“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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FWB calling it a day. Wants to stay friends

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*Sigh*
FWB wants to call it a day to sort herself out and wants to stay friends.
I'm her rock etc. she doesn't want to lose me etc.

To be honest whilst that's nice to hear, I'm thinking of myself here yano and I want your thoughts guys.

I like this girl as a friend, we get on really well and she's a laugh and I'm happy spending time with her.
That said however, a big part of our 'relationship' was s´x of course and I don't know if I'd want to hang with this girl without s´x at the end of it.

Right now I'd play it by ear, tell her let's enjoy the time we have etc and if I get tired of it or feel I can't separate the s´x and the friendship then call it a day.

That way I'm not losing a good friend on the chance I can't deal with the lack of sex, I mean I won't know till I try and have the eject option if required having experienced both sides of the coin so to speak.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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She's most likely pushing you a little cause she wants a LTR. She tells you you're her rock and all.... She wants more than just sex. Your decision.
 

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El Suave said:
She's most likely pushing you a little cause she wants a LTR. She tells you you're her rock and all.... She wants more than just sex. Your decision.
Nah fella trust me it ain't that, there's history there between us so a relationship isn't on the cards with her. It's come up before and she didn't want it then and I doubt nothing's changed since then.
I mean her words were 'I either want to go all the way or not at all' but that was her reasoning for calling this a day because she doesn't want to go all the way.
 

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Yeah, exactly what I said! She wants it all or nothing. Problem here is that she would never submit to you and wants you to submit. You're a challenge now to her. Stick to your terms and if she comes around to bang, fine. Most likely she will. Women won't just bang you without feelings
 

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El Suave said:
Yeah, exactly what I said! She wants it all or nothing. Problem here is that she would never submit to you and wants you to submit. You're a challenge now to her. Stick to your terms and if she comes around to bang, fine. Most likely she will. Women won't just bang you without feelings
But she doesn't want it all with me matey! This has come up before, we're talking like 2 months back and she didn't want it then. What would've changed huh? Hadn't seen her for a month until we spent today just chilling for the very reason she wanted to show me it was possible to hang out without s#x as I've originally said I doubt I could do friendship without it now.

Now how can she want a relationship out of all of that!?

In sticking to my terms, you say just go with the friendship?

EDIT: The whole 'your my rock' thing came after she said she wanted to end it but stay friends i.e. I don't want to sleep around anymore with random guys as I want to sort myself out but i don't want to lose you either as you're my rock etc though I understand if you can't do friendship without sex.
I'm just not seeing it.
 

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Can you say friend zone? Go ghost, it will sort itself out. Listen to what she says, I don't want to bang, I just want you to sit there and listen to the crap that I say. Don't be an emotional tampon. Disappear for a week, just tell her you were busy getting laid. It's just a FWB situation, don't think too much. Hang out with her if you feel like it, but get something more than an earfull in return.
 

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El Suave said:
Can you say friend zone? Go ghost, it will sort itself out. Listen to what she says, I don't want to bang, I just want you to sit there and listen to the crap that I say. Don't be an emotional tampon. Disappear for a week, just tell her you were busy getting laid. It's just a FWB situation, don't think too much. Hang out with her if you feel like it, but get something more than an earfull in return.
Hmm, guess I'll do my thing for awhile and play it by ear. See when she pipes up again.
 
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