Alright, so this girl who I met last week and I have been talking, flirting a lot, I came over to see her in her room but her roommate was there or else I'm 95% sure we would have been making out at least. That was on tuesday, I told her we should hang out on friday. We were txt messaging each other back and forth since then, she told me got off of work at 11 on thursday night. I called her at 11:30, she didn't answer her phone.. but it was on, so she got the missed call. I don't leave a message, don't talk to her on Friday, and have made no contact with her since. She hasn't attempted to contact me either. Should I hold out cuz she never returned that call or just call her up?
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Ganji time? Quick girl situation (short)
- Thread starter NoWayOut
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Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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You talked to her way to much. Right now you seem, and probably are very clingy/needy. What you should have done was actually set a date down in stone and thats it...don't talk to her until the date unless she calls you, then just keep it short.
Right now don't call her back, no texting, no IM or MSN chat. In fact delete her phone number and throw it away. She has yours, she'll call if she is interested and curious why you have suddenly stopped calling her.
For now go after other women, and learn to not sweat these ladies so much. By the way its not a sin to miss a message or call here or there. A little mystery and challenge can certainly help spark some interest.
-Grey Fox
Right now don't call her back, no texting, no IM or MSN chat. In fact delete her phone number and throw it away. She has yours, she'll call if she is interested and curious why you have suddenly stopped calling her.
For now go after other women, and learn to not sweat these ladies so much. By the way its not a sin to miss a message or call here or there. A little mystery and challenge can certainly help spark some interest.
-Grey Fox
..yeah, I guess you could be right.. I was just trying to build up rapport with her cuz we really didn't know each other..
i guess i'll just forget about her like you said.
i'm at college and i thought it would be a lot easier to meet girls and hook up out here.. its really not.. i've hooked up with girls but only for one night at a time in every case, and no sex..
i'm actually not a clingy guy, before about a month ago i would have ignored her text messages, but lately i was getting heat from guys saying that i'm too much a **** to girls, etc. and that i should be nicer. also the loneliness factor doesn't help..
i dunno, college just isn't what i thought it was going to be and i'm a little down because of it lately
i guess i'll just forget about her like you said.
i'm at college and i thought it would be a lot easier to meet girls and hook up out here.. its really not.. i've hooked up with girls but only for one night at a time in every case, and no sex..
i'm actually not a clingy guy, before about a month ago i would have ignored her text messages, but lately i was getting heat from guys saying that i'm too much a **** to girls, etc. and that i should be nicer. also the loneliness factor doesn't help..
i dunno, college just isn't what i thought it was going to be and i'm a little down because of it lately
Self-assurance/confidence can be a double edged sword. To much and you come off like a prick, but you can learn to channel it. Confidence is important, but makes it truely important is when you have confidence is what ever it is you do. You have to be confident enough in yourself that when you are going to be sincere with someone, say like them telling you something personal or important. You are confident enough that you can hear them out and make them feel secure in you. You have to have confidence in yourself when you begin to let someone into your life, its a hell of a thing to say to yourself that you trust someone enough to let them inside.
Also its important in how your confidence comes off. If you are overly showy, loud, and always condisending, you will drive people away from you. The best way to display confidence is in what you do, not what you say. Giving people a chance when you first meet them is important, many people fear strangers. But if you can deal with them and make friends, that says something about you. If you are able to be not just funny but serious when you need to be, that again says something. If someone slights you, its okay to say something back, but if you go out of your way to slight someone needlessly....
Let people see you in good spirits, the true mark of a confident man. Those who are easily shook and wear their fear on their sleeves often look like sheep missing from the flock. Temper your actions and words with fairness, kindness and understanding when they are needed and you will see people begin to look to you, especially the women. Just don't act like a doormat when someone tries to wipe their feet on you and you will do alright.
-Grey Fox
Also its important in how your confidence comes off. If you are overly showy, loud, and always condisending, you will drive people away from you. The best way to display confidence is in what you do, not what you say. Giving people a chance when you first meet them is important, many people fear strangers. But if you can deal with them and make friends, that says something about you. If you are able to be not just funny but serious when you need to be, that again says something. If someone slights you, its okay to say something back, but if you go out of your way to slight someone needlessly....
Let people see you in good spirits, the true mark of a confident man. Those who are easily shook and wear their fear on their sleeves often look like sheep missing from the flock. Temper your actions and words with fairness, kindness and understanding when they are needed and you will see people begin to look to you, especially the women. Just don't act like a doormat when someone tries to wipe their feet on you and you will do alright.
-Grey Fox