"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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GAMEPLAN: Feedback on SMS

nighter

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i have come to the conclusion that its time for me to start spinning some plates. I have not been doin it, because i had to get myself back on track, since i landed in a big depression when i nexted my GF, who was suffering from a borderline disorder.

My "inner game" is tight once again. My "outer game" sucks. Because i have no experience. The girls i got have always saarged on me, but they have always been attention *****s or nutcases.

To get better at i have decided to start spinning some plates.
So i was thinking about a HB7, that i wants as one of my spinning targets.
I haven't talked with her for a while, and don't know her that well.
So it would feel quite odd to just call her up.

So my gameplan is something like this. SMS her, to check her IL.
If i get good respons i call her within 2-3 days, Then i go from there.

So now i whant's some feedback from you guys, what to write in the "SMS".
Do you have some fieldtested stuff that works wounders. The mission is to initate a contact to be able to phone her later. So at first, i was just planning to write something like, Hey "girlsname" was up. ....

But thats really boring, and last time i met her i put her in friendzone
so i guess i have to "SOI" her also at some point.

So feedback on gameplan, and what to write in the SMS would be appreciated. :flowers:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DJBaron

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I'm not a pro but since no one else has recommended anything here is what I say: SMS'ing a girl ur not so close with is a little wierd sometimes since she can instantly pick up that your trying to reach out to her.

This is off the top of my head but maybe you can call her and when she picks up you say "hey jen!" and she will be like who is this? And than you say "oh sorry who is this, it sounds familiar..." and she will be like "its ....", than you are open and in control! She doesnt feel like you called her cause ur interested, but you called her instead by accident and is going to take it ez and go with the flow....

This way your in charge and its sooo easy at that point to say "wow haven't seen you in a while lets meet up!"

lemme know what happens ;)
 

nighter

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Thanks for the feedback, but i don't agree.

She is not a complete stranger. But i have only met her 1-2 times, and last time i met her she tried to get me in bed. But i denied, and put her in the friendszone. Because i was really depressed about my ex, and my best friend liked her. I number closed her instead.

So i think that hide that i hit on her would be backfire. I belive that i really have to do the opposite, do an "SOI" so she really knows that i hit on her, and my intentions is just not as friends. I have enough value for that.
 

DJDamage

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Your Gameplan is to try to game NEW WOMEN you never met before, that is a best way to get yourself out of this rut rather then wreck your brain trying to figure out how to game one girl from your past.

Leave the past in the past and move on. You said it yourself you wanted to spin some plates but you shouldn't start with the one you left behind.
 

SuperAlbert

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This has worked for me. Type this out: HI.

If she remembers, then good for you. It'll be nothing but downhill from there. If she doesn't, then present yourself. What's there to lose? NOTHING.

My ex told me from time to time that all I've done from the past was plan things and say I'm going to do this and I'm going to do that but I never do any of the things I say I would do. She's taught me a very important lesson: JUST DO IT. How can see the end product when you've done nothing but only plan things and actually not initiate it? I've learned too late and now she's gone but I've no regrets becuase ever since she told me that, I'm able to carry myself further by just that one saying: JUST DO IT.

Anyways, Goodluck on your what-your-doing gameplan.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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