Gaming an EX

[benogan]

I broke up with a girl at the end of december.

It's been tough but I started focusing on myself, approaching, working hard, etc.

We've had some limited contact, she went into the hospital last week and i wished her well. come to find out she was pregnant and miscarried. anyways after telling me this she cried and told me she wished we could work things out but knows we cant. I agreed.

However, we are continuing to talk as if someday something will happen. I'm continuing to work on myself and don't want to worry about getting her back now. It would be bad for me. But I do recognize my beta backslide in our relationship and want to do things right this time around so that if in say 6 months i do want to be with her I will have become a better man and she will have high attraction.

What kind of contact, texts, or whatever should be done during these 6 months while I continue to focus on school, work, and spinning more plates?

 

[donking]

she carried another man's seed...

 

[benogan]

hahaha no like miscarried mine

 

[Dgwizdal]

None - If You Have Any Shot At A Clean Slate You Must Not Have Contact. All Keeping Contact Will Do Will Keep The Old Memories And The Old You Alive In Her Eyes And Your Own. You Will Never Recover. Ever. You will never regain high interest/attraction/a new you while remaining in contact during your improvement. Not a f*ckin peep. You Must Get Over Her Completely. You must start banging other chicks.

A Month Is Much Much Much Too Soon. You Need Atleast 6 And Forget About This B*tch.


Tell Her You Think That Breaking Up Was For The Best And Sorry It Didnt Work Out And Go Ghost. Not A F*ckin Peep Or Response To Her Texts, Calls, Or Emotional Tampons Up Your Pvssy. She will manipulate, give you false hope/signs of interest, and drag you thru the mud - DO NOT SUPPLICATE

This Is Your Only Shot - Do Not Listen To The Beta Feels Within You Because They will Fail You.

You Do Not Know Whats Best For Yourself And Your Situation. I/we Do - So F*ckin Listen To It And Set A Trend For Idiots Coming On Here Getting Advice, Not Taking It, And Then Coming Back In 2 Months Crying And Proclaiming "you Were All Right - I Should've Of Listened" Because By Then, It Will Be Too Late.

Sack Up And Do It.




POST MAXIMUM - Depends on how you went out. If you need to regain some ballage because you're a faggot then you need to be the one to voice that you agree with the breakup and that this is for the better. She needs to feel rejection. She needs to feel you are in control of your own life and that you are good without her.

If you split up with her bc of her low interest than you should just ride it out as it will convey that you are sure of yourself and your decision.

Either way - short, stern, but with a hint of I don't give a f*ck.

Do it and don't look back. It is your ONLY shot. Wait, improve, wait, improve.....and when you feel the time is right to reestablish any form of contact or rapport whatsoever, wait, improve, and wait and improve some more. Then wait and improve again. Eventually you will get to a point where you do not give a f*ck and then you will be truly indifferent and a new person to take any girl whichever direction you want: her or someone else. Any f*cks you do have left about her will come from a position of strength rather than weakness and you will be in complete control of your emotions and future. PERIOD.

It WILL take an immense amount of self control not to respond and drop her completely from your life but I have been there, done that, and know what works. F*ckin do it.

 

[benogan]

Thank you, thats honestly what i expected to hear when I wrote this. Do you think it's even worth saying something to her, or should i just stop contact with no explanation

 

[VladPatton]

No contact, none. Dgwizdal is 100% right, and I agree. Exes are exes for a reason and they need to stay that way or the cycle of shıt will continue and you'll be here in a few months posting how you should of never of gotten back with her.