"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cyjay201

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today my g/f told me she had plans for the next two weeks and was booked....which really pissed me off, considering that i know she has a past of lying. one day was her mom's b-day, next three days she's going on college visits, that weekend she's going camping at the dunes, followed by her brother's b-day, and the only day that she said she was available she said "Ummm...i dont think I have anything on that day, but there's something in the back of my head that says I do."

She then asked if i was mad, and i said "no, just annoyed that all of a sudden you're so busy. then i said i gotta go, bye"

Why don't women just say they want to break-up? I hate **** like this.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by cyjay201
today my g/f told me she had plans for the next two weeks and was booked....which really pissed me off, considering that i know she has a past of lying. one day was her mom's b-day, next three days she's going on college visits, that weekend she's going camping at the dunes, followed by her brother's b-day, and the only day that she said she was available she said "Ummm...i dont think I have anything on that day, but there's something in the back of my head that says I do."

She then asked if i was mad, and i said "no, just annoyed that all of a sudden you're so busy. then i said i gotta go, bye"

Why don't women just say they want to break-up? I hate **** like this.
As was previously discussed....DUMP HER FIRST!!!!!!!
 

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Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
roses are red violets are blue trash is dumped and so are you
Ha ha ha, :crackup: I'll have to remember that:crackup:
 

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kinda reminds me of the excuses my g/f was giving me before she broke up with me


she is clearly avoiding you

remember if a woman likes u she makes up time for you



just ditch the *****
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mine did the same thing. She told me she was grounded 'cause she wasn't filling out scholarships for college. Turns out that was only for the weekend. She made that last a week. Then she blamed me for the fact that we never spent time together, and broke up with me. Dump her.
 

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OMG relax man. Who cares if you dump her first or she dumps you. Oh you will feel like the bigger man if you dump her first pftt. If your self esteem is that low that you believe you have to dump a girl first in order to come out on top then I pity you guys.

Did any of use ever think (i know this is crazy) she might just might really be busy :eek:. If she really is busy and you dump her than you ruined a relationship FOR NOTHING because a few people here that think they know everything told you to do it.

Don’t dump her YET keep a very close eye on the situation. If some more telltale signs popup that she is goign to breakup then by al means NEXT her but for now keep it going. If she dumps you first WHO CARES move on. Her loss.

Ninja Out
 

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
OMG relax man. Who cares if you dump her first or she dumps you. Oh you will feel like the bigger man if you dump her first pftt. If your self esteem is that low that you believe you have to dump a girl first in order to come out on top then I pity you guys.

Did any of use ever think (i know this is crazy) she might just might really be busy :eek:. If she really is busy and you dump her than you ruined a relationship FOR NOTHING because a few people here that think they know everything told you to do it.

Don’t dump her YET keep a very close eye on the situation. If some more telltale signs popup that she is goign to breakup then by al means NEXT her but for now keep it going. If she dumps you first WHO CARES move on. Her loss.

Ninja Out
Yeah , but he said she already has a history of lying - Need more details on that though. 2 weeks of BS like that, you gotta admit, its a red flag that she's through with him.

Also, y cant u go to any of these parties with her (that are quite trivial in life anyways - family b-days, a college visit, and trip to Dunes) ?? Most people dont make some big issue out of a stupid b-day for a relative unless they have no life. All I do is give them a card or take em out to eat for maybe an hour or so... Every single one of those events thats she's doing should include you !
 

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Being busy for more than a few days is disrespectful to any DJ. This shouldn't be tolerated, and any tolerance will just reinforce her negative habits. She just isn't interested in you anymore, I would have thought that was plainly obvious.. You still have a lot to learn.

Just go do your own thing and find other chicks... When a better option comes along, take it... Then dump her.
 

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Thought I'd update everyone. I havent called her in a few days, but everytime I sign on she talks to me, we talk for a few minutes and then she seems not interested.

I asked what she did the previous night, and she replied she went out to eat with her family, and then went to her friends house and this guy who is 24 took her and her friend out for ice cream.....a night that she could have spent with me. When she told me that I just signed off.

I won't tolerate it, and I've set up a date for a girls # that I got about a year ago and we never met up.

NO SOUP FOR YOU!!! NEEEXXXTTTTTTT!!!!!!!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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cyjay201

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Mac and TX, I know she's full of ****, and that's fine. I have a date this week anyway. Until she gets her head out of her ass I'll just be seeing this other chick.
 

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good job, man.

:up:

-JP
 

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dump

cyjay,

She is giving you a 'dump job'.

so,

Move on.... Next............................

cave dweller
 

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Remove her number from your phone - and remove her from your IM list.

Don't call or talk to her.

move on with your life.

It will drive her crazy not knowing what the hell is going on.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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