"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fvckin flakes

gimmeyofonenumba

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I hate this sh1t. I called this girl 4 hrs ago and to confirm for ~8pm and we'd be going out. Sure enough i call 8:15 and no answer. call 3 more times and leave a message. Sh1t pisses me off. She even complemented me on how she liked my voice, and sounded excited to be coming with me. Sh1t sucks i dunno wtf to do anymore. I know the rapport was weak, we really didnt talk about much at all. The rapport is probably the problem but gotdamn doesnt anything come easy sometimes? sh1t always happens to me. I really thought this one would work. I wanna go to the club tonight but with this attitude sh1t wont work. Even if it does work its still gonna be the same as this b1tch all over again.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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KontrollerX

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Screw it man.

You might as well go to take your mind off of things.

Have a few drinks and relax.

Your world will turn for the better eventually.
 

Phyzzle

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There is something I do to vastly reduce the # of flakes.

Sure enough i call 8:15 and no answer.
Don't do that. Don't call her at 8:15. Just go.

I called this girl 4 hrs ago and to confirm for ~8pm and we'd be going out.
Should have set up a date/time/place 4 hours ago. Don't call her at 8pm. I don't think girls like it when you keep calling to ask "Have you changed your mind yet?" Just assume that it's on and show up.
 

gimmeyofonenumba

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Phyzzle said:
There is something I do to vastly reduce the # of flakes.



Don't do that. Don't call her at 8:15. Just go.



Should have set up a date/time/place 4 hours ago. Don't call her at 8pm. I don't think girls like it when you keep calling to ask "Have you changed your mind yet?" Just assume that it's on and show up.
nah. She said she didnt know where the place was and I told her i'd pick her up. She seemed fine with it and told me the 2 main roads by her house. I called and left a message telling her i was in the area, etc.
 

Phyzzle

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I told her i'd pick her up.
Bingo. So go pick her up. Is it too late to go now?

That is, you should have asked for her address right away. Just get her address and go to mapquest. Screw driving around listening to her vague-ass directions.

The point is, just set it all up when she's on the phone so you don't have to keep calling. Set up everything. The whole thing. All of it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jeremymichael

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sounds a bit similar to a girl who I met. She asked me for a lift to work one day, we arranged for 8-15am. Guess what no show, no call to tell me she would not make it, no text, nothing. I didn't call her I just drove off. Then when I saw her the other night in the pub she just said she had a hangover and was sorry. Damm flakes. What suprised me was that I thought she had a bit more about her, and would have the common curtosey to call me if she changed her mind. I waited for 15 minutes for her like a lemon.
 
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