gravityeyelids
Master Don Juan
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To win the girls in the group, it's almost always a good idea to win over the guys first. If you're anything like I used to be (i'm an introvert), you go to a club/bar/party and see beautiful women with guys scattered around them.
You're shy and you'd like to hit on the girl and get with her, but you see these men not only as obstacles but also as enemies.
BUT NO MORE. These guys (with the exception of the few douchebags who are there to make sure that if they can't have a good night, then you wont either) are normally pretty cool if you approach them with a friendly face and start making conversation. This can be something as simple as glancing at the guy next to you trying to order a drink at a very crowded bar and saying "this is ridiculous isn't it?" Most guys (especially if they've been drinking) will be more than happy to converse with you for a minute or two. I've had so many random great conversations with dudes when out partying. Honestly, just go around and after you say something (or even as the first thing you say,) and go: "hey, i'm ____. who're you/ what's your name?" I've found this is perfectly acceptable in almost every situation, from being blackout drunk at a house party to waiting in line at a store to break the silence. It's rediculous how easy and natural this becomes.
If the guy (obstacle) is part of a group and is friends with the girl's you're trying to game...IGNORE THE GIRLS. Go right up to the guy and make some kind of comment to get a conversation going...This can be anything from (pointing at the drunkest guy dancing) "that guy sure looks like he's having a good time!" to (pointing to his Breaking Bad shirt) "hey, that's a badass shirt". If he's enough of an ******* to be rude to you after that, then screw 'im!
IF THE GUYS RESPECT YOU THEN SO WILL THE FEMALES. Obviously it doesn't do you much good to roll around with JUST guys and talk to just them. That's not what I'm saying. Win the guys over before gaming the girls. This accomplishes a number of things...especially in a public place:
1) You are being social instead of just standing there with a drink awkwardly
2) You are gaining respect from the guys by being buddy-buddy with them
3) They are less likely to ****block you
4) You aren't blatantly hitting on the girls first like every other guy there, and the girls (especially 10's) will get curious as to why you havent noticed them yet or stared at their tits.
5)It brings your focus off of just getting laid and places it more on just having a good time, which in the long run will get you laid because you'll be the guy that everyone likes and has fun around. Girls love this guy. They bang him religiously.
If you're like I was, you see these guys and assume they're jerks or *******s, and you wait for them to go away before talking to their girls, and when they're around you simply ignore them or are curt and slightly rude. They are competition, no doubt about that. But the EASIEST WAY TO DISARM YOUR COMPETITION IS TO BE NICE TO THEM. It's really hard to pick a fight or be an ******* to someone who is being cool and nice to you. I'm n ot saying to be a pushover. Be alpha. Use good body language, look them in the eye, stand up straight, speak loudly, firmly shake hands, introduce yourself. I've had so many times where i was just focused on getting on the girls and created this slight animosity between me and these other guys.
The alpha man is friendly, social and at ease. He goes out not only to talk to beautiful women but also find some cool guys to get drunk with and shoot the sh!t.
You're shy and you'd like to hit on the girl and get with her, but you see these men not only as obstacles but also as enemies.
BUT NO MORE. These guys (with the exception of the few douchebags who are there to make sure that if they can't have a good night, then you wont either) are normally pretty cool if you approach them with a friendly face and start making conversation. This can be something as simple as glancing at the guy next to you trying to order a drink at a very crowded bar and saying "this is ridiculous isn't it?" Most guys (especially if they've been drinking) will be more than happy to converse with you for a minute or two. I've had so many random great conversations with dudes when out partying. Honestly, just go around and after you say something (or even as the first thing you say,) and go: "hey, i'm ____. who're you/ what's your name?" I've found this is perfectly acceptable in almost every situation, from being blackout drunk at a house party to waiting in line at a store to break the silence. It's rediculous how easy and natural this becomes.
If the guy (obstacle) is part of a group and is friends with the girl's you're trying to game...IGNORE THE GIRLS. Go right up to the guy and make some kind of comment to get a conversation going...This can be anything from (pointing at the drunkest guy dancing) "that guy sure looks like he's having a good time!" to (pointing to his Breaking Bad shirt) "hey, that's a badass shirt". If he's enough of an ******* to be rude to you after that, then screw 'im!
IF THE GUYS RESPECT YOU THEN SO WILL THE FEMALES. Obviously it doesn't do you much good to roll around with JUST guys and talk to just them. That's not what I'm saying. Win the guys over before gaming the girls. This accomplishes a number of things...especially in a public place:
1) You are being social instead of just standing there with a drink awkwardly
2) You are gaining respect from the guys by being buddy-buddy with them
3) They are less likely to ****block you
4) You aren't blatantly hitting on the girls first like every other guy there, and the girls (especially 10's) will get curious as to why you havent noticed them yet or stared at their tits.
5)It brings your focus off of just getting laid and places it more on just having a good time, which in the long run will get you laid because you'll be the guy that everyone likes and has fun around. Girls love this guy. They bang him religiously.
If you're like I was, you see these guys and assume they're jerks or *******s, and you wait for them to go away before talking to their girls, and when they're around you simply ignore them or are curt and slightly rude. They are competition, no doubt about that. But the EASIEST WAY TO DISARM YOUR COMPETITION IS TO BE NICE TO THEM. It's really hard to pick a fight or be an ******* to someone who is being cool and nice to you. I'm n ot saying to be a pushover. Be alpha. Use good body language, look them in the eye, stand up straight, speak loudly, firmly shake hands, introduce yourself. I've had so many times where i was just focused on getting on the girls and created this slight animosity between me and these other guys.
The alpha man is friendly, social and at ease. He goes out not only to talk to beautiful women but also find some cool guys to get drunk with and shoot the sh!t.
