funny experiment - wow, women really suck at approaching

[joekerr31]

so i decided to try an experiment a few months back. i dont meet women online, just not my thing. but its the perfect venue for running a psychological test.

i put a profile on one of those (free) dating sites. now, im a decent looking guy, but for this experiment i needed a 10 shot. so i put a picture of a guy in my profile that has the marky mark type ab body - really, very few people could build a physique like that. now, add to that the picture was amatuerish looking (ie. believable).

so, what was the result?

the interest from women came pouring in. the fascinating results...

1) holy cr*p do women SUCK on approaching. i mean, they REALLY REALLY suck. despite a lengthy and well written description most women sent an email that said - "nice abs. lets chat"

2) ugly women were MORE likely to approach than hot women. still wondering why that phenomena happened. i mean, these were 5's approaching a 10 male and thinking they had a shot.

although i did this exercise simply out of curiosity regarding female behaviors, im beginning to think that AFCs should do this just to open their eyes to the how women are.

think that guys who have the looks, personality and money are treated differently by women? well create a profile with all of that and see what happens. what youll find is that women will 'throw' themselves at you, but they are just as idiotic in their behavior and thoughts as they are with average guys. haha.

one funny incident was this really hot chic sent me pretty racy pictures on first contact. i replied back "you should be ashamed of yourself sending pictures like that a stranger". hehe. never heard back from her.

anyway, 99% of the women who responded i didn't bother replying to their contact. after all, i was only doing this to see the kinds of reaction i got from women when i put together the "ultimate" (and believable) male profile.

to be honest, it was very impressive.

which just verifies my theory - high quality women are hard to find and being the 'perfect' man wouldn't make it any easier! if anything it might even make it harder. you'd think at least ONE high quality woman would have responded - but all the women who responded were pretty low quality (not just looks, but personality, character and intelligence as well).

 

[RedPill]

Good experiment. I know some there's been threads on this before, but it never hurts to reinforce the message.

...which just verifies my theory - high quality women are hard to find and being the 'perfect' man wouldn't make it any easier! if anything it might even make it harder. you'd think at least ONE high quality woman would have responded - but all the women who responded were pretty low quality (not just looks, but personality, character and intelligence as well).

One thing to consider is that most hot chicks (especially women who have good character traits in addition to looks) do not need to use a dating service, as they are routinely solicited for dates in the offline world.

 

[Bonhomme]

ugly women were MORE likely to approach than hot women. still wondering why that phenomena happened.

Simple. The hot ones don't usually have to. They get too many emails to keep up with every day. Most of them chumps. A few of the very best get a clue, and start writing guys who interest them, rather than sorting through a mountain of chumps.

 

[drmeathead]

yes nice abs is ok but god forbid you send a woman a message saying nice ass. you get a one way ticket to creepyville. i love women and their double standards.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

One thing to consider is that most hot chicks (especially women who have good character traits in addition to looks) do not need to use a dating service, as they are routinely solicited for dates in the offline world.

This may be true for some hot chicks but the majority will tell you that they aren't approached by quality guys. They are normally AFCs with nothing left to lose throwing cheesy lines or they aren't approached at all because the guys are scared. The rest are usually obvious players who just want to get into their pants. That's not a bad thing but c'mon, these guys are either so arrogant or so stupid that they let their intentions be readily known.

So yeah, many are turning to the net so they can at least pick and choose guys they would like to engage. It's much easier than sifting through all the average guys on the street. The only thing that online guys can't do as readily as the guys on the street is readily buy them a drink in an attempt to impress them.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

so i decided to try an experiment a few months back. i dont meet women online, just not my thing. but its the perfect venue for running a psychological test.

i put a profile on one of those (free) dating sites. now, im a decent looking guy, but for this experiment i needed a 10 shot. so i put a picture of a guy in my profile that has the marky mark type ab body - really, very few people could build a physique like that. now, add to that the picture was amatuerish looking (ie. believable).

so, what was the result?

the interest from women came pouring in. the fascinating results...

1) holy cr*p do women SUCK on approaching. i mean, they REALLY REALLY suck. despite a lengthy and well written description most women sent an email that said - "nice abs. lets chat"

2) ugly women were MORE likely to approach than hot women. still wondering why that phenomena happened. i mean, these were 5's approaching a 10 male and thinking they had a shot.

although i did this exercise simply out of curiosity regarding female behaviors, im beginning to think that AFCs should do this just to open their eyes to the how women are.

think that guys who have the looks, personality and money are treated differently by women? well create a profile with all of that and see what happens. what youll find is that women will 'throw' themselves at you, but they are just as idiotic in their behavior and thoughts as they are with average guys. haha.

one funny incident was this really hot chic sent me pretty racy pictures on first contact. i replied back "you should be ashamed of yourself sending pictures like that a stranger". hehe. never heard back from her.

anyway, 99% of the women who responded i didn't bother replying to their contact. after all, i was only doing this to see the kinds of reaction i got from women when i put together the "ultimate" (and believable) male profile.

to be honest, it was very impressive.

which just verifies my theory - high quality women are hard to find and being the 'perfect' man wouldn't make it any easier! if anything it might even make it harder. you'd think at least ONE high quality woman would have responded - but all the women who responded were pretty low quality (not just looks, but personality, character and intelligence as well).

