Game Game Game Game????

[Enzo]

I was just wondering what you guys thought of all this game talk. I mean it sounds cool in a club when you are trying to get a woman for the night but I really dont want to be married to someone who is constantly trying to use their strengths against me.

It seems like by reading these forums I am learning to be someone that is me but it is a side of me that I dont want to have to put on with the woman that is meant to be most precious to me. If relationships and marriage are all about playing games, trying to get one over on each other then I dont think I want that. I would rather play around knowing that I am not investing any of my more sincere and real fealings.

If I really love someone and they feel the same, shouldnt we be able to show our real feelings about things instead of always having guards up.

Are all relationships games?
How do you guys feel about this?

 

[Maestro Monk]

Wordup Enzo,

I'm still an amateur DJ, but from what I understand, the idea behind the whole 'don juan' principle is not really entirely based around playing 'games' as much as it is about seducing women in general..when I first meet chicks, i avoid 'games' at all costs, and go straight for the flirting; every dude's tactics are different, but my opinion is that any 'relationship' should not be based around 'games', and should instead be focused on having fun, gaining some knowledge about both yourself and your partner, and most importantly, respecting yourself.
I ask myself similar questions all the time, but I know that in my current situation, I dont really have the time or commitment to form a LTR, hence my decision to pursue the don juan 'womanizer' role. Good luck to ya man.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

"Just liking each other" is not enough to sustain a long term relationship. If it were, the divorce rate in America, would not be 52%. My abridged idea of DJ'ing is getting what you want from women (life), on your terms.

What aspects of DJ'ing turn you off?

 

[Enzo]

I quite like the idea of DJing (If only I was any good at it, but that is changing ) What is a turn off is the idea of being in a relationship with someone I love and her trying to manipulate me to get what she wants from me, and as a defense, me doing the same back.

I feel like when I am older and in a LTR that I would really like to focus on being myself and not have to have my guard up both at work and home. It just seems like a lonely life and I would rather focus that energy into building a career.

Part of what attracts me to this site is that true DJs have both a working skills at getting women and they have their lives along with there relationships to themselves hooked up. I am really working hard to be a great man and part of her being "good enough" is having the maturity to communicate whay you feel clearly. Not doing so really makes me feel a sense of contempt for the person.

I am not expecting 0 games cause sometimes that is fun, but I would not like it to be what defines our relationship.