Games or huh?

[Infern0]

I'll keep it brief

HB 8.5

Met girl at house party, she showed high interest, seeking my approval, telling me i'm amazing and awesome etc etc, we were going clubbing after the party and she wanted to hang with me but i was meeting my boys and I said yeah meet us in town, she's like text me when you get in I really want to hang with you.

Got to town, lost phone (and jacket) so couldn't text, didn't think much of it.

Next day she adds me on facebook, "why didn't you text meeee...."

I said i lost my phone, asked her out on the spot, she said yeah awesome, set it up for the following friday, she was typing long ass messages i responded a bit then bounced.

Friday morning I get "something came up blah blah" so i think ah right... flake

go to standard "cool let me know when you are free and we will do something then" she texts straight back and says she still wants to go out, am i free tomorrow, I said I may have something on but text me lunchtime and i'll know.

Didn't hear from her again, I did not text her back after telling her to text me the next day which she said she would. this is like a month ago so cool whatever moved on.

Today she walks into my work, hung around for 45 minutes, says "we still need to go out". I said cool well you text me when you are free and we will arrange something. She stayed for a while after this, she was even hanging around while i'm serving customers, answering the phone etc, in the end I had to say look i need to get back to work but we'll talk soon. I was pleasant and had her laughing and stuff and she asked me how it was going with my ex who had been on the scene, and I just said yeah she's not in the picture, she said "thats really good"

Anyway, what's the appraisal, was I too trigger happy or too indifferent?

I don't play silly girl games so if she wants to hang i'm down but i'm loathe to ask twice.

(weren't that brief was it, ah well)

 

[Suspens]

Next day she adds me on facebook, "why didn't you text meeee...."

"I've categorized you as a beta orbiter. You didn't do your job, which is giving me validations whenever I need it."

she texts straight back and says she still wants to go out, am i free tomorrow

"look I'm sucking someone Else's ****a right now, someone I'm afraid of losing. Who the fvck are you fag."

"we still need to go out".

"look I'm sucking someone else's ****a right now, someone I'm afraid of losing. Who the fvck are you fag. Get it yet?"

 

[Infern0]

"I've categorized you as a beta orbiter. You didn't do your job, which is giving me validations whenever I need it."


"look I'm sucking someone Else's ****a right now, someone I'm afraid of losing. Who the fvck are you fag."

"look I'm sucking someone else's ****a right now, someone I'm afraid of losing. Who the fvck are you fag. Get it yet?"

I'd agree with you if I wasn't there myself, she has nothing to classify me as a "beta orbiter". She approached me at the party, she followed me around, she was the one giving me compliments, I didn't give her ANY validation, I was just joking around enjoying myself. Don't get me wrong I wasn't a cold **** to her but I didn't compliment her or show her any more attention than anyone else. Actually I was dealing with the aforementioned ex at the time so I wasn't even thinking about it tbh.

She initiated every contact we've ever had and i've never complimented her.

She asked for my number

She added me on facebook and mesaged me

She came into my work and hung around for 45 minutes

But I'M the "beta orbiter"?

If this is the case fine, i don't care about terminating her ass, but I can't see anything in my behaviour that would classify me as "beta orbiter".

It's not even really a case of me needing to terminate her because I haven't put any effort or anything into her at all, other than asking her out, which is that beta now?

I just want to know if she's wasting my time or if I can smash, either way all good.

 

[Suspens]

Well after reading those new details I guess she was looking for an ONS. Found you attractive, was highly interested and possibly DTF. Who is to blame here man. It's you.

 

[Desdinova]

Her IL isn't high enough for her to commit, especially when something else comes up. At this point, shopping with her GFs is going to override an evening out with you. You need to elevate her IL a bit more. Instead of focusing on getting her to text you, tease her, be playful with her, and THEN she'll be more likely to commit.

The thought of going out with you needs to cause a greater emotional spike than the mundane things she does from day to day.

 

[pyros]

I'd agree with you if I wasn't there myself, she has nothing to classify me as a "beta orbiter". She approached me at the party, she followed me around, she was the one giving me compliments, I didn't give her ANY validation, I was just joking around enjoying myself. Don't get me wrong I wasn't a cold **** to her but I didn't compliment her or show her any more attention than anyone else. Actually I was dealing with the aforementioned ex at the time so I wasn't even thinking about it tbh.

She initiated every contact we've ever had and i've never complimented her.

She asked for my number

She added me on facebook and mesaged me

She came into my work and hung around for 45 minutes

But I'M the "beta orbiter"?

If this is the case fine, i don't care about terminating her ass, but I can't see anything in my behaviour that would classify me as "beta orbiter".

It's not even really a case of me needing to terminate her because I haven't put any effort or anything into her at all, other than asking her out, which is that beta now?

I just want to know if she's wasting my time or if I can smash, either way all good.

Sometimes you guys reach the DJ paranoia...it's sad.

This chick was INTO YOU, but you've over-gamed her cause you did not want to look like you cared. Silly you OP.

She showed so much interest while you showed almost nothing that she's gonna probably send you to the curb, so I would not find it weird if you came here in a few days posting that she's gone cold etc. lol.

Good luck...and stop over-gaming chicks you like...

 

[Infern0]

Sometimes you guys reach the DJ paranoia...it's sad.

This chick was INTO YOU, but you've over-gamed her cause you did not want to look like you cared. Silly you OP.

She showed so much interest while you showed almost nothing that she's gonna probably send you to the curb, so I would not find it weird if you came here in a few days posting that she's gone cold etc. lol.

Good luck...and stop over-gaming chicks you like...

She flaked...........