Did you put anything in your profile that would spur an interesting conversation? Anything about school, travel, hobbies, interests? Does your personality show through at all; humor, confidence?

I will admit that many women don't know how to approach DJs so they throw out a line that they believe will impress him. "Nice abs" doesn't take much effort suck like a guy saying "Nice @ss." The best come on I ever got from a woman was "If you gave me your phone number, could I call you?" Alright, she was a blond but that line made her seem even cuter that she already was.

 

[NorPacWolf]

Anonymous replies to potentially phony internet profiles is nothing like an actual real world approach. It doesn't tell us anything about interactions between actual people in real life. It's like trying to extrapolate what's going on in the lives of people posting here based upon their posts. So much of what people write here (as you know) is based upon fabrication, exaggeration, self delusion and posturing, most of the advice and opinions here are pretty close to being worthless.

Norpacwolf

 

[Bonhomme]

So yeah, many are turning to the net so they can at least pick and choose guys they would like to engage. It's much easier than sifting through all the average guys on the street.

I don't think it's that so much as wanting to "widen the net" to include guys they would never have a chance to meet, let alone interact with, in person.

Also, when meeting someone in person, they can usually only get a good sense of their personality, communication and social skills, confidence level, and "chemistry" (which may be perceived as a judgment-clouding negative in the selection process). All of which is great for a fling, but not the stuff upon which most "mature" women want to base a LTR.

Online (provided, of course, the man is not outright lying) they get the info they're really looking for, such as the man's age, income, career, whether or not they were ever married, and may think they can get a better read of the man's character. That, and they tend to have more control of the process, sort of like a prospective employer hiring an employee -- though that can go the other way around if the man's resume is stronger.

Part of the motivation for such a "job interview" approach could be a conscious effort to short-circuit the emotional element and take a more rational approach -- however flawed that may be, whether they realize it or not.

 

[NorPacWolf]

The only thing this experiment proves is that you are becoming more bitter towards women. Ditch the negativity.

PS: Do you have a recent field/dating or lay report?

which just verifies my theory - high quality women are hard to find and being the 'perfect' man wouldn't make it any easier! if anything it might even make it harder. you'd think at least ONE high quality woman would have responded - but all the women who responded were pretty low quality (not just looks, but personality, character and intelligence as well).

 

[SomeGuy]

ugly women were MORE likely to approach than hot women. still wondering why that phenomena happened. i mean, these were 5's approaching a 10 male and thinking they had a shot.

I love that!!!! Reminds me of American Idol when people think they can sing. Sometimes people are just weird and have massive overblown selfconfidence. To top it off, women see things differently to men.

But I also like the "got-to-be-in-it-to-win-it" mentality.

 

[wayword]

Simple. The hot ones don't usually have to. They get too many emails to keep up with every day. Most of them chumps. A few of the very best get a clue, and start writing guys who interest them, rather than sorting through a mountain of chumps.

Bingo. The hotties already have to sort through 100-200 emails a week...just sitting on their ass doing nothing.

Why on earth would they need to approach anyone on top of that? They have a hard enough time just filtering through all the guys that do hit on them.

Any girl, by definition, that has to hit on guys...is probably not too attractive or low-quality in some other way.

Simple supply & demand, dude.

 

[RedPill]

This may be true for some hot chicks but the majority will tell you that they aren't approached by quality guys.

Yeah, I thought about that for a moment, and you're right. They might get hit on often, but the key word here is quality. Quality, in the sense of bringing significant value to the table (as opposed to one's idealizations), is such a rare thing these days all across the board.

As rare as it is to find chicks that are highly attractive, have winning feminine personalities, and don't carry baggage, I suppose it's just as rare for them to find men who are in shape, have built compelling and interesting realities, who embrace their masculinity.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...As rare as it is to find chicks that are highly attractive, have winning feminine personalities, and don't carry baggage, I suppose it's just as rare for them to find men who are in shape, have built compelling and interesting realities, who embrace their masculinity.

BINGO!!

This is why I am SO shocked reading how often guys in the forum complain about women when they choose approach them as RAFCs instead as a DJ in order to appeal to more women. The fact is that they appeal to women who initially choose to be with RAFC type men. It happens when guys see the act of sarging women paramount over self growth both mentally and physically. When guys focus on bolstering their marketability more opportunities (including women) are available to them.

