"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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G/F's friend's hate me!

theGAME50

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[Background]****
Last night i told my girlfriend (of 1 year) she couldn't go to the club with her girlfriends. I told her not to go because her girlfriend invited a bunch of guys along.

[Problem]****
my girlfriend cried and said she is in college and doesnt want to stay in on a friday night and do nothing. i told her she could come out with me and my friends,but she said she wanted to see her friends. i got mad at her several times before for hanging out with other guys with her girlfriends. each time i get mad at her, she cried and told the story to her friends.
Now that i got mad again, all of her girlfriends absolutely hate me and told her to dump me and not to hang out with me anymore. her best friend used to have a crush on me, so she had it out to get my gf to dump me from the beginning. (that is the only reason why she became friends with her). all her roomates now hate me. and her other best friend wants her to dump me so that they could be single together.

[Outcome]****
after a big fight, my girlfriend and i made up and i told her she can go wherever she wants cuz i trust her. she will be going to the club with her g'fs and the guys. she said she will always love me and she dont care what her friends say.

[My Question]****
having her friends mad at you is not good at all. what should i do in this situation?
 

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dirtyvibe

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you're pretty much a controlling insecure *******
 

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A girl's friends are her direct influence. Her friends will constantly tell her to get rid of you. And she will listen to them over you. Besides man let your girl go out, trust her it's part of a relationship.
 

comic_relief

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Originally posted by theGAME50
[Background]****
Last night i told my girlfriend (of 1 year) she couldn't go to the club with her girlfriends. I told her not to go because her girlfriend invited a bunch of guys along.

[Problem]****
my girlfriend cried and said she is in college and doesnt want to stay in on a friday night and do nothing. i told her she could come out with me and my friends,but she said she wanted to see her friends. i got mad at her several times before for hanging out with other guys with her girlfriends. each time i get mad at her, she cried and told the story to her friends.
Now that i got mad again, all of her girlfriends absolutely hate me and told her to dump me and not to hang out with me anymore. her best friend used to have a crush on me, so she had it out to get my gf to dump me from the beginning. (that is the only reason why she became friends with her). all her roomates now hate me. and her other best friend wants her to dump me so that they could be single together.

[Outcome]****
after a big fight, my girlfriend and i made up and i told her she can go wherever she wants cuz i trust her. she will be going to the club with her g'fs and the guys. she said she will always love me and she dont care what her friends say.

[My Question]****
having her friends mad at you is not good at all. what should i do in this situation?
You are such a b!tch. You insecure but yeah, I told my girlfriend that I don't want her to go to a strip club with her friends. Not because I am scared of where I am in my relationship with her but because I don't like those places. Plus they are a waste of money.

I don't want her to go to clubs because the only reason people go there is to go to get looked at like a piece of meat. That is why i don't like clubs or my girlfriend to go to a club. Of course, she has the option of going out with her friends. I tell her to go out with them and enjoy life. Just not to those places because I asked her to.

BTW if you continue to be insecure then you will be having problems and your relationship will probably end soon. Keep it up and just watch.

My advice on what to do, stop acting like a b!tch. She doesn't deserve to be controlled like that. Just tell her that if she cheats on you, she is gone. That is all there is to it.
 

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Re: Re: G/F's friend's hate me!

Originally posted by comic_relief
You are such a b!tch. You insecure but yeah, I told my girlfriend that I don't want her to go to a strip club with her friends. Not because I am scared of where I am in my relationship with her but because I don't like those places. Plus they are a waste of money.

I don't want her to go to clubs because the only reason people go there is to go to get looked at like a piece of meat. That is why i don't like clubs or my girlfriend to go to a club. Of course, she has the option of going out with her friends. I tell her to go out with them and enjoy life. Just not to those places because I asked her to.

BTW if you continue to be insecure then you will be having problems and your relationship will probably end soon. Keep it up and just watch.

My advice on what to do, stop acting like a b!tch. She doesn't deserve to be controlled like that. Just tell her that if she cheats on you, she is gone. That is all there is to it.
Even you are being a control-freak, it wont last.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DonJuanMonk

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A man shall seek the path that is filled with wild flowers and beautiful trees, not laden with beautiful roses with deadly thorns ready to cut you down
 

comic_relief

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exactly how am I a control freak :confused: this is your chance to help me keep the relationship, If you see something wrong, then you should help a brother out.
 

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Brotha your not a control freak.

You took heed about all the stories and advice given on this board about guys letting their GF go out with their single friends to wild parties and clubs.

You know what kind of shyt goes down when they do. For that I applaud you for being a man and stepping up to the plate.

For all those who says he is a control freak is those who never had a GF or don’t understand the dangers of that.


Now….


Originally posted by theGAME50


[Outcome]****
after a big fight, my girlfriend and i made up and i told her she can go wherever she wants cuz i trust her. she will be going to the club with her g'fs and the guys. she said she will always love me and she dont care what her friends say.

This is where you dropped the ball. You had the power and lost it all when you gave in. Just because a woman is crying doesn’t mean your in the wrong. There was no need to make up because you weren’t wrong. If this is how you like things to be done then you tell the bittch accept and agree or leave.



Originally posted by theGAME50
[My Question]****
having her friends mad at you is not good at all. what should i do in this situation?
Who cares what her friends think. After college is done she won’t see thoese ho’s again. Look man the only reason why they are mad is because your GF can't join them in being a slvt like they did in the past.


Now my question is why don’t you just hang out with her Friday night?

If she wants to go out she should go out with you.

I take it your in two different colleges far apart.

If so I wouldn’t expect this relationship to last nor her staying faithful.

You are in college why are you having a GF?

I look at college as a HUGE Candy factory. Why only stick to one piece of candy when there are thousands to lick and suck.

You know what I’m sayin?

And it’s quite obvious she still wants to party hard and have fun.

Her friends are a bad influence on her and she knows this.

The question that YOU should be asking is..

Am I a pvssy for taking back what I want in a relationship and woman?

Was it a wise idea after all to let her go with all those slvts with a bunch of horney college guys that have only ONE thing on their mind?

Don’t be surprise when she comes home to kiss and tell you how much she loves you and you smell c0ck breath.
 

everywomanshero

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One thing I know

One thing I know for an absolute fact is that with 90% of women, esp. those under 30, if her friends turn against you then you're toast. She'll have you out with the trash pretty soon. Their jealous, controlling gfs almost always win the battle when people fight over who controls some weak minded woman.

You shouldn't have handled this the way you did. You may have been right to say no, I don't know the people involved or the details. You never should've let her friends become involved or know anything and you nevr should've told her it's OK with you when really it's not.

It's time to lay it all on the time and tell her what's up without yelling or getting mad. If that doesn't work, it's time to start seeing other women. Once you get 2-3 other girls going, dump her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Joe The Homophobe

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fact: most if not all of a GF's girlfriends are gossipy b1tches. Avoid them like the plague!

if you have a gf you have to get used to dealing with her unlovable, b1tchy gossipy girlfriends, is just part of life. Try to be friendly with them but not too friendly. Avoid them as much as possible and never become their enemy! Just know that if you get in their way they will ruin your relationship. They are like a pack of hyenas! (sp?)

I once clashed with my gf's girlfriend clique once i heard they were talking trash behind my back. The outcome was not good.
 
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