Tictac
Banned
I've been seeing this woman for about 6 months. I've dated and had enough other women up to and during the time I've been with her. And, thanks to what I've learned here, its gone well. I was running upwards of 4 women as recently as last month. But 'plate spinning' seems like a lot of work for the payback.
This woman is terrific all around - to look at, talk to, just be with. And she's an amazing sex partner. All in all, she qualifies on every level.
My time is limited. I am raising my 3 kids (17, 15, 12) and am a solo consultant with a travel schedule that keeps me on the move. She's busy too with both domestic and international travel. She's got older children. So getting together is already difficult.
Both our lives are busy and complicated. But we 'get' each other. We're both divorced, she longer than me. After she separated, she was with a guy that treated her as a back door girl. She's burned enough from that and her marriage to not understand why I treat her well. Today, she needed a ride to the airport. I took her. I'd do this for many of my friends.
I'm not being a 'nice guy', I'm being my definition of a good man. But I get the impression that I'm in deeper than she is. I'd like to back up slightly but keep her close. Other than spinning plates (I'm not interested enough to go back to it), how do I manage this?
I've read 'the test that everyone fails' a great post. I think I'm there. But I'd like to pass this one with her. As we've tested each other over time, she makes and exceeds the grade with me. And she admits that she wants to be with me and that she has feelings for me. Maybe that should be enough.
I'm in no hurry to 'go exclusive'. I just don't have much interest in spending the little time I have chasing my tail.
Advice and perspective is what I've come to expect here. How do I draw her further into my world? I know that I'm the prize. She sees that too. Still, I'd like to hook her more thoroughly without lapsing into an AFC.
Your thoughts?
Tictac
This woman is terrific all around - to look at, talk to, just be with. And she's an amazing sex partner. All in all, she qualifies on every level.
My time is limited. I am raising my 3 kids (17, 15, 12) and am a solo consultant with a travel schedule that keeps me on the move. She's busy too with both domestic and international travel. She's got older children. So getting together is already difficult.
Both our lives are busy and complicated. But we 'get' each other. We're both divorced, she longer than me. After she separated, she was with a guy that treated her as a back door girl. She's burned enough from that and her marriage to not understand why I treat her well. Today, she needed a ride to the airport. I took her. I'd do this for many of my friends.
I'm not being a 'nice guy', I'm being my definition of a good man. But I get the impression that I'm in deeper than she is. I'd like to back up slightly but keep her close. Other than spinning plates (I'm not interested enough to go back to it), how do I manage this?
I've read 'the test that everyone fails' a great post. I think I'm there. But I'd like to pass this one with her. As we've tested each other over time, she makes and exceeds the grade with me. And she admits that she wants to be with me and that she has feelings for me. Maybe that should be enough.
I'm in no hurry to 'go exclusive'. I just don't have much interest in spending the little time I have chasing my tail.
Advice and perspective is what I've come to expect here. How do I draw her further into my world? I know that I'm the prize. She sees that too. Still, I'd like to hook her more thoroughly without lapsing into an AFC.
Your thoughts?
Tictac