"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Fvck Im going to see her tomorrow I dont know if I want to deal with it

jigga23

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Ok so tomorrow im going up to where my college is I graduated about a year ago. Theres some beer festival up there and my friend asked me to go. Ill probably see a lot of poeple i havent seen for a while.

But the thing is my ex is still up there. Im not getting into the details of our relationship but i was with her for about 2 years and lived with her. Pretty serious cause we talked about getting a house and getting married. I havent seen her in a month or two we broke up like 5 months ago. I still miss her and im sure she feels the same but thats why shes with a dush bag rihgt now for the time being. I say that cause shes moving away from there in a month or two.

About 2 weeks ago i wrote her an email telling her i was thinking of her and seeing if she was ok. she replied the next day and told me all this sh!t about her life (boring). I replied back let her know what was up with me and left it at that. I called her about 4 days later after i sent the email to ask her a couple of things that needed to get handled. so she calls me today 5 days later at 915am. I felt so AFC for talking to her but i was half asleep when i answered the phone. We talked like everything was cool like about random sh!t. no i want to work things out or anything serious. So her number comes up (shes at the DMV) but before she gets off I say hey im going to be up there tomorrow. she then says call me. I give a sacarastic laugh and say yea.

I know im going to run into her sometime tomorrow. I already know a couple of things i should and shouldnt do.

I should:
Ignore her if I see her
If she comes up to me act like a ****y d1ck
Walk away first
talk to other girls infront of her

I shouldn't:
Call her
Bring up anything about getting back together
Bring up anything about her little dush bag guy
Spill my guts to her.

She puts on this strong frame all the time i cant freakin overcome it sometimes. I do sometimes but most of the time she is strong. I just gotta tell myself to stay strong cause if i dont im fvcked. I dont even know wtf i want anyways from anyone. Within the last 5 months ive talked to a couple of girls. was in a girls bed couldve fvcked her and probably started an ltr with her but i didnt cause i wasnt wanting too. she was a cool chick. I dont even know if i want someone else besides her (ex). I know theres a lot of other girls out there. im a good looking guy but fvck this sucks im torn.
 

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mountain

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I dont even know if i want someone else besides her (ex).
This is one-itis. This is you selling yourself short.

was in a girls bed couldve fvcked her and probably started an ltr with her but i didnt cause i wasnt wanting too. she was a cool chick.
I'm assuming this translates to "I went home with a fat or unattractive chick" or "I went home with an attractive chick, didnt make a move, and rationalized it to save face".

All that said, you can change your situation very quickly by going out this weekend and gaming some new girls. Nothing takes your mind off an old girl like a new better one.
 

WestCoaster

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1. Go up to the beer fest and get drunk (if you have a designated driver).

2. Who cares what she thinks and whether she's there or not. Live your own life. Right now you're giving her complete control over her.

3. Try to meet as many women as you can at the beer fest and try to get some phone numbers. If you don't get any phone numbers, work on your social skills as in meeting other women. This is an opportunity to fine tune those DJ skills, which apparently are lacking right now.

4. Just say NO to oneitis and AFCism ... they are a MAN'S worst enemies.
 
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