 

[jonwon]

so i decided to try an experiment a few months back. i dont meet women online, just not my thing. but its the perfect venue for running a psychological test.

i put a profile on one of those (free) dating sites. now, im a decent looking guy, but for this experiment i needed a 10 shot. so i put a picture of a guy in my profile that has the marky mark type ab body - really, very few people could build a physique like that. now, add to that the picture was amatuerish looking (ie. believable).

so, what was the result?

the interest from women came pouring in. the fascinating results...

1) holy cr*p do women SUCK on approaching. i mean, they REALLY REALLY suck. despite a lengthy and well written description most women sent an email that said - "nice abs. lets chat"

2) ugly women were MORE likely to approach than hot women. still wondering why that phenomena happened. i mean, these were 5's approaching a 10 male and thinking they had a shot.

although i did this exercise simply out of curiosity regarding female behaviors, im beginning to think that AFCs should do this just to open their eyes to the how women are.

think that guys who have the looks, personality and money are treated differently by women? well create a profile with all of that and see what happens. what youll find is that women will 'throw' themselves at you, but they are just as idiotic in their behavior and thoughts as they are with average guys. haha.

one funny incident was this really hot chic sent me pretty racy pictures on first contact. i replied back "you should be ashamed of yourself sending pictures like that a stranger". hehe. never heard back from her.

anyway, 99% of the women who responded i didn't bother replying to their contact. after all, i was only doing this to see the kinds of reaction i got from women when i put together the "ultimate" (and believable) male profile.

to be honest, it was very impressive.

which just verifies my theory - high quality women are hard to find and being the 'perfect' man wouldn't make it any easier! if anything it might even make it harder. you'd think at least ONE high quality woman would have responded - but all the women who responded were pretty low quality (not just looks, but personality, character and intelligence as well).

Yes they do.
I started the online thing about 2 months ago.
No joke i get about 2-4 fresh message per day, no i aint blowing my own trumpet just stating what i see here.

Women come out with random cra* but the best are usually the honest ones that i like, for example this was sent to me.

Hey i like your profile, i was going to be all shy and just add myself to your fav, but you sound like such a great guy i felt i would take the pludge, if you would like to chat, look at my profile and send me a pm.

She was pritty cute too 27 no kids, i think i may have to follow it thorugh.

But mainly they are older women with kids, some ok some pritty dam ugly and some porkers, yes alot of ugly women contact me but now and again one i actually like contacts me, its getting to the stage where i just look at there profiles if i dont like what i see i dont even open there messages, i mean whats the point.

Strange when i seem to contact anyone they dont want to know, but when i sit back and let them come to me i get alot more of a result, maybe i am doing alot of wrong stuff, or emails are lost in the other 100x of sad men loosers that send responese of:
Want to suck it.
Your the best thing i have ever seen.
Want a sha*
e.t.c.

so i think women are pritty cautious who they contact online since there are alot of wannabe players, sad loosers who cant pull in the real world and spout random trash.

So i dont know i am still new to this thing, but i can relate to the above and no i dont show pictures of abb's and shi*.

 

[wayword]

Well I rely heavily on approaching girls through chat bases social networks (hate email approaches, real time interaction gives away tons more about the person) as I am a geeky looking guy, nothing much to be done about that. So my approach is through mind fÖcking the broads before getting to know them in real life. Works good for me..

So here`s some more experiments you can try... but I should be warning you,
you will be staring into the coldness of outer space...

1) Draw up a profile as a girl looking for another girl... Take some medium hot picture from somewhere on the net. Make sure you are looking for a lesbian f0ck buddy. You will be blown out of you socks
- how many drop dead gorgeous babes will approach you
- how many of them are in relationships with guys and trying to cheat him with another woman
- how many will openly confess about doing this for the umptenth time..
- how many will openly tell you about their sex life... You will feel like on slut planet. No need to pretend and play the non-slut rule as in talking to guys.
scary scary scary.

2) If you got to know some broad and are thinking dating her, approach her from another fake profile. Take some attractive guys pic ... or better, make up a profile that is contrary to yours. Get into that role. Talk to her. You will be absolutely astonishes about what you will get out of that conversation.
This is based on the cardinal principle of humane interaction - we always receive a reaction to what we are sending. We never get the whole picture about a person. We only get how that person shows herself in communication with us.
Again, scary ****.

Verrryyyy interesting. You should post the fake profile pix and results somewhere...

 

[Faca]

1) holy cr*p do women SUCK on approaching. i mean, they REALLY REALLY suck. despite a lengthy and well written description most women sent an email that said - "nice abs. lets chat"

HAHAHAH, thats actually a nice one! But women do suck at approaching.. just because they dont have to approach.. doesnt mean... that they shouldnt!

- faca