"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Game in a Nutshell

NINJA PIMP

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I started out as a miserable chump when I first signed on here at SoSuave. But thanks to the wisdom I found here, I managed to turn my life around for the better.

I started out chasing the same wet dream many of us pursue here. I wanted to be a player and screw lots of hot women (duh!). Well I ended up doing just that and discovered that it really was not what I was looking for. I was simply infatuated with the idea of being a "pimp" (hence my ridiculous screen-name) Eventually I found a great lady who satisfies my every need and for the first time ever I am in a healthy relationship.

I got this far by making tons of mistakes and learning from them.

Here is the essence of everything I have learned here.

1. KNOW YOURSELF

Who are you? How do you identify yourself? We all bear many titles "son" "brother" "student" etc...but what really makes you different from everyone else? Think of interesting experiences in your life that show this unique side of you because it makes women see you for the catch that you are.

2. DECIDE EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LOVE LIFE.

Do you want a steady relationship? One night stands? Threesomes? A team of hoes in your stable? Seriously consider the life you want to live because this is the first step to making that life happen.

3. DECIDE EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT FROM YOUR LOVER.

Make a list of qualities that you are seeking from your potential lady. Of course we all have physical standards, but focus more on her character and the type of person that you could totally be yourself around. Prioritize the attributes you are searching for.

4. SCREEN THE WOMEN

Now that you have a clear idea of what you want, treat them all as if they are looking for a job and you are the Big Boss. NO this does not mean that you "interview" her with boring questions. You are simply hanging out with her to see if she is good enough for you. This allows you to be more relaxed around the most beautiful women because it is them who is being tested for compatibility, not you!

5. REWARD & PUNISH

When the woman meets one of your requirements, be sure to reinforce a positive state in her mind with physical affection and praise. ("Wow. You are the coolest chick I have met all day! Let's be pals!") On the flip side, when she doesn't meet your standards or is rude, you MUST punish her! You do this by saying, "Hmm..I guess you really are not the lady I thought you were" Then turn your back on her. Always be willing to walk away and game other girls in front of her if she acts up. I know I may get flamed for saying this, but women can be trained very much like dogs.

6. SHOW TENTATIVE INTEREST

Don't lay your cards out on the table too soon. Many girls are validation-seeking attention hoes and will drop you in a second the moment they feel they have you hooked. Show her that you are interested with your proximity but don´t let your happy state rely on her. You need to be centered in your reality in order to pull her into your world. Don't give her all the information she wants about you. Make the interaction more fun by being a challenge. Remember to reward her good actions with more interest.

7. JEALOUSY IS GOOD

Women are more socially competitive for status than men. Keep lots of hot girls as platonic friends so they can involuntarily wing for you. The second you walk into a place with a hot gal or two on your arm, women will notice you instantly and wonder what it is about you that is so damn attractive! The cool thing is that you will find quite a few of these gal pals will start to have crushes on you for the very same reason!

8. GO GUNWITCH

For those of you unfamiliar with this technique, there is really not much of a science to it. Learn to get in touch with your instincts and simply let yourself be extremely horny. Relax and get into a sexual state and the girl will notice this in your body language/overall vibe..if she is interested, she will also get into this state which makes it easier to close the deal.

And thats about it folks. Sure I learned a lot of other neat tricks, but they all stem from the ideas and attitudes I have presented above. Most importantly of all, I actually went out and DID this sh!t, because you can read a ton of books about bike riding, but that does not make you a cyclist!

Get out there and make this happen..no one else will handle this part of life for you!

Best of luck to all.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NINJA PIMP

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Was this post that sh!tty that no one replied?

Will nobody stroke my fragile ego?

Dammit, first it was the small penis issue and now THIS.

I will surely die alone :(
 

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I think this goes under TIPS. That is if CrazyKid will be kind enough to move it there for you.

-Grey Fox
 

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i liked the post, if you read the site/forum enough you'll basically be reading the same stuff over and over

the biggest thing for me would be reward/punish, as i can come off as very friendly, smiling all the time etc...giving too much rapport at the beginning instead of letting her feel and establish it

really though, the most important tidbit that i've learned from this site is that if you just get a life and constantly have things to do and always meeting ppl, have high self-esteem (that you dont even think about your self-esteem levels), and care about how you look, you should be alright.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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chicksrock

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Good post ..well summed up ..


I think that is a good point about being in a sexual state to easily close the deal..

:)
 

Eternal

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Originally posted by Grey Fox
I think this goes under TIPS. That is if CrazyKid will be kind enough to move it there for you.

-Grey Fox
Sure, why not.

Moved to Tips.
 

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Originally posted by NINJA PIMP

1. KNOW YOURSELF
This is something people spend their whole life doing. It can neve be fully known, and the mystery should entice you to keep exploring.

2. DECIDE EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LOVE LIFE.
Another cliche. Again most of us cannot really know for sure what we REALLY want because we want different things at different times, and sometimes you like one thing, sometimes you hate it. It's life. Still it's good to have something to strive for.

3. DECIDE EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT FROM YOUR LOVER.
Same as above. I can say I like short girls, and then I see a really hot tall girl and go "Man, I like tall ones too" I also decided I like pettite girls, but when I see a hot "big" (not too big) girl I go "Wow, I like her too."

4. SCREEN THE WOMEN
This process occurrs automatically, whether you like it or not. You are walways making decisions about the women you see everywhere. "This one yes, that one... ughhh"

8. GO GUNWITCH
Yes this one is key, but the real key is not the sexual state, because I know guys who get horny all the time and then are relaxed, but they pull no chicks.

The real key to the Gunwitch method is the realization that girls are not offended by male sexuality, in fact they CRAVE it!!! They just don't want the whole world knowing about this, otherwise they'd labeled sl*ts and once that happens, boy it's all over for her.

One of my close girl friends (space intended) whom I thought highly of, she was a catholic and i thought a virgin too, told me she was not SEXUALLY attracted to me when I asked her out, and wanted to be friends. Now I realize that what I did wrong was shut down my sexuality, so she didn't get "offended" and then went out with her using DJ techniques.
 
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