ganji games

[seabreeze]

Hey Fellas,

Quick question:

Does the "ganji game" work on men?

Thanks.
Seabreeze

 

[seabreeze]

I guess I should clarify, just in case. I'm talking about the ganji game technique posted in the "Tips Section."

C'mon fellas. Puhleeeaaaze.
SB

 

[MetalFortress]

Doubt it, at least, it wouldn't work with me. If I'm not interested as more than friends and she starts ignoring me all the time, I'm going to stop being interested as friends too.

 

[zerocelcius]

just curious, but why?

 

[seabreeze]

I understand why you might ask that. I have this guy "friend" who keeps declaring one minute that he wants to break up with his girlfriend, and then the next proclaiming his devotion to her, even though he asks me for sexy emails and swears he doesn't love her (he just cares about her a lot). I'm beginning to think that he's either schizophrenic or an attention ***** and I need to figure him out. One minute he's saying he wants to be with me sexually and the next that he doesn't, because of her. I'm just confused and trying to understand a man who thinks like this. We've been "friends" for about two years.

Does this help? Thanks.
SB

 

[zerocelcius]

crystal clear

 

[Omega]

Your a girl, right?

 

[seabreeze]

Yes. My picture is posted in the "Anything Else" section. It's a regular post titled: "pictures of me."

 

[Omega]

Originally posted by seabreeze
Yes. My picture is posted in the "Anything Else" section.

Don't need a picture.

Anyways, to put it bluntly, when a girls intrest starts to drop, I usually start to drop intrest along with it. My motto is:

"if the fish doesnt bite, find another"

(relating to "Theres many fish in the sea")

Men are logical creatures, remember that.

 

[seabreeze]

Thanks R...3,

That's what I suspected. Ho hum....

SB
P.S. And I only mentioned my picture because SOME people here refused to believe that I'm a girl....

 

[seabreeze]

Actually fellas,

Now I feel real bad that I actually posed this question. I guess I'm just too much of a sentimental, emotional girl to actually pull a ganji on some guy. I also sympathize with some of you guys who have had to do this to some females. But, I could just never go through with it....I guess I like my friend too much and value him too much as a human being to just cut him out in order to get what I want. What about what he wants, right? But, I just want to try to understand what he might be feeling without nagging him and asking him why. Any suggestions?

Seabreeze

 

[neoncola]

Originally posted by seabreeze
Actually fellas,

Now I feel real bad that I actually posed this question. I guess I'm just too much of a sentimental, emotional girl to actually pull a ganji on some guy. I also sympathize with some of you guys who have had to do this to some females. But, I could just never go through with it....I guess I like my friend too much and value him too much as a human being to just cut him out in order to get what I want. What about what he wants, right? But, I just want to try to understand what he might be feeling without nagging him and asking him why. Any suggestions?

Seabreeze

Hey Seabreeze, don't be so down.
Ganji probably wouldn't work on a guy from this site.
But generally it does work on males also.

I'm a psychologist and this phenomenon is in no way exclusive for females. They are human tendencies, there are some differences with how men and women go about doing things, but we aren't from different planets.
It can definately work on a guy you've been paying attention to and then withdraw it or you disappear. He has probably become complacent with your attention. If you withdraw it you will suddenly become more desirable.

I've seen girls do similar things to my friends and they've definately wondered what has happened to her. It plays on your insecurities, you start to think they must have realised that you really are not worth it (everyone's deep down fear ).

A guy from this site would probably next you but in no way is this only a female phenomenon. Humans crave attention, approval etc, not just women. If a source of attention and approval is removed from your life, it will be noticed.

You might want to try it, but make sure you stay strong and don't break it and contact him after you've made the decision to do it.

 

[seabreeze]

Thanks Neoncola,

That was a great reply. A psychologist, wow! You sure are an asset to this site.

I guess what you are saying is that it might work, but it depends on how valuable I am to him and that's something I'm just not sure of right now. I think you are also saying that if I do it I must honestly be prepared to possibly never see him again, which means I should not be emotionally attached to him. That's the kicker, I am.

