FWB saga is finally over...

[Single_Sucks]

I've had a friend-with-benefits for exactly 3 years and in that time I slept with her 100+ times. For the majority of it I have been also totally infatuated with her but she never responded positively to any romantic advances.
Today she came around to my place to call it all off, saying that she has had enough of it all now, didn't feel like we were mean't to be, is worried about getting pregnant etc etc bla bla bla

I'm kinda gutted, but maybe it's for the best. In the beginning of it I was very sauve about things and I feel that I gave it the best shot I could. In the end, though, my game got exhausted and I started to lose the plot (and my mind) over her.

I will still be friends with this girl and see her alot in social events but as far as romance is concerned I am ending all efforts right now. Game over.

 

[KontrollerX]

"I will still be friends with this girl"

And thats why you'll never get to hit it ever again.

This is a continuation of your "losing the plot".

Cut off all contact completely if you ever want a chance to get what you got previously again in the future.

Otherwise you'll just be giving her all the good stuff that she wants that being your friendship with none of what you want which of course is pounding her guts in.

 

[Single_Sucks]

Yes, but to cut all contact with her I would have to cut all contact with my other 30 friends also, because we socialise in a group.

However, you make a good point about 'giving her what she wants'. I could be all buddy-like towards her or I could just forget she exists.

Anyway, its like game over now so i probably wont 'bother' doing anything. I want my good 'vibe' back.

 

[slaog]

I'm kinda gutted, but maybe it's for the best. In the beginning of it I was very sauve about things and I feel that I gave it the best shot I could. In the end, though, my game got exhausted and I started to lose the plot (and my mind) over her.

I will still be friends with this girl and see her alot in social events but as far as romance is concerned I am ending all efforts right now. Game over.

Thats what happens when you have oneitis. You only focus on the girl and neglect yourself. You slipped back and she lost her attraction towards you.


The part about not wanting to become pregnant is a joke! Did she suddenly realise how babies are made.


Forget about her. Avoid her for a few weeks. I say avoid just to destroy the oneitis. Go after other women or start doing some self development or something. When you're over her she won't matter to you when you do see her so no need to go out of your way to avoid her then.