gained control tonight

[Willard]

I'm in a long distance relationship for two months, She goes away on a business trip from Thursday to Wednesday. Only contact is by text. I had a feeling she would break up with me tonight on the phone, which she does, she doesn't mean it she wants re-assurance. I say do you want us to see other people, she says she didn't really think about it. I said why don't we take a break and go NC for a few weeks. She says no she wants constant contact. I said lets not talk to each other over the weekend. She didn't like that. I said its my decision to not have contact, she said she didn't like my decision. We resolved everything and I'm going to see her next weekend.

This website is the reason I pulled this off. I met went out with four women I met online, while she was away, two of them I may or may not see again. One is a hot black girl, smoking hot body, pretty face. 5'8" she had heels, she was 4 inches taller, nurse, drives a jag. The other a deputy sheriff, really into fitness, gym 5 times a week, pretty face, nice honest woman.

I was fully prepared to go NC, and go out with out with other girls this weekend, I actually felt in control, and I put her in her place, which is difficult with her, she's a super successful career woman. I have a lot to learn, but this site is really helpful.

 

[May_Day]

I really don't see how you gained any control

I said why don't we take a break and go NC for a few weeks. She says no she wants constant contact. I said lets not talk to each other over the weekend. She didn't like that. I said its my decision to not have contact, she said she didn't like my decision. We resolved everything and I'm going to see her next weekend.

You told her that you wanted to take a break. You said it was your decision to have no contact. Basically, you let her talk you out of what you wanted to originally do. Making a decision means that you stick to it. You went with her decision instead. She won't take you very seriously because she got what she wanted. Her behavior isn't going to change if your real intentions was trying to get her back.

I'm in a long distance relationship for two months, She goes away on a business trip from Thursday to Wednesday. Only contact is by text. I had a feeling she would break up with me tonight on the phone, which she does.

I met went out with four women I met online, while she was away

I don't know why you're hanging on to her if you have other women in the picture.

May Day, the way I read it he gained control of himself. He didn't panic when she tried to manipulate him and he kept options open so he didn't get stressed if LDR went her merry way.

I see it like this, he gained full control when he decided to go no contact. He made a decision that she didn't like. Then she manipulated him into reversing his original decision of no contact after they talked. He didn't stick to his decision, and now she got what she wanted. She knows that he doesn't mean what he says and can be manipulated. If he wanted to gain control, he wouldn't have caved in so quickly, and would go with his other options instead. This LDR is pretty much done and he's sticking around going back to her, instead of using his options. The LDR is going her merry way, she wanted to dump him.

 

[MOTU]

May Day, the way I read it he gained control of himself. He didn't panic when she tried to manipulate him and he kept options open so he didn't get stressed if LDR went her merry way.

 

[sodbuster]

He IS in control. He didn't beg her to stay, offered to take a break. HER hamster spun and she backed off on HER idea to break up. Having plates helped him out.

 

[Tiguere]

Mayday kinda got ahead of himself there.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Willard,
Yes I think you are pretty well in control mode,well as much as is realistically possible...Sodbuster is right though,it is your spinning plates that gives you the confidence...
You are doing very well on the Internet Dating....Not just confidence,your writing skills suggest that you are socially adept,probably present well...You don't really need to put too much into this LDR just enough to keep her as a plate,you will find in a few months you will seriously question the value of travelling for half an hour across Town for a sure fire bit of Nooky!