Can you possibly explain to me the psychology behind him always stating that he does not love his girlfriend and that he wants to break up with her, but he never does? (Well, they have broken up twice). He specifically told me that he does not want his relationship with her to progress and that he does not admire her, yet he let's her control him. She seems like a sweet girl to me, which I always say to him when he's talking badly about her. Then, the next time we talk, he starts saying how he wants to salvage his relationship with her. It's like he uses her as an excuse to reject me or something. He also says he wants to remain friends with me. It goes back and forth, back and forth I'm confused.
SB

 

[Bonhomme]

Might work on this guy

You'll just have to try it to find out, if you wish to proceed after reading our advice, Seabreeze.

My main question is whether or not you'll do well to get involved with this guy, period. You might find yourself in her position before too long. You're probably well aware of this.

I think he really doesn't love his GF all that much, or else he would not be doing what he's doing. But he's undoubtedly attracted enough to her not to make a clean break. He probably wants to jump from one ship to the other without getting in the water.

 

[seabreeze]

Thanks for replying Jocksivs. I was opening you would since you seem to be the expert at this. This guy is a tough one, I'm not sure if he's DJ or just incredibly narcissistic. He never initiates contact with me, so I'm afraid if I do ganji i'll never hear from him again.

He confuses me. I'm not sure if he likes me as a person or not. He seems reasonably happy to hear from me, but then if I don't keep the dialogue going, there's nothing. I'm getting burned out.

Man, do I sympathize with some you guys! I'm sort of AFC, aren't I.
SB

 

[seabreeze]

Hey Jocksivs,

I just followed your instructions and read the new posts on the ganji thread. I have to say that you and your cohorts are very well trained in the ganji. I'm impressed. Right now, I'm just trying to soak it all in and make sure I understand your theoretical stance. Oh yes, it's quite deep, though it may seem simplistic on the surface. Just know that you have a follower who will one day master the game.

By the way, I don't have IM, but please feel free to PM me.
Thanks again,
Seabreeze

Edit: P.S. What do you do when you really start to miss them and you really need to have sex?

 

[God_of_getting_layed]

Thanks Neoncola,

That was a great reply. A psychologist, wow! You sure are an asset to this site.

Something tells me that either A) He aint no psychologist. B) he is one, but an incompetant one, or C) an undergrad studying intro to psychology, and now he thinks he can call himself a psychologist just becuase hes taking a class on it.

I would love to scrutinize him on him being a psychologist. Its a real pet peeve of mine for people on this board to claim theyre a psychologist just so they can appear as an authoritive figure to everyone else on this board. It irritates me when people on here claim they know psychology or say they are one when they are not.

I bet he's not, and Id love to quiz him to see what he knows, if he turns out to be one for real, then good for him. what do ya say Neoncola? If you really are one, then you should be eager to step up to my quizing to show off what you know.

 

[neoncola]

Originally posted by God_of_getting_layed
Something tells me that either A) He aint no psychologist. B) he is one, but an incompetant one, or C) an undergrad studying intro to psychology, and now he thinks he can call himself a psychologist just becuase hes taking a class on it.

I would love to scrutinize him on him being a psychologist. Its a real pet peeve of mine for people on this board to claim theyre a psychologist just so they can appear as an authoritive figure to everyone else on this board. It irritates me when people on here claim they know psychology or say they are one when they are not.

I bet he's not, and Id love to quiz him to see what he knows, if he turns out to be one for real, then good for him. what do ya say Neoncola? If you really are one, then you should be eager to step up to my quizing to show off what you know.

It's a real pet peeve of mine that when people find out I am a psychologist (registered) they make assumptions and 'scrutinize' as you feel the need to do.

If I was anything else (lawyer, truck driver, bank manager) no-one would bother to write paragraphs questioning the fact.

I've never said anything in authority of another on this board.

I know what I am and don't have to justify myself to anyone. Least of all you.

 

[seabreeze]

I believe you Neoncola!

Hey ganji guys. There's a new book out that I think might pose a threat to the ganji tactics. It's called "He's Just Not That Into You." This is a book that advises woman to move on quickly when a man is not being attentive to her. It says that if he is not doing XYZ, than he's not into you, just move on quickly. Now, if you are playing the ganji game with a girl, and she reads that book, I think you'd probably lose the game, correct? What do you guys think of this book and it's potential effect on ganji game success?
Seabreeze

 

[neoncola]

Well it all depends what advice the person you are ganjing has been given whether they decide to move on or not. If the girl has read this book then she will probably move on but you wouldn't know what advice they were getting or what they were reading, ah it's all getting too complicated.

Have you read the book seabreeze, what are they XYZ things the guy is supposed to do?