You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I am not trying to mock them for the fact they come in and try
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well, perhaps they are satisfied with their routine, if they were not, they would ask for advice.
8s and below will approach IRL. Being jacked does not have 9s and 10s approaching IRL (they will approach in OLD). That's a fact.
Agree with this. Being jacked and good looking will get you 7s and maybe some 8s will approach. The 9s and 10s will need much more than that and will still require you to "work" in the sense of approaching, pursuing, etc.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Not only that. Most men don't know this, but most 9s and 10s are extremely insecure, having based their value on their looks their entire lives. Thus, 9s and 10s will rarely put themselves out there to get rejected.
They make face masks that hold weight to do neck exercises. My gym has a machine for neck exercises. Or you could just google it.
In my case its both diet and exercise play a part. Probably around 70% diet / 30% gym. I have good size already so eating clean is key. But the extra work in the gym allows me to eat more food and feel satiated.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Yeah, there's this 5'4" guy that's jacked, but cannot get a date to save his life due to his height. I recall a woman saying a short guy tried to ask her out while at the gym. She did think she was hot, but...too short for her.
Yeah, and the guy doesn't even have to go to the gym. There are some men that are naturally big and broad shouldered through genetics. He could be completely out of shape, but if he's grand in size, this could win him the ladies, still.
That's interesting. 10 years I worked out everyday, ate healthy, was ripped and got my 6 pack. Girls didn't care. Couldn't get a girl's number if I paid her.
What's changed?That's interesting. 10 years I worked out everyday, ate healthy, was ripped and got my 6 pack. Girls didn't care. Couldn't get a girl's number if I paid her.
Today I don't have a six pack. I could probably get a hot girl's number in less than 200 seconds.
In a sense I'm a little jealous of short guys. They can get jacked from going to the gym once a week cause they don't need to eat anything. I need to eat 4000 calories per day, and work out five days per week like a maniac to even get a little bit of results.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well, you probably can get away with a swimmers build, right? Ever hear the term "dad bod"?
Reality. Girls don't care about six pack/money/car/bank account. They care about status/education/height/hair/friends.
See my previous post about the increasing returns of putting on muscle with height in this thread.
Joke of the day.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
