Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Gaming an AVG (average looking girl)

thegator39

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I originally thought this girl I knew from high school was blowing me off...the old "I just got out of a relationship...bad timing...blah blah blah"...but I noticed on her facebook that one of her girlfriends asked her if she was attending some high school alumni party...and she gave her the same runaround "I probably can't make it because I'm so busy, but have fun!"

She's average looking (I find her pretty.) To some on here, she would even be a 3 or 4, to others, a flat-out 5, maybe a 6 to those who like the plain jane, average look.

I also feel like me and her could be a match (similar personalities...she seems to be the quiet type)...I'm not sure how to re-game her without seeming desperate.

When I asked her out, I just asked her if she wanted to get coffee (this was a couple months ago) and she gave me the lines I told you which I thought weren't genuine until I saw the same thing with that girl.

Btw, I'm also cold approaching and gaming other women on dating sites...just feel like she might actually be a good one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Alle_Gory

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Average looking girl, or average looking girl who thinks she's hot?

Whole nother crazy ballgame with that one... it's not important how hot she is. It's important how hot she THINKS she is.
 

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Average looking girl who doesn't think she's hot. T shirt and jeans, minimal make-up, all around average looks, and the kind who's very quiet except around her close friends from what I knew of her in high school.
 

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thegator39 said:
Average looking girl who doesn't think she's hot.
If in fact that's true, then don't overgame. But I'm putting my money on the fact that she thinks she's hot. When in doubt, assume she thinks she's hot unless she's super fat. And if she's super fat you wouldn't be gaming her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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