet is to become a BETTER MAN OVERALL!!! ....not that this hasnt been said many times already, but this post made it even clearer.
In order to become more succesful with women, your best bet is to become a BETTER MAN OVERALL!!! ....not that this hasnt been said many times already, but this post made it even clearer.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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And, I love this post, and the material contained with-in it.
I understand how the memory improvment linking-thing works, from reading some other memory improving material, basically the rule is you can learn and remember anything easily and forever - if you connect it to something already known.
Whole brain learning I think is what you are talking about teh GENIUS-LIKE
use of brain. Music, is VERY good for this, as its tapping into both brain hemispheres at the same time, I do a lot of poetry and freestyling, songwriting and such, and have done it seriously at least since 14, 20 now.. and I notice over manyu people I have a huge advantage.. my brain just works better, draws conclusions quicker.. more accurate.. and the more you use that day dreaming visualization technique the more real the visualization becomes, till it almost seems tangible.
I agree completely with u Jizamuraim, thats why I love this site too..
And, I love this post, and the material contained with-in it.
I understand how the memory improvment linking-thing works, from reading some other memory improving material, basically the rule is you can learn and remember anything easily and forever - if you connect it to something already known.
Whole brain learning I think is what you are talking about teh GENIUS-LIKE
use of brain. Music, is VERY good for this, as its tapping into both brain hemispheres at the same time, I do a lot of poetry and freestyling, songwriting and such, and have done it seriously at least since 14, 20 now.. and I notice over manyu people I have a huge advantage.. my brain just works better, draws conclusions quicker.. more accurate.. and the more you use that day dreaming visualization technique the more real the visualization becomes, till it almost seems tangible.
I agree completely with u Jizamuraim, thats why I love this site too..
Roz
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thanx for the info. very helpful!
Thanx for sharing!
Thanx for sharing!
NoNickname
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I think this post is absolutely spot on.
Last year, I was only playing computer games at school, and my grades were poor. When I was at home, I was really lazy, sleeping for an hour or two, waking up, feeling terrible (you know that feeling after you've woken up having slept when you weren't suppose to) and consequently not having the will and energy to do anything. I wasn't working out, and I didn't go to as many soccer practices.
This year, I'm never playing computer games at school, and my grades are much better. I never sleep when I'm not suppose to. I work out three times a week, and I go to soccer practice three times a week. I'm much more busy, but the fact that I get less time for various things, only makes me do these various things more effectively. So, I get a lot more stuff done.
The only thing I haven't improved during the last year, is my social life. I've become "better", but I'm not hanging out with friends enough.
To sum that up: Do stuff!:rockon:
Last year, I was only playing computer games at school, and my grades were poor. When I was at home, I was really lazy, sleeping for an hour or two, waking up, feeling terrible (you know that feeling after you've woken up having slept when you weren't suppose to) and consequently not having the will and energy to do anything. I wasn't working out, and I didn't go to as many soccer practices.
This year, I'm never playing computer games at school, and my grades are much better. I never sleep when I'm not suppose to. I work out three times a week, and I go to soccer practice three times a week. I'm much more busy, but the fact that I get less time for various things, only makes me do these various things more effectively. So, I get a lot more stuff done.
The only thing I haven't improved during the last year, is my social life. I've become "better", but I'm not hanging out with friends enough.
To sum that up: Do stuff!:rockon:
AlphaChump
Don Juan
Someone should write a post motivating me to read this monster post. :crackup:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bump/Update
It has been a while since I wrote this post and it is long overdue an update.
My life has completely turned around in the past two years. I am a whole new person. Fingers noted that every seven years our bodies end up with a completely new set of cells. This is what I feel has happened to me.
Where I am Now
Because of my third year exam results I am now one year short of a first class law degree from the best uni in the country, coupled with personal skills that are going to land me a traineeship with the best law firm in country.
How has this happened?
Was it due to putting my long speech into practice? To some extent yes. As long as you have some sort of understanding and feeling of the pain of being second best, of settling for Bs when As are possible etc. In fact, I actually tell people this regularly. I read somewhere that if you tell people you're going to aim for something, you are more likely to achieve it; this has been true in my experience as it puts more pressure on you.
To get to the point, there are several things which you should always bear in mind, even if not in the context of your studies:
1. Aim for As! Simple as that; even in your subconscious mind you know that there is a way to get the best out of yourself e.g. going to the library at least 6 hours every day until an exam and making that time count.
2. Mind mapping is the way to go. Most people will have heard that they are the best way to study, but few actually use them or indeed use them effectively. I will explain how to use them to full effect below.
