"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gaming Shy Girls

ChrisHughes

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Had a great date with a solid 8 the other night. But she's shy. I brought my a-game but tried to tone it down slightly for the benefit of her perceived "shyness".

IOIs:

She says I'm "not like other guys".
She says I'm very "charming and charismatic".
Body language facing me, mirroring me all night.

She also says something weird; she says I'm so confident that I'm "intimidating" her because she is LSE. Found this bizarre because she was such a little hottie that in a former life I would have been very intimidated by her. I tone it down, try to build comfort.

I cold read her. She says, "you know me so well". In the car when I dropped her home (kiss; but no make out) she says she is really very insecure, and I'm making her feel really shy, and "no boy makes her feel like that".

Two days later, I text her with something funny.

And guess what?

Radio silence.

Yup.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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_sideways_

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Girls can run game too.... If u were Orlando freaking bloom she wouldn't be playing the shy game....don't listen to what she says. Instead, be a man and take the challenge of breaking her out of shyness and introduce her to the real world.....every stripper was shy before....u were shy before, now ur a sexual deviant. Geez....in other words....if u don't, I will....
 

VladPatton

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Radio silence happened to me too after a good night with a shy chick, I was like WTF!?!? Personally, I think shy girls are annoying because of their closed nature. I nexted her. I don't wanna play psychologist to some dumb bıtch who is afraid of dıck! I don't think it's worth it in the end. Confusion = low interest. She'd be very un-shy if Brad Pitt were to say "blow me right now!" Funk that.

Look for a fun girl that'll rock your world.
 

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she says I'm so confident that I'm "intimidating" her because she is LSE. Found this bizarre because she was such a little hottie that in a former life I would have been very intimidated by her.

You could have just replied to her with what you told us. Saying something like that takes confidence. Low self-esteem girls respond well to compliments, and it would have not allowed her to establish the frame of being intimidated. If she thinks you're all strength, show a little weakness; that makes you a lot more interesting. One-dimensional is boring.
 

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Shy girls are great because you will almost defo get a yes even if your not on top of your game. Your right, shes probably losing her mind and thinking of all the reasons why it wouldnt work out just so she can regain some control. I dont think reassuring her how safe your c0ck is over text or outside of a date setting is going to do any good at this point.

Unless she gets in contact I would just ignore. Invite her out to something in like two months (preferably in person if possible) and try again. Dont get your hopes up though!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Shy my ass!

She wouldn't be shy if Channing Tatum asked her out. Enter Judge nismo.

ChrisHughes said:
Had a great date with a solid 8 the other night. But she's shy. I brought my a-game but tried to tone it down slightly for the benefit of her perceived "shyness".

Don't be no weak man catering to the woman's rules. Unless you enjoy staying in Friendzone Hills.

IOIs:

She says I'm "not like other guys".
She says I'm very "charming and charismatic".
Body language facing me, mirroring me all night.

IOI's don't mean sh*t. Read her actions.

She also says something weird; she says I'm so confident that I'm "intimidating" her because she is LSE. Found this bizarre because she was such a little hottie that in a former life I would have been very intimidated by her. I tone it down, try to build comfort.

In actuality, you desexualixed yourself. Bad. Don't be afraid to lose a woman. You need to take risks. Alpha=careless. Beta=careful.

I cold read her. She says, "you know me so well". In the car when I dropped her home (kiss; but no make out) she says she is really very insecure, and I'm making her feel really shy, and "no boy makes her feel like that".

And you're not getting out of the friendzone.

Two days later, I text her with something funny.

And guess what?

Radio silence.

Yup.

Of course your princess is in another castle! Just drop her or if you're still interested, go ghost on her for a month, then contact her. My money is on not interested, though. So go spin more plates!
Read between the lines. Court's orders.

Mixed signals, shyness, and confusion are all NEGATIVE SIGNALS MEANING LOW-NO INTEREST. My ruling? Lost cause and she dumped you in the friendzone.

Case closed.
 
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