FVcked a girl - have I conveyed too much interest

[Lion]

I'm 27 and have been pursuing a 21 year old girl.

Took her on a first date and it went well. I invited her to mine for the next date, she couldn't make the day we arranged, made up some excuse but offered to reschedule for Friday. So she came over for dinner Friday and we fvcked and I made sure she came lots!

The next morning we both went to an all day party for a show we were both involved in.
She was being pursued by almost every guy there. And she told me no touching or kissing, so I told her she couldn't kiss me.

We ended up staying out the whole day in our circle of friends, she was being pursued by one guy who she thought was gay but I didn't think so. This guy has been texting her to meet up for weeks, she has been showing me his messages.

I was having fun, talking with other girls. She ended up inviting me for dinner with her sister and friends.
Her sister is very protective of her.

After dinner I got really tired by the time we went to a club. In the club she started acting aloof.

She lives far from me and can only come stay with me if she is based at her sisters place.

She was staying with her sister and I assumed that I would be staying there too but I was told no. I told her yes I am staying but I didn't have the balls to persist, I invited her back to mine but she declined so I got cab back to mine.

She called and text me to say I didn't say "goodbye" and sorry about her sister saying no but I think this was an excuse.

I haven't replied to say "I got home ok"

How would you proceed with this guys, I want to keep seeing this girl.

 

[st_99]

I want to keep seeing this girl.

How bad? Like you'll be upset if you never see her again? Well, you're already toast if thats the case.

That means your head is in the wrong place so only the wrong things will happen. What i'm saying sounds
a bit philosophical but I've found thats how things work.

 

[Lion]

Hey st 99 thanks for your reply,

I wouldn't be upset as I have other options.

I have been on a journey of improving my success with girls, recently I've found it easy to attract average looking girls and get into bed with them. But why settle for a lesser attractive girl when the excitement of a hot girl is on the cards.

I've experienced that one of the biggest challenge with attractive girls is the competition with other guys. I am quite restrained and can play it cool, but yesterday was testing for me.

I just really enjoy fvcking her, not that I have fvcked many girls so many years younger than me.

Clearly last night the attraction became mixed feelings when we went to the club. I should have left after dinner instead of going clubbing.

I have noticed there's a lot of material on here about being a jerk, would you ignore her message, just forget about her and just date other girls, if she comes to you then proceed as you should...

 

[origin138]

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/the-sixteen-commandments-of-poon/

Pretty much what st_99 said. Try to keep yourself in the mindset that if she goes, or if you were to never see her again, it's OK. If you operate in a scarcity mentality, you'll be abandoned by this chick because she'll smell it on you. Make your life, not your woman, your mission. Also, read the post at the link above. It will realign you with how you need to be right now to keep this woman in your orbit, not the other way around.

 

[Slickster]

The key here is that after you fvcked her she didn't want to be seen holding hands, touching or kissing the next day in front of your peers.

Actions louder than words. She wants to stay available.

You need to be hard to get. Let her subtly know that you are interested in other women. ie. flirt with others etc. You need to stimulate her competitive instincts. She will come around.

 

[disgustipated]

She tasted your flavor...I.e. ****ed you...and she's acting like this? What else you got.up your sleeve to impress this chick? Nothin. You made her come multiple times and she's not bonding like a normal healthy chickadee that's put her main currency out there to you? Huge.red flag,.think about what her actions are saying or in this case, inaction.

 

[SecondHalf]

If you made her multigasm, then you maybe getting one of many tests.

Just go off the radar for a spell.
She has to come back to you or you've already lost.

The holding hands at a party, that doesn't matter. Could be advertising availability, or more likely, it would be a little tacky to go coupled to a professional event. I wouldn't even blink an eye at this behavior (would enforce it for myself actually).

I'm dating one socialite at the moment who's throwing every test I can imagine (other than immaturity) at me. The less I react, and the more she has to contact me, the easier it gets.

Key is, if you worry about it, you're fooked!

SH

 

[Boilermaker]

The key here is that after you fvcked her she didn't want to be seen holding hands, touching or kissing the next day in front of your peers.

Actions louder than words. She wants to stay available.

You need to be hard to get. Let her subtly know that you are interested in other women. ie. flirt with others etc. You need to stimulate her competitive instincts. She will come around.

^ Golden.

If a woman fvcks with the intention of caging, she would never ever reject a display of commitment (holding hands) in front of peers.

Maybe she fvcked you for the fun of it?

 

[Lion]

Hey thanks for all the support guys, it's incredibly helpful to hear from you.

Secondhalf, could you say what tests the girl you are dating is throwing - I hope to learn as much as I can.

How long a spell off the radar... she did call me twice and text me that night. I still haven't contacted her, would you?


I have been messaging other girls and should have at least two dates in the next week or so lined up.

 

[SecondHalf]

Hey thanks for all the support guys, it's incredibly helpful to hear from you.

Secondhalf, could you say what tests the girl you are dating is throwing - I hope to learn as much as I can.

How long a spell off the radar... she did call me twice and text me that night. I still haven't contacted her, would you?


I have been messaging other girls and should have at least two dates in the next week or so lined up.

I'm only messing with a couple right now, but I've received an unrealistic reaction or two to minor incidents to see how I handle it.

I've had one woman push back, saying I don't want to make any commitment, yet texts me 10 times a day and wants to see me most nights (which for the most part, I'm busy).

Regarding going ghost, and raising her interest level?

I will defer that question to the more skilled DJ's on this forum.
However, what I would do (right or wrong), is let her spin for a couple days, then answer something back vague, off topic even.
Seems a fine line between her giving up and her interest peaking.

SH