3. Get a passion (or at least find it); something that makes your body and mind fire up with energy. For me it is listening to hardcore dance music. Quite ironic that I'm such a big fan considering that most supporters are neds (non-educated delinquents). In fact I listened to this and got myself pumped up before each of last years exams. Furthermore, I do not work out without listening to it on my ipod.
4. "Shut the **** up and get on with it." Stop over-thinking things. To some extent even the 3 second rule isn't good because you have to think about counting from 3 in the first place. If you need to do something, take some responsibility and be a man about it.
That's all I'm saying. To be honest, I don't think I needed to have mentioned as much as I did in my original post for this thread; I actually think it encourages further over-thinking.
Oh and masturbation is good in moderation. So is anal
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Mindmaps
Credit to Tony Buzan for the invention. However, this is my experience of them and not his.
The Concept
Get some blank paper. Put a central idea in the middle. Expand lines ******d which lead to further ideas. Expand those ideas with further lines to create more ideas; again further from the centre. Now you have a mindmap.
Why Do They Work?
The whole idea, which I never really understood until last year, is that your brain does not operate in a linear fashion (e.g. having a nice big fvcking list of things to remember; a commonality in lecture notes); instead, it works in a non-linear/planar way - like a GPS satellite locating something.
As such, when trying to remember bits of information spread across a mind map, your brain can remember the exact position of the information (assisted by the lines you have drawn from the centre) and everything else around it. It is hard to explain in words, but after trying it out and trying to reproduce an entire mindmap from memory, you can see the principle behind it.
A further feature is it provides a very complex yet comprehensive structure. You can see where ideas fit in the big picture.
How I've Used Them
For each exam in my last set of exams I used on average 20 mindmaps on A3 paper, (in the smallest writing, spanning the entire page, with different highlight colours for different levels).
For each lecture I attended last year I started off with a blank sheet of A4 and put the lecture heading in the middle of the page and worked from there (not all that tricky when you have a lecture structure to assist you). You get some funny looks now and then, but these are from the people who are only making it harder for themselves when it comes to remembering everything they're writing down in linear lists and paragraphs.
I think someone asked on here how to remember very technical things for e.g. medicine exams. This is what you need. Law exams (or history, sociology etc) are no different as they require technical expressions (I did forensic medicine in second year actually using maps and it worked out great);(maths, engineering etc may seem like a totally different world, but at the end of the day, there are still ideas and ideas within those ideas; think about it).
Forget what I was saying about attaching numbers and pictures to ideas (i said it somewhere in an earlier reply). This is all very well for memorising decks of cards or shopping lists; but when it comes to remembering and understanding complex ideas, mindmaps are the way to go.
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Ok, all the best everyone and have a good 2006-2007.
Gav
It has been a while since I wrote this post and it is long overdue an update.
My life has completely turned around in the past two years. I am a whole new person. Fingers noted that every seven years our bodies end up with a completely new set of cells. This is what I feel has happened to me.
Where I am Now
Because of my third year exam results I am now one year short of a first class law degree from the best uni in the country, coupled with personal skills that are going to land me a traineeship with the best law firm in country.
How has this happened?
Was it due to putting my long speech into practice? To some extent yes. As long as you have some sort of understanding and feeling of the pain of being second best, of settling for Bs when As are possible etc. In fact, I actually tell people this regularly. I read somewhere that if you tell people you're going to aim for something, you are more likely to achieve it; this has been true in my experience as it puts more pressure on you.
To get to the point, there are several things which you should always bear in mind, even if not in the context of your studies:
1. Aim for As! Simple as that; even in your subconscious mind you know that there is a way to get the best out of yourself e.g. going to the library at least 6 hours every day until an exam and making that time count.
2. Mind mapping is the way to go. Most people will have heard that they are the best way to study, but few actually use them or indeed use them effectively. I will explain how to use them to full effect below.
3. Get a passion (or at least find it); something that makes your body and mind fire up with energy. For me it is listening to hardcore dance music. Quite ironic that I'm such a big fan considering that most supporters are neds (non-educated delinquents). In fact I listened to this and got myself pumped up before each of last years exams. Furthermore, I do not work out without listening to it on my ipod.
4. "Shut the **** up and get on with it." Stop over-thinking things. To some extent even the 3 second rule isn't good because you have to think about counting from 3 in the first place. If you need to do something, take some responsibility and be a man about it.
That's all I'm saying. To be honest, I don't think I needed to have mentioned as much as I did in my original post for this thread; I actually think it encourages further over-thinking.
Oh and masturbation is good in moderation. So is anal
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Mindmaps
Credit to Tony Buzan for the invention. However, this is my experience of them and not his.
The Concept
Get some blank paper. Put a central idea in the middle. Expand lines ******d which lead to further ideas. Expand those ideas with further lines to create more ideas; again further from the centre. Now you have a mindmap.
