"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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fvcking jealousy!

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Ok fellas, this is how relationships work.

They're like a bird cage. If you leave the door open, the bird will always fly back home. If you lock the door, that bird will only want to fly away.

If she wants to have lunch with an ex boyfriend, let her. Be cool with it. It's not that you don't trust her, it's that you don't trust guys that you don't know. I know this, but you should trust that she'll do everything in her power to not have anything happen. And if it does, then she's a slut and you can NEXT her.

That way, if you want to go hang out with a girl or an ex she won't get all pissy, trust me this makes for the best relationships, just curb that fvcking jealousy!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well this is a tricky situation. Just because you would let her see an ex-bf doesn't mean she would be okay wtih you talking to an ex-gf. Girls are hipocrites. They will still want to keep you in line and on a short leash even if you let them do whatever they want.

The best way to handle it is to AMOG the guy. Be like "oh what does he want? *then in a saracast doing an impression of him voice say* oh please take me back, I miss you so much, can i hold you? I need you baby!"

She will probably laugh, and she will remember that if he tries to put on any moves and reject them. Its almost like an immunization from her falling for the cheesy lines that ex's will use to try to win back their former girlfriends.

Other than that there isn't much you can do. I agree that showing a lot of jealousy is bad, and if you try to interrogate her about it further, or show behavior that shows you don't trust her (and lets face it, girls can say no, so its not JUST about not trusting the guy, its about her too), then she will lose interest in you. Not all the way necessarily, but it will drop.

And if you are dating someone whose really hot and an attention wh0re she might even cheat just to spite you. I have heard of this happening, I actually spoke to a girl that said her boyfriend was so jealous when she was talking to other guys she fvcked someone just to spite him in her head (since she never told him).

But definitley avoid at all costs playing the part of the jealous boyfriend. That means no calling every few minutes while she's out - heck, don't call AT ALL if she is out with other guys and she told you this in advance. Also don't ask many questions when she returns, other than a "how was it?" and "so what ya guys have for lunch?".

Play it cool, and she will respect you for it. But still, don't expect to be able to hang out with your ex's or other girls by themselves just because you played it cool.
 
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actually my roommates girlfriend fvcked me because he was so jealous of me when i was around her and she just got sick of it. You're right about that.
 
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T Money said:
Ok fellas, this is how relationships work.

They're like a bird cage. If you leave the door open, the bird will always fly back home. If you lock the door, that bird will only want to fly away.

If she wants to have lunch with an ex boyfriend, let her. Be cool with it. It's not that you don't trust her, it's that you don't trust guys that you don't know. I know this, but you should trust that she'll do everything in her power to not have anything happen. And if it does, then she's a slut and you can NEXT her.

That way, if you want to go hang out with a girl or an ex she won't get all pissy, trust me this makes for the best relationships, just curb that fvcking jealousy!
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If my girlfriend wants to have lunch with her ex- (other than an ex-husband that happens to be the father of her kids - I would make an exception to that) ...you can rest assure that I will give her a little speech (about a 30 second speech) about how important is respect for ME.

But, I won't tell her what to do. It will be up to her.

If she stills go to that lunch with her ex-...then I would next her.

Why? Because I value self-respect a lot more than anything else.
 
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T Money said:
actually my roommates girlfriend fvcked me because he was so jealous of me when i was around her and she just got sick of it. You're right about that.
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No...she fvcked you because she wanted to fvck you. And he was more than right to be alert. Make no mistake about that.

The reason she gave is just B.S. and if you believe that reason, then you are very naive.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well...I MIGHT say something like this: “Baby…I know you love me…I know you care for me...more importantly, I know you respect me. That’s why I am with you, because respect is very important to me. A man that does not command respect…is less than a man. You can be a CEO or some VIP, but if your woman does something that might be seeing as disrespectful or might discourage respect from others... you can rest assure that other men will lose respect for you as a man. Baby, you going to lunch with your ex-boyfriend…I don’t like it. I used to lose respect for men that allowed that to happen to them…and I will start losing respect for myself if I accept that kind of behavior. But, you are not my property and I would never...never...NEVER... tell you what to do. It is your choice!”
 
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And that works Latinoman? It seems a little forced... doesn't the woman every question why your saying that? And doesn't you saying that show it bothers you, and even a little show your a insecure about her meeting her ex.
 
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