"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Thanks for the pointer to Hawaai guys blog the other day .
Here are how things have gone so far,

Not had sex for a while,,So in bed the other night I started jerking off.She starts getting restless then gets out of bed puts the light on and says are you wanking,I say yeah I'm relieving my sexual tension,she starts saying who you thinking of?
I ignore it and just say I'm having sexy thoughts she continues to persist about who ?
I ignore it she goes in the other room to sleep.She comes back in 5 mins later trying to row,I ignore it she goes and sleeps in the other room.

In morning she is getting ready for work I (1st day of new job) I say are you wearing that ,she already has a polo top on,she picks up her thigh length boots out of the wardrobe and says should I go to work in these,I respond well you may actually earn more money if you do.
I ask for a cup of tea in bed,she comes up later with a cup of tea for me we talk,no problems or arguements

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Last night at work she asks me to print some pictures off for her (I'm not sure if this is **** test ??not really sure how to recognise them)
But as shes asking me to do something for her usually I would just do it
I told her this morning when she asked I did'nt have time,no problems.

Today she asked me to phone the washing machine repairman as our machine broke,I said no things got a bit heated usually I would have given in and just gone and picked the phone up and called him,but I said you broke it you phone him.Blocked with coins from not checking the pockets.

Not sure If I'm doing this right or not or I'm being petty by refusing to do certain things and which are actual **** tests and which are not.
But there seems a bit less drama around at the moment and she seems to be hovering around me more instead of me hovering around her..

Any help on recognizing **** tests?appreciated,its a LTR and I can't refuse to everything she asks.

She is asking me to take the family for a meal but I have said lets see how much the washing machine repairs cost.

Thanks for listening,any tips welcome
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A good rule of thumb is to do 2/3 or 3/4 of what she does for you. As an example, you should ask her to do 3 things for every 2 that you do. It's not going to be practical to always keep count in a LTR, so I would do this until you feel things are more solid and you become more comfortable with give and take. The trick is to maintain that attitude after she "comes around". Good luck.
 
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Well done. It sounds like she respects you more now. You have to show her who is boss from time to time. If you don't take that role she's take it and not only will she oder you about she'll also lose her respect and attraction towards you.


She must be wondering whats changed! lol
 
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kingy said:
you keep this up and she will divorce you
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Any advice then.
There seems to be less drama.
Bottle of wine in the garden tonight with a small log fire,lets see how it goes
 
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maybe look at mt fist post help needed that was moved to the general forum
,to see the **** I live through every day,just hoping to deal with her test better.
plus when was sex offered
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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So you're basing this idea off Roissy's blog posts. Good man. I was kind of wondering what row means. You're starting to take charge, starting to be the man in the relationship.

That being said, this is more then just a game. This is wholesale improvement of you. Think of this like a diet. The people that go on diets for a while eventually go back to what they were doing and gain weight back. Effective diets are changes for life. These need to be changes for life.
 
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Some nice advice and encouragement.
Mostly immature guys replying that have obviously got there inner game mastered :eek:
 
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I think you guys may be overthinking this. Retain a male leadership role, sure. But if you give respect and consideration to your wife, she will likely do the same for you, unless she is a total b!tch. In which case it was your bad judgement for marrying her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Things have been a lot different,she has been all over me.I realise the balance of power will always be moving and changing during a marriage but at least I now know what to do to get back on track.
She did call me a jerk...but was later all over me.
So thanks for pointing me to those blogs,I'm gonna be a regular reader of those
 
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