Fvck her or ignore her?

[happyDJ]

So one of my ex's is coming to pick up some things from my apartment. She has been giving signs of interest lately.

If she clearly pushes for it, should I just ignore her advances or should I fvck her hard and ignore her afterwards?
I want the option that makes her the most miserable, I know she still has feelings for me. I am not trying to get back with her, and I have no need for sex with her at all atm. I am long over her, but I can't decide which option would leave her more fixed on getting back with me after her visit.

Honestly, I don't care, but today I woke up thinking about this from an intelectual perspective. Suppose, she's really pushing for it, like pushing me against the wall and saying "let's fvck for old times sake". Turn her down or alpha-fvck her down? She's not BDP, but she is very open sexually when in a LTR and we had great wild, at ease, uncomplicated sex.
I suspect it is the "fvcking her" option though.

Any thoughts on this? Which option and why? Thanks!

 

[adam225]

Fvck her, then ignore her... best of both worlds .

 

[happyDJ]

Fvck her, then ignore her... best of both worlds .

I honestly don't care about fvcking her, it makes no difference. I have hotter sex going elsewhere. What I want is to have her chasing me afterwards.
But yeah.. Well, an AFC would fvck her and contact her afterwards. Fvcking her and ignoring is an alpha option.
But I'm torn. Because fvcking her is giving her validation, even if just sexual. The power of turning her down (and the display of lack of interest) isn't it bigger? Women use sex as their prime asset, showing her it has no value, wouldn't it set me apart from the crowd? She knows how good I can fvck her. This has to make her stop and think what just happened.
I might seem all wrapped up around this, but believe me, this is just an exercise in understanding women. I almost just dropped her things off at her work. But then I started thinking about this.


What about a third, different option? Fvckng her, and never initiating contact afterwards. Meaning, instead of ignoring, just reply ****y, funny, uninterested and busy. And never initiating.

 

[YAboi]

resist doing her.

 

[adam225]

I honestly don't care about fvcking her, it makes no difference. I have hotter sex going elsewhere. What I want is to have her chasing me afterwards.
But yeah.. Well, an AFC would fvck her and contact her afterwards. Fvcking her and ignoring is an alpha option.
But I'm torn. Because fvcking her is giving her validation, even if just sexual. The power of turning her down (and the display of lack of interest) isn't it bigger? Women use sex as their prime asset, showing her it has no value, wouldn't it set me apart from the crowd? She knows how good I can fvck her. This has to make her stop and think what just happened.
I might seem all wrapped up around this, but believe me, this is just an exercise in understanding women. I almost just dropped her things off at her work. But then I started thinking about this.


What about a third, different option? Fvckng her, and never initiating contact afterwards. Meaning, instead of ignoring, just reply ****y, funny, uninterested and busy. And never initiating.

You're over thinking.... If it was my EX I'd FVCK her, then I'd probably keep in light contact with her I.e. I'd only speak to her if she contacted me, & even then I'd keep the messages as short as possible.

Basically you're letting her do all the work and just fvcking her when the chance pops up. Simples...

 

[happyDJ]

You're over thinking.... If it was my EX I'd FVCK her, then I'd probably keep in light contact with her I.e. I'd only speak to her if she contacted me, & even then I'd keep the messages as short as possible.

Basically you're letting her do all the work and just fvcking her when the chance pops up. Simples...

Yeah.. Not fvcking her has a serious drawback. If I turn sex down and she starts chasing, she'll probably stop doing it as soon as we fvck. If we fvck now, this makes it easier for her to come back for sex, and actually sex can become an excuse to see me. (AKA fvckbuddies...) This might make her more miserable in the long run, never getting emotional response from me. Not that I actually want to hurt her, I don't care, but thinking about it brings understanding.