"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Fvck womens feelings

Eaglecreek

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 11, 2008
Messages
97
Reaction score
0
6 months ago I've dumped my gf, I loved her alot, and it broke my own heart doing so. She just kept playing with me, making appointments and coming 2 hours later, trying to make me jealous, only doing sh!t her way(she's bossy), etc. I was kinda forced into dumping her, after I did so she put all the blame on me, I broke her heart. I even begged her to take me back.. Yesterday was the last time I did so, she kissed me and said she didn't feel anything anymore, and that it wouldn't work anymore. Then she asked that I would still talk to her... I just told her "You shattered my heart and that I never hope to see you again. Hopefully you'll find someone who will love you as much as I did." Couldn't get any sleep yesterday... Even when I kissed, even while I was doing other girls, I thought of her...
I feel like sh!t that I've lost my GF, I feel even more like sh!t that I've cared about it for 6 months. 6 months of fvcking agony for what... What an idiot I've been...

I won't take this sh!t anymore, women driving me around, putting up with all sorts of crap. I'm sick and tired of it, this time its my turn. I won't care about their feelings anymore, I'll do whatever is necessaire to protect my heart, cause I NEVER want to feel this sort of pain again. Sure I'll miss out on some very good girls but I'dd rather be happy alone than be unhappy with some chick who's only using me. Its time to stop being used and start using. I don't give a damn anymore about what women could think, its time to start thinking about what I would think. This time its gonna be my way or the highway.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

jmm854

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 1, 2002
Messages
770
Reaction score
6
Age
41
Location
Carlisle, Pennsylvania
So the little broad took your virginity did she? You'll get over her faster than you think..

And please don't disrespect the word love with a 6 month relationship you're off your rocker if you think you did. We can't love something we don't respect and obviously by dumping your girl you wanted to send just that message, I don't respect the way you treat me.

I'm surprised f*cking another girl didn't cure you.
 

COMPTON

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 8, 2006
Messages
54
Reaction score
0
Sometimes you have to lay your heart on the line though, Yeah some will hurt you but in the end you will have what you want and the past women will see this and be just another lay to you. In my opinion you did the right thing! Take risks, live life, Be happy. Just don't be afraid to do so.
 

KontrollerX

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 11, 2005
Messages
4,476
Reaction score
182
Good post but just know you don't have to give up the good girls with your new mindset.

As sadly protecting your heart and being emotionally cold is the key to most women's hearts for all of us.

Anyway good luck with your recovery buddy.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

Eaglecreek

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 11, 2008
Messages
97
Reaction score
0
KontrollerX said:
Good post but just know you don't have to give up the good girls with your new mindset.

As sadly protecting your heart and being emotionally cold is the key to most women's hearts for all of us.

Anyway good luck with your recovery buddy.
Just like anti dump says, we don't have to put up with everything and sometimes the women with good intentions get into this category for perhaps a wrong reason, anyway, should that happen, then so be it... I won't get too bitter, I just won't get run around with by any women anymore...
 

Desdinova

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2004
Messages
11,681
Reaction score
4,879
I feel like sh!t that I've lost my GF, I feel even more like sh!t that I've cared about it for 6 months. 6 months of fvcking agony for what... What an idiot I've been...
Welcome to the realization that wallowing in your heartbreak is a waste of fvcking time. I wasted three years before I realized what I was doing, and I decided never again to mourn that long over a breakup.

Sure I'll miss out on some very good girls but I'dd rather be happy alone than be unhappy with some chick who's only using me.
This is very true.

Its time to stop being used and start using.
You don't have to use women to "protect your heart". When you truly realize that you'll be happy with or without a woman, that's when you will no longer have to make an effort to "protect your heart". You may still feel the effect of a breakup, but the emotional pain won't be as great because you'll realize that women should NOT be the source of happiness - they can only add or subtract from your existing happiness. When they start to subtract from it, that's when you know it's time to ditch them.

Good luck on your recovery, and good luck on your new path of life.
 

MacAvoy

Banned
Joined
May 10, 2003
Messages
2,940
Reaction score
35
Location
Northern Ontario
She pulled the classic move on you. You dumped her, she convinced you to take her back just so she can have the upper hand in the relationship and cut ties with you. You got played. But so what, it happens to the best of us at times.

The determining factor in your future success will be if you can pick yourself up, dust off and get back on the saddle. You've also learnt that you can't fvck your way out of heartache. You need to grieve. It sounds cheesy but if you don't, you'll end up wasting 3 years like Desdinova did (and I did too). You need to deal with your feelings, realize all the crappy stuff she did to you, and associate those feelings with her, instead of associating love with her. You need to think of why you originally broke up with her, and the way she was a manipulative biatch and treated you with no respect.

Take a few weeks to yourself, work out, improve yourself, you'll feel better, then you'll be ready to take on the world.

ps re-read the bible.
 

nismo-4

Moderator
Joined
Jan 31, 2005
Messages
4,438
Reaction score
1,142
Location
From New Orleans, Louisiana to Atlanta, Georgia!!!
Eaglecreek said:
I won't take this sh!t anymore, women driving me around, putting up with all sorts of crap. I'm sick and tired of it, this time its my turn. I won't care about their feelings anymore, I'll do whatever is necessaire to protect my heart, cause I NEVER want to feel this sort of pain again. Sure I'll miss out on some very good girls but I'dd rather be happy alone than be unhappy with some chick who's only using me. Its time to stop being used and start using. I don't give a damn anymore about what women could think, its time to start thinking about what I would think. This time its gonna be my way or the highway.
I'm proud of you!!! *Hi-5*

I show women I don't play. Sure I've missed out on some, but I don't want b**ches using me. When I get rich and famous, I'm gonna be chewing women out left and right!!! When a woman dumps me then wants to get back, I SAY NO!!! You tossed me aside like a smelly gym sock now you want me again? Hell no. You should do the same thing, if so, keep it up.
 

Eaglecreek

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 11, 2008
Messages
97
Reaction score
0
Thanks for all the responses so far guys, some extra support is definitly what I needed... It won't take much longer till my wounds are healed as I already feel more ready then ever to move on :rockon:. Its my time to control now :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

Top