"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ganji games reponses?

drift king

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If you're playing ganji games with a HB and she asks you 'why you haven't been returning her calls' and 'are you angry with me?'

what should your responses be apart from 'sorry.. i've been busy.'?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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if I've decided to start playing ganji games and this HB asks me to meet up with her next week do i have to ignore this attempt until it gets to the point where shes pleaing for me to get back into her life?
 

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Let me get this straight

Gangi games = ignore the girl

Thats gangi games? Do we really need a name for that?

oh bother :rolleyes:
 

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i think its a little more complicated than just that.. more to do with the degree of ignoring her and when to come out of hibernation so to speak and the way to act if you get a lot of the 'why aren't you returning my calls?'

i'd like to know what happens if you play these games but her interest level in someone else exceeds her interest in you.. i mean if she meets someone else doesn't it make the whole ignoring thing pointless unless she gets obsessed with just you and you only and cant think of anyone else..
 

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Mr. Unique said:
Let me get this straight

Gangi games = ignore the girl

Thats gangi games? Do we really need a name for that?

oh bother :rolleyes:

Not quite. Gangi Games = Ignore the girl, hoping that she'll come back. In the process, you develope one-itis for girl you're not dating. It's mainly for guys who are too obsessed with a girl to NEXT her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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at what point do you respond to her?

because if you are unlikely to bump into her at any point she might think something happened to you rather than you're ignoring her.. is it wise to make an appearance during this time where she realises you are ok and not dead and is actually ignoring her?

i dont plan to go back to where i usually see her anymore so any ignoring of her texts/calls may be misinterpreted as something happened to me..

if she sends you a 'are you still alive? / are you ignoring me?' message.. should you respond with 'sorry i been busy.. i'll call you tomorrow.' (but you don't call)?
 

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Here's where Ganji Games go wrong...

The experienced (and natural) Don Juan will NEXT a woman when he is no longer interested in her, or she flakes on him. He will reflect on the good times he had with the woman, but realize that she is no longer worth his time and move on. The woman will dwell on his ability to just forget about her. She doesn't want to be just forgotten! She is more important than nothing! She will eventually begin to take an refound interest in the Don Juan solely because he is truly disinterested in her. When she re-appears, he has the option of dating/fvcking her again if he so desires.

The AFC using Ganji Games: He has dated a woman and she has flaked out on him. He quits calling her, but is expecting her to return because he's ignoring her. He will close off his other options and focus all his energy and emotion on this woman (yes, consciously ignoring a woman requires energy and emotion). He effectively wastes his time with the hope that this woman is coming back. If the woman doesn't come back, he is left confused and frustrated. He then posts on sosuave asking how long it takes for Ganji Games to work.
 

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LOL, that's about it Desinova.

Girlz are natural DJs. They know what you're up to with the pretending to ignore her stuff. Most will just wait it out and direct their attention to other guys.

You truely have to not care. Having other girls chase you in front of her is the deal-breaker. She'll start pursuing you too!

Even if you're chatting up another girl, make it look like the girl is chatting you up when she is around.

How do you not truely not care? Spin plates, get busy with your passions, and just hammer some chic in a bad way once and awhile.

Most of the time, we get in abundence that which we are already getting more than our share of.

On that level, it's really about exposure. The more people you know and are out and about, the more interactions take place.
 

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You're being way too hard on Ganji, Desdinova. You won't necessarily develop oneitis. You explained yourself the way a ganji game should properly be enacted:

The experienced (and natural) Don Juan will NEXT a woman when he is no longer interested in her, or she flakes on him. He will reflect on the good times he had with the woman, but realize that she is no longer worth his time and move on. The woman will dwell on his ability to just forget about her. She doesn't want to be just forgotten!...When she re-appears, he has the option of dating/fvcking her again if he so desires.
If you truly NEXT someone, you don't give them a second chance. Even if they come back, they're out of the picture. Moreover, if you next someone, you don't make a concerted attempt to ignore them because you don't care how they feel about you. You don't want them to miss you.

Ganji games should be approached with a mindset similar to nexting (a moderate degree of indifference toward success/failure). As long as you continue to spin plates and get on with your life, you shouldn't develop oneitis for the ganji girl. And then once her IL is back up (assuming you were successful), then you sweep in all at once and capitalize on her high IL.

If you next a girl, you shouldn't get back with her ever.

All this being said, I haven't had much success with ganji games myself. Imo, if a girl is flaky enough to warrant a ganji game, you're probably best off just nexting her and finding someone better.
 
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