Gaining Her Trust..

[Casanova?]

hey fellas

been a member here for quite some time, read up on the bible, worked on my game, its not perfect but im above average i havent posted on this site for quite some time now i used to be registered under a different nickname but ive forgotten my details

anyway ive been hooking up with girls easily and ive never thought about getting into a relationship but past 3-4 weeks ive been flirting with this girl and she really is something special, we've hooked up on a couple of occasions and have gotten pretty close. were both attracted to each other theres no doubt about that but the thing is she says she wants to be with me (wants us to be together) but she can't trust me and that she needs more time..

she said this ~2 weeks ago but we've hooked up since then and to be honest if this was any other girl i wouldn't have bothered with them after they've told me they need more time, just something about this girl that makes me want to prove myself to her im a guy she can trust in a relationship

now trust is a very hard thing to gain from what ive experienced so im sort of stumped and have no idea how/what i should do.. i call for your experiences to help me out here

regards,

Domonic

 

[adit]

Yes,this is another game girls play.It is one of the more pathetic ones,in comparison to the absurd reasons they give to not go out with you,even if they want to.

Here is what you can do,and what you should do.

1.Tell her,'Why cant you trust me?. If you really have such speculations,then I too could have them,I too could ask you,How can I trust you?But I do not base my perceptions on such things,I look out even for intangibles.But yet,if you want time to be able to trust me,I'm sorry.I do not go out of my way to prove myself to people.'

This should actually put everything back onto her.Don't worry,it isn't a gamble here.If she's interested in you,she'll surely melt before you (You said she was attracted to you for sure).She's just playing around with you,trying to see how much you're willing to take.If you keep going like this(waiting for her),at the end of it all,you're going to fall into the 'Lets just be friends' zone.It's better to put it all back at her right now,rather than screw yourself later with a one-itis.

Are you really willing to wait for this girl?

2.Ask her,'What do you have in mind?Is time going to tell you that I can be trusted?I didn't know you were so insecure..But you're kinda cute so I'm not willing to wait,ok?'

You're the man,remember?Don't ever forget that.You don't have to wait for a girls validation,thats a big mistake.

3.Kiss her.This is an amazing way to get really close.It starts a relationship (atleast in highschool) in a good way,without having to say or do much.And it's enjoyable too,lol.

Remember dude,you already have her trust.She's just playing with you,to feed her female ego.She wants to believe that she can control you,but you really have to put her back on track.Don't play the games girls play with you,learn to understand when it's a game,and when she really means what she does.

Cheers,and rock on!

 

[LikRetsam]

... at above poster.

What you need to wonder, if anything, is why she is telling you this. Not WHAT she is telling you but why is she trying to get you to 'back off'. There's nothing in your post to help us help you. You know what tone she said it in, what circumstance you were in. You decide wether you're just a fukbuddy or wether she wants you to make a move.