"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fun times.

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So a girl I have been hanging out with got her car messed up the other night, almost 100% sure her husband did it because he is a crazy stalker and has raped her, shes 19, hes 40.

Anyways, she is trying to blame it on me so I have to now go talk to the Police and explain to them it's not me and what is going on, I am not sure if she is in on it and trying to just be a ***** or if her husband is scaring her into doing it, when I had a chance to talk to her before all this she seemed like a really nice person pretty chilly and kind hearted then all this. Today I saw her at work for about 30 mins before she went home and she did not seem happy at all, she even has a restraining order on her husband but still goes back to his house.

Im pretty sure I pissed her husband off quite a bit because I was trying to help her out of that situation and he reads all her txt msgs.

Just wondering if anyone has delt with this before, I have never had to talk to the cops about anything like this, have a perfect record since I started driving at 16 and 25 now. And he has stolen gun charges, demestic dispute charges ect.

I really just want to get out of the middle of this and leave it behind, no girl is really worth all this.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Muppet, have you considered taking Self Defense courses?
Perhaps purchasing a pistol and a concealed weapons permit?
 

jophil28

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WTF are you thinking hanging out with a 19 year old MARRIED teenager with a loony husband?
You need to make better choices -
 

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:crackup:
Better listen to Big Poppa!:trouble:

Dude, he's right!
 

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jophil28 said:
WTF are you thinking hanging out with a 19 year old MARRIED teenager with a loony husband?
You need to make better choices -

Eh she wanted out, gave him the rings back, ran away on their 1 year to my place ect. But I guess he has quite a strong grip on her, and I have seen him, hes nothing special, nore do I think he would try anything to hurt me but who knows so many weird people out there.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you don't stop ALL communication with her--no one should EVER listen to ANYTHING you have to say..............
 

jophil28

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Simple solution to your dilemma. Cut all contact NOW before that psycho husband and his 19 year old psycho teen ho tie you, and your young life, up in a pretzel . There is a smorgasbord of women out there., Go get some without the baggage. Say NO to baggage.
I get baggage with the women I date at MY age. That is understandable, They have had 30 years to assemble an extensive trail of wreckage behind them .
Go sow some oats.

Do not play Save -a -Ho

It does not work for me, even at my age.
(BTW- how old are you ?)
 

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Crazy rapist husband, sure. Do you have any evidence apart from what she's said that she actually does have a restraining order?

Anyway, it's irrelevant because you need to flee.
 

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Go get a cape and a supersuit cause you're trying to be captain save a ho. If you call her, slap yourself silly cause it will be better in the long run for you.
 

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Wow. And I thought I had too much drama in my life at times.....
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Get Away From This Chick And Do It Now
After you cut all contact from her...
*Do not accept her calls
*Refuse her letters
*Block her e-mails
*Call the cops if she comes to your house
*Put a restraining order against her if needed

This is a "Law & Order" episode (ripped from the headlines) if I ever saw one. It starts with them finding the mangled body of Capt. Sav-A-Ho (played by YOU) and the story goes down hill from there.

This is a very dangerous situation and you need to be FAR away from it
 

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Aye I plan on getting as far away as I can, havent responded to any txt msgs in the past few days, talking to the cops today then hopefully things will be done soon.
 
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