"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Gaining strength without getting bulkier

TheSlasher

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How do I make my muscles stronger and increase its endurance without having to look like Arnold S? Is it on the reps? The speed? Weight training is out of the question for me because I find going to the gym expensive. I only do pull ups, push ups, and resistance bands.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheStig

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TheSlasher said:
How do I make my muscles stronger and increase its endurance without having to look like Arnold S?

TheSlasher said:
do pull ups, push ups, and resistance bands.
You answered your own question.
 

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TheStig said:
You answered your own question.
Ok. But I'm not sure if there will be a difference if I do more and faster reps in smaller motions. Or if I would get bulkier if I do the these workouts slowly.
 

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Believe me you have nothing to worry about. You won't get jacked that easily.

Eat at maintenance calories if you don't want to gain.
 

TheSlasher

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[S]alvatore said:
Believe me you have nothing to worry about. You won't get jacked that easily.

Eat at maintenance calories if you don't want to gain.
Calories? Their excess turn tp fat right? I thought it would be proteins that would bulk up my muscle mass.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MtnMan

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lol, I have been trying to gain some bulk for 4 months and gained maybe 5lbs. I'm definitely getting stronger and very toned, but gaining bulk ain't easy man. I don't think you have to worry about that.
 

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Time under tension x load for hypertrophy, longer sets and you're training for the pump.

Strength training go for sets of 3-5 reps, maximum effort and longer rests.

But starting out, it won't matter what you do as long as you train hard and eat right you will get stronger.
 

[S]alvatore

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TheSlasher said:
Calories? Their excess turn tp fat right? I thought it would be proteins that would bulk up my muscle mass.
Yes, excess calories will cause an increase in mass. That is why I said to eat at MAINTENANCE calories, and not excess or surplus.
 

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You dont want to bulk, you dont want to be as big as Arnold and you dont want to lift weights... I dont think your gonna gain much of anything.

Eat a clean diet, eat less if you need to and do your body weight exercises for higher reps. Shouldnt bee to complicated.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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The truth is that you can lose fat without weight lifting.
You can lose muscle without weight lifting.

If you want to only do body weight exercises and stay out of the gym, you'll have to get crafty.

You don't need iron weights. But, you do need to increase the tension load your muscles are under if you want them to get larger. Also, you'll have to eat more calories than you burn to grow muscle.

If you just want to maintain your current size and get stronger, you'll have to force your muscles to do more work. High weight, very low reps, several sets. Like, 6-8 sets of 3 with 85% of your one lift max.

To gain muscle size, you'd typically need to do moderate weight, moderate reps. Like 4 sets of 8-10 with 65% of your one lift max.

To gain stamina/endurance in your muscles, 2 to 3 sets of 12-18 reps with about 50% of your one lift max.

Having said all that, the internet is absolutely filled with various conflicting details about how to do this or that. It can be really tough to sort out the details, as to who's telling it true, and who's just trying to sell supplements.
 
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