"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Galactus Does it Again!

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So I'm just getting off work last night, and this cute girl sits down by herself. I decide to stick around a bit. I strike up a conversation with her, she talks about what she does, and I talk about what I wish I was doing other than waiting tables.

But she was a little on the chubby side, and I don't really go for that. Not fat, chubby. So I'm thinking, "Hmm, I don't know, I should be setting my sights a little higher." But as we talk, I'm realizing that she is very intelligent, and a great conversationalist. She's making up for the chub with charisma. And she is cute.

So I go finish up a few things, and as she's leaving, we exchange a few more words. I turn to walk away, and then I think, "What the hell," and I ask her, "Hey, next time you want something to eat, how about I take you someplace better than this?" She smiled and said sure, and I got the seven magic digits.

This is cool, but now I need to work on getting the balls to do the same thing with chicks that come in with other chicks. I've got a lot more charm one-on-one than I do when they're tag-teaming me. I'm going to make that a new goal of mine: picking up a chick when her friend is sitting right there.

Now I'm starting to see what you guys mean when you say it's fun doing this. Once you eliminate the fear of rejection, then you can concentrate on the challenge. I don't want this to be too easy. I got rejected by two different girls in the last fifteen hours (One of them told me to give it up, I'm never getting the pu$$y. We shall see about that.). I don't care. I will not be discouraged.

One more thing: She gave me her email address too, saying she checks that more often than her calls, and I have a better shot at reaching her that way. What are the DJ rules concerning email?

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"When people go to the circus, they don't want to see clowns. They want to see fvcking lions and tigers, and that's what we are."
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TurboLover

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Originally posted by galactus:
But she was a little on the chubby side,

"Hey, next time you want something to eat,
Good to see DJs using their head. You know she couldn't resist saying no to that. J/k

Practice makes perfect.
 

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Originally posted by galactus:
One more thing: She gave me her email address too, saying she checks that more often than her calls, and I have a better shot at reaching her that way. What are the DJ rules concerning email?
I don't recall hearing any "tried and true" methods for e-mail. I know that David deAngelo likes to use it, but it's not as common here.

My first guess too was that her mentioning e-mail might be some kind of test, to see if you'll "follow orders" so to speak, but upon second reading, I'm not so sure.

I could give advice about using the e-mail, but since I've never incorporated it into my style, I don't know how relevant my advice in this area would be.
 

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Originally posted by galactus:
One more thing: She gave me her email address too, saying she checks that more often than her calls, and I have a better shot at reaching her that way. What are the DJ rules concerning email?
I don't recall hearing any "tried and true" methods for e-mail. I know that David deAngelo likes to use it, but it's not as common here.

My first guess too was that her mentioning e-mail might be some kind of test, to see if you'll "follow orders" so to speak, but upon second reading, I'm not so sure.

I could give advice about using the e-mail, but since I've never incorporated it into my style, I don't know how relevant my advice in this area would be.
 

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I sometimes use email. Example:

"Hey, what's up? Call me tonight before 7 or you're in BIG trouble!

Cheers,

Jake"

I've gotten in the sack with 3 different girls by using that strategy. This was a case I used the email before ever calling her. In those 3 cases, they all called me when I ordered them to.

Jake
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She called, left a message that she would love to go out with me. She said it would be better to set things up through email. I prefer talking in real time on the phone, but whatever. Guess I'll have to email her and suggest a day and time.

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"Honesty may be the best policy, but it's important to remember that, apparently, by elimination, dishonesty is the second best policy. Second is not all that bad."
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