Why Do They Work?
The whole idea, which I never really understood until last year, is that your brain does not operate in a linear fashion (e.g. having a nice big fvcking list of things to remember; a commonality in lecture notes); instead, it works in a non-linear/planar way - like a GPS satellite locating something.
As such, when trying to remember bits of information spread across a mind map, your brain can remember the exact position of the information (assisted by the lines you have drawn from the centre) and everything else around it. It is hard to explain in words, but after trying it out and trying to reproduce an entire mindmap from memory, you can see the principle behind it.
A further feature is it provides a very complex yet comprehensive structure. You can see where ideas fit in the big picture.
How I've Used Them
For each exam in my last set of exams I used on average 20 mindmaps on A3 paper, (in the smallest writing, spanning the entire page, with different highlight colours for different levels).
For each lecture I attended last year I started off with a blank sheet of A4 and put the lecture heading in the middle of the page and worked from there (not all that tricky when you have a lecture structure to assist you). You get some funny looks now and then, but these are from the people who are only making it harder for themselves when it comes to remembering everything they're writing down in linear lists and paragraphs.
I think someone asked on here how to remember very technical things for e.g. medicine exams. This is what you need. Law exams (or history, sociology etc) are no different as they require technical expressions (I did forensic medicine in second year actually using maps and it worked out great);(maths, engineering etc may seem like a totally different world, but at the end of the day, there are still ideas and ideas within those ideas; think about it).
Forget what I was saying about attaching numbers and pictures to ideas (i said it somewhere in an earlier reply). This is all very well for memorising decks of cards or shopping lists; but when it comes to remembering and understanding complex ideas, mindmaps are the way to go.
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Ok, all the best everyone and have a good 2006-2007.
Gav
Good advice and everything.
I'll admit I never read it all through but like skimmed.
But isn't by seriously studying hard all the time over-thinking things?
It kinda sounds like a nerdy thing to do, and nerds don't have the greatest lives.
lol I know it's sort of hypercritical since we both actually read seduction material.
What your basically saying though is the paradox of hedonism, seeking happiness will always make you not happy because your always focused on the fact your trying to get it. But seeking things like indirectly from happiness like knowledge will. That's why nerds still have way better lives then drug addicts.
I'll admit I never read it all through but like skimmed.
But isn't by seriously studying hard all the time over-thinking things?
It kinda sounds like a nerdy thing to do, and nerds don't have the greatest lives.
lol I know it's sort of hypercritical since we both actually read seduction material.
What your basically saying though is the paradox of hedonism, seeking happiness will always make you not happy because your always focused on the fact your trying to get it. But seeking things like indirectly from happiness like knowledge will. That's why nerds still have way better lives then drug addicts.
I'm talking about studying substantive materials. And it is not "nerdy"; it's all about where you're going in life (and getting a good degree is a good route to take; even though nowadays the more practical approach to work is becoming common).Bvbidd said:
And I haven't been on this site or any others for over a year now; I just don't have the need to spend time reading and rereading the same stuff (as good as it was originally).
i <3 long term pleasure
and im also trying to stop masterbating
IT IS SO HARD lol after awile u get into the "all girls are super hot" phase in which u get horny RELE ez lol
but then at the end of the day u say to urself "wow i resisted temptation today" u feel rele good about urself.. its the same feeling u get after u beat someone really good at something.. the person ur beating in this is ur penis lol (wow.. that sounds weird)
and im also trying to stop masterbating
IT IS SO HARD lol after awile u get into the "all girls are super hot" phase in which u get horny RELE ez lol
but then at the end of the day u say to urself "wow i resisted temptation today" u feel rele good about urself.. its the same feeling u get after u beat someone really good at something.. the person ur beating in this is ur penis lol (wow.. that sounds weird)
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
rsxtreme
Don Juan
nice tips
I have an exam in exactly one week! And, for a moment i actually thought i was fooked since i havent revised for it what so ever. But, from the moment i finished reading this divine post, I realised, I CAN prevent myself from becoming an absolute loser, half wit, lazy retard with no qualifications, living off my parents like a depressed parasite, chuggin' beer for the rest of my life. AND I WILL GET INTO UNIVERSITY! Gav, I'm in dept to you.. Thanks dude.
P.S. Being physically fit does actually help motivate you. I have been training for around 6months and have seen huges changes in my physique (train 4 a 6pac, ladies love it), and this has given me a confidence boost helping me in many areas of my life.. Mornin' run aint gonna kill ya!
P.S. Being physically fit does actually help motivate you. I have been training for around 6months and have seen huges changes in my physique (train 4 a 6pac, ladies love it), and this has given me a confidence boost helping me in many areas of my life.. Mornin' run aint gonna kill ya!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.