Game stopper

[toasttopper1879]

I meet a girl.I flirt and she takes notice.Give it a few days and things is standing still so I take next oportunity for a bit of kino and offer a gentle hand on her arm as I pass.Bingo,from zero to hero with one nudge.She likes touching and initiates senarios to allow touch thereafter.Cant give the kino lark enough of a plug.The message the slightest bit gives speaks a thousand words.
However i hit a snag and i had no answer.The ****y n funny was getting the interest until.The girl fought back.She started answering back instead of giggling,almost accepting the ****y n funny as the norm.The quizing started next.Asked about other girls cos I'm hardly being exclusive.She asked other personal questions and also just general convf course some were tests and somes just general stuff cos we built up a raport now.
But when the questions got awkward i tried to avoid n return to the ****y,funny etc.she would nt let me and kept bringing the subject back.
So how am I meant to handle even just the general conversations when she just wants to talk about what she wants and totally blocks my game.

 

[Skweints]

You walk away... once you start getting hints that she's trying to gain control, you back off. If you keep going and going and spending more time talking to her, she's going to realize "wow, he hasn't left yet, he must like me." and then she's going to try and gain power over you.

 

[toasttopper1879]

aye great but i,d be spending no time interacting t the minute because every conversation seems to be question me.

 

[duttylove]

take controll of the situation, you lead the covnersations, talk about what you want to talk about

 

[xblitz44x]

"so I take next oportunity for a bit of kino and offer a gentle hand on her arm as I pass.Bingo,from zero to hero with one nudge.She likes touching and initiates senarios to allow touch thereafter.Cant give the kino lark enough of a plug."

What you have to understand is that she's not receptive to kino. She's receptive to kino with YOU. The touching did nothing. She *already* wanted to be touched BY you, so when you did it (she was waiting for it), she felt like you stepped it up to the next level and allowed her to be comfortable touching you. Again, it wasn't the kino. It was YOU.

"She started answering back instead of giggling,almost accepting the ****y n funny as the norm.The quizing started next.Asked about other girls cos I'm hardly being exclusive.She asked other personal questions and also just general convf course some were tests and somes just general stuff cos we built up a raport now."

Maybe she actually likes you and wants to see what page your on. Maybe she is weirded out by you being shadey and answering all of your questions with a "****y/funny" answer. Maybe she's wondering if you can be serious and establish something legitimate.

Figure out what you want, and when she brings things up, answer her honestly. A little communication never hurt anybody. And if you're too scared to communicate what's going on inside of you, you've got a lot way to go before you'll be a true "DJ".

-Blitz

 

[Skullcrusher]

I like ****y and funny people, they provide entertainment and become my toilet.

 

[toasttopper1879]

Aye cheers blitz yer probs spot on mate.Hard to suss out your own inside like after a crap marriage and a few kids but still.New game new rules.

Skull lad that must be american humour son cos I really dont get it.

 

[JT47319]

I put up a post about negs and C&F a few days ago. Learn to calibrate. There's a time and place for each.

Like xblitz said, you're past the point of C&F and into rapport stages. Now you're simply coming off as a joker.

SHE isn't blocking YOUR game. YOU are blocking the Game. It's time to seduce and stop being the funny monkey.

You aren't taking her seriously and sexually. Why haven't you turned up the heat? Establish intimacy and connection?

She's two steps ahead of you while you think you still need to accomplish something. SHE's ready. YOU aren't.

 

[wind20mph]

Get in the rule buddy,

1. Never give a direct answear unless its "NO"
2. Always lead the conversation.
3. Make it interesting like digging up her feelings.

And Don't forget to tease her combined with humor.

 

[squirrels]

She's showing buying signs. Close the deal.

 

[toasttopper1879]

cheers jt.I've read yer thread mate and its a decent kick up the arse for me although I'm not 100% sure what "negs" are.
I'll get clued up about building rapport from the site.Now you brought it to my attention I really dont have a clue about rapport.Something I've never thought about.Too many one nighters probs doesnt require a lot of rapport.Any good recomendations where to look
Its hard to know what I want sometimes.I've two young bairns and I have to consider them in what I get up to.Its hard on kids to fetch someone into their lives only for that person to disapear 6 weeks later and they got a pissed off Dad for a few days.
Cheers lads.