"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Gaining strength without getting bulkier

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How do I make my muscles stronger and increase its endurance without having to look like Arnold S? Is it on the reps? The speed? Weight training is out of the question for me because I find going to the gym expensive. I only do pull ups, push ups, and resistance bands.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheSlasher said:
How do I make my muscles stronger and increase its endurance without having to look like Arnold S?

TheSlasher said:
do pull ups, push ups, and resistance bands.
You answered your own question.
 

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TheStig said:
You answered your own question.
Ok. But I'm not sure if there will be a difference if I do more and faster reps in smaller motions. Or if I would get bulkier if I do the these workouts slowly.
 

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Believe me you have nothing to worry about. You won't get jacked that easily.

Eat at maintenance calories if you don't want to gain.
 

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[S]alvatore said:
Believe me you have nothing to worry about. You won't get jacked that easily.

Eat at maintenance calories if you don't want to gain.
Calories? Their excess turn tp fat right? I thought it would be proteins that would bulk up my muscle mass.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lol, I have been trying to gain some bulk for 4 months and gained maybe 5lbs. I'm definitely getting stronger and very toned, but gaining bulk ain't easy man. I don't think you have to worry about that.
 

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Time under tension x load for hypertrophy, longer sets and you're training for the pump.

Strength training go for sets of 3-5 reps, maximum effort and longer rests.

But starting out, it won't matter what you do as long as you train hard and eat right you will get stronger.
 

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TheSlasher said:
Calories? Their excess turn tp fat right? I thought it would be proteins that would bulk up my muscle mass.
Yes, excess calories will cause an increase in mass. That is why I said to eat at MAINTENANCE calories, and not excess or surplus.
 

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You dont want to bulk, you dont want to be as big as Arnold and you dont want to lift weights... I dont think your gonna gain much of anything.

Eat a clean diet, eat less if you need to and do your body weight exercises for higher reps. Shouldnt bee to complicated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The truth is that you can lose fat without weight lifting.
You can lose muscle without weight lifting.

If you want to only do body weight exercises and stay out of the gym, you'll have to get crafty.

You don't need iron weights. But, you do need to increase the tension load your muscles are under if you want them to get larger. Also, you'll have to eat more calories than you burn to grow muscle.

If you just want to maintain your current size and get stronger, you'll have to force your muscles to do more work. High weight, very low reps, several sets. Like, 6-8 sets of 3 with 85% of your one lift max.

To gain muscle size, you'd typically need to do moderate weight, moderate reps. Like 4 sets of 8-10 with 65% of your one lift max.

To gain stamina/endurance in your muscles, 2 to 3 sets of 12-18 reps with about 50% of your one lift max.

Having said all that, the internet is absolutely filled with various conflicting details about how to do this or that. It can be really tough to sort out the details, as to who's telling it true, and who's just trying to sell supplements.
 
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