G/F keeps putting me on the spot.

[Duracell_Bunny]

My g/f is making things awkward. We have been together for just over a year.

She is more and more frequently putting me on the spot by asking huge questions like "Do you want to spend the rest of your life with me?" and "Do you think we will stay together forever?".

At the same time, she keeps on nagging about how she wants to live together (another subject but I'm sticking to my guns and not letting that happen).

Its got me concerned as she doesn't seem as open to sex.

I left for work this morning, leaving her lying in my bed (obvisouly woke her up to say bye) . I then get this text:

"Are we ok? Are you happy being with me? Your the bestest boyfriend ever and I do honestly love you... I've cleaned your kitchen, emptied your dishwasher and put some of your dirty clothes in the washing machine. Xxxxxx"

I don't excpect or request for her to run around after, actually I kindly tell her she should't, but she seems to run around after me a lot if she's at my house and I'm not there (this happens sometimes as she works closer to my place than where she lives).

 

[Maximummax]

This is my opinion
Some times in our daily lives we see hear and feel unexpected things like some one dieing/killed/hurt or something like that. this shakes people
mood. and they usually go into depression mode, you cannot avoid this.

Your current gf, might have seen come chick getting married and happy with children. so she is going through the same scenraio i explained above( which here is positive). I hope you understood what i am trying to say here.

Let me see what other guys say about this

 

[Duracell_Bunny]

I see the relationship as more than fvck buddies. She's very good company to be around.

While I do like her a lot, I don't feel ready to settle with anyone yet - I like my independance. I still see aproaching the age of 27 as still being young.

 

[SgtSplacker]

When she asks those questions don't avoid answering them. Rather use it as a platform to motivate her to make you happy.

Question: "Do you want to spend the rest of your life with me?"
Answer: "Are you strong enough to put up with me for the rest of your life?"

Question: "Do you think we will stay together forever?"
Answer: "You think you can keep me happy forever? lol!"

These answers get her thinking along the lines of satisfying you and that if you are satisfied at all. Now when she cheaps out on sex don't say anything, just act disappointed. Ask her whats wrong? Ask her if SHE feels OK. Your suggesting that there is something wrong with her not you.

I would kinda be a d1ck about it too. Girls get sexually stimulated when they feel they are with a real man. And you have an opportunity here to diffuse the stupid questions, and establish your male dominance and making her horny at the same time.

Think about it like this, you don't want a girl that doesn't put out, so you have to make this an issue. She either complies or gets off the bus so someone else can have a ride. I know that deep inside you may want to be more supportive with her, that's the last thing you want to do when she is making you unhappy, understand a woman needs a strong man for support. Give her that and everything else falls in place. She can get emotional counseling from her girl friends.

 

[DonGorgon]

"Do you want to spend the rest of your life with me?"

"Do you think we will stay together forever?".

she has cheated on you but prefers you to the other dude.. (for now) her cheating is making her question the true value of only Fing you ... her inner ho is telling her to start hoing but she is fighting it and she wants you to help dave her from herself... pat of the other guys "game to F her was to discredit your relationship and put doubt in her mind..

you need to break up with her and tern her to a F buddy now cause she will soon dump you

 

[pipe007]

Amen to Danger.

and when she drops him, I'll bet OP will suddently "realize" that he wants her back and live with her forever lol


this is gonna be good.

 

[Duracell_Bunny]

How can you be so certain she cheated on me, lol. Was it you as you seem to know so many details? - Excuse my sarcasm but seriously.

I think its time to end it - I'm not happy with how things are right now with her and she progressivly seems to be taking me for granted. She even complained the other day about the lack of sex.

Work is no.1 right now as I have a major project and the business is struggling.

Generaly I should have her saved in my phone under the name of "stress".

The only issue is, her Dad has already paid for me to join all of their family on holiday in a few months.

 

[Htienvu]

How can you be so certain she cheated on me, lol. Was it you as you seem to know so many details? - Excuse my sarcasm but seriously.

I think its time to end it - I'm not happy with how things are right now with her and she progressivly seems to be taking me for granted. She even complained the other day about the lack of sex.

Work is no.1 right now as I have a major project and the business is struggling.

Generaly I should have her saved in my phone under the name of "stress".

The only issue is, her Dad has already paid for me to join all of their family on holiday in a few months.

seems to me you're the one taking her for granted! If you're not ready to commit then tell her straight...

 

[jafyk]

WHat is Htienvu? Hate that I envy you?

 

[DJLondoner]

She wouldn't be worth it. There nothing wrong if your girlfriend leave you after years of hard work. If she walks, she walks!

The only person that makes that decision for the both of you is YOU!

 

[Aaron B]

The only issue is, her Dad has already paid for me to join all of their family on holiday in a few months.

that sounds like his problem, not yours