GANJI GAMES!! It actually works?

[The Comeback Kid]

POST #7 HAS UPDATE

I read a post here awhile ago outlining this thing called "Ganji Games" where...you feel a girl is losing her attraction towards you, then you basically cut her off for awhile, and finally she may or may not comes back to you.

I didn't knowingly employ this Ganji Game philosophy with a HB9 that I know, but it may be showing results. Over the summer and at the beginning of the school year, I was keeping in tough with this girl, who I had only met once or twice before, neither of which lasted long at all. She seemed interested in me, as she said she's really looking forward to when we hang out. At the beginning of the school year, she invites me to some poker thing she's hosting, I head over to see her. Well, I wasn't really thrilled afterwards. She was cool and had a good personality, but the environment was more of a "sausage-fest" than anything else (she has 1-2 guy friends there, and they brought their suitemates), and I simply could not be myself - she did not really see the more decisive and confident man I have become.

After this, I wasn't nearly as excited about things as I was before lol. We both had things going on - I inquired about checking out a new bowling alley with her, she had to go to a friend's going-away dinner. Another weekend she had to attend a friend's funeral (When I learned this I told her I hope she's alright, she thought I was sweet :flowers: and that she was having a rough time coping with the whole situation) and in short, I felt I was headed for a LJBF.

At this point, I decided to cut my losses and move on. This was around a month ago. I didn't see her even around campus much during this time. A few weeks ago, I picked up on that we cross paths (among the masses on the sidewalks) two days a week, but I'm heading to class all those times and didn't say anything to her. Last week, I was elsewhere on campus, we crossed paths, she said hey, we talked for a second or so, but I kept moving. Then we get to today...

...I'm walking from one class to another this afternoon. When I have my IPod and my sunglasses on, I'm locked in (or "in the zone," as she said...keep reading). Out of nowhere, a girl waves right in front of me to get my attention, hugs me, and then stops to talk for a couple minutes. It was HB9! I just asked how she's been, etc., we talked for a minute or two, and then I told her I had to go to class, but that it was nice talking to her.

So...what's next? Should I just keep things the way they've been lately - if I see her I say hi, etc., or actually do something that leads to us hanging out (I have her number)? I don't know what generated her sudden enthusiasm today...it could all be a test of hers to see what I do next, it could be her being friendly to a guy who she hasn't really talked to in a month, she may be Ganji-ed, or maybe she just liked the Tone-Loc blasting from my IPod :yes: .

POST #7 HAS UPDATE

 

[Stud No1]

Ask her out bro

Those reasons for non-dates actually sound legit, i think you might have been a ***** and should have followed up with a bit more persistence. This is why i think the "ganji" worked, because the attraction was always there

Ask her out, if she wanks you about again, next.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

Ask her out bro

Those reasons for non-dates actually sound legit, i think you might have been a ***** and should have followed up with a bit more persistence. This is why i think the "ganji" worked, because the attraction was always there

Ask her out, if she wanks you about again, next.

If only it was that easy lol...even though your point is good.

When she said she had the friend's going away dinner, she seemed legit. However, she never ended up going...apparently she had a lot of work to do?? I don't know how legit that sounds (the funeral one of course was real). Regardless, you're right in that a month ago I was a bit of b**** in terms of not being as persistent as possible, and I was a little nervous about asking her out for some reason back then. I would think that if a girl is interested, she will get your attention somehow (although you still need to make the actual move). She is pretty attractive and has some guy friends, so I guess she doesn't need to jump through hoops for one guy quite yet.

Nowadays, I'm more decisive, assertive and confident than I was at the start of the year, so I could give her a call and see what's up...I just don't want to appear desperate. Again, I cannot tell if this is a test, if she's just being friendly, if she has discovered she may be interested...or of course if she just likes the Tone-Loc.

 

[Daydream Engineer]

Ask her out or you might end up on the friends zone really quick. I did gangi game on a girl for 5 months and then she called me and showed high interest, but i waited too long and ended up in the friendzone again. Ask her out as early as possible, don't do an analysis or worry about her too much, remember what Pook said, you are the Great Catch, and as you think you become. Call her and ask her to hangout this weekend, because you want to know how shes been. Just take a chance, and remember to flirt, kino and have fun, you are the Great Catch. :rockon:

 

[Metaphysical]

yes, it will work. but do you really want to base your entire relationship on it? NO.

don't waste your time with Ganji games. get over your obsessesions and 'one-it-is' and move on with your life.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

don't waste your time with Ganji games. get over your obsessesions and 'one-it-is' and move on with your life.

I metioned at the very top of my post that I never was intentionally playing Ganji Games, and there is no way this is a one-itis...I've written about three different girls(spinning plate) in the past few weeks.

As for all the replies in general here, I suppose I can give her a quick call tonight. I have a busy afternoon/evening today and tomorrow I am not around until late at night, but I'll throw an idea her way and see what happens.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

Thanks for the advice guys. I've been more decisive and confident lately, so I decided to put things on the line. I called her today and asked if she wanted to hang out...we will talk briefly tomorrow (wants to confirm the time, I gave her the day and we both know the time range), but she said it SOUNDS GOOD!

I opened up by saying it was nice seeing her the other day b/c it's been a while so that means we should hang out real soon. She agreed, then said she also saw me today, but I was "in the zone" again and didn't see her waving. I used C+F and insisted she must by lying, because I was ready for it today and there was no HB9 in my path. This went on for a minute or two, then I got down to business. She gave me a time range of when she is free on Monday, I told her we're checking out a nearby bowling alley (it's real nice and also offers food, so its a good date spot). Again, she said we will talk tomorrow to get the exact timing down...I'd have done this already, but she apparently had her friend on hold for five minutes and had a class soon after, so that was that.

Here's how I see it: This is good so far, but it's far from a guarantee in my mind. It only becomes a guarantee when we're on the actual "date" itself...too many times I look too far ahead and a day or two before things are supposed to happen, I get a flake call. Any thoughts/advice from any of you guys?