"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Its becoming overly apparent to me that there are little things for me to do at night. Ya know I have a friend over, or go to the mall, or movies. But, I cant drive yet and its a freakin pain in the a55.

What are some fun things to do on free time?
This doesn't even have to do include where to find girls, althought that couldn't hurt, just somewhere to do something worthwhile.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Read "hobbies of a dj" thread.

Video games are fun for a few hours, just don't give your life to them!
 

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Nah thats not wat i mean, ive read that post be4.
I mean whats a good place to go to. Like general ideas, sh*t besides malls or movies.

Please help I'm gonna go insane, Ive done jack this whole vacation.
 

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ice skating, walk in the park, picnic, soccer or whatever sport with the buddies. Museums, aquariums, zoos. Job?
 

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ha werd, youve got it better than i do. The nearest movie theater or even mall is 50 miles from where i live. My school is a big gathering of about 4 small towns. Hell there isnt even a truckstop restaurant within 10 miles =(. Thank God i get my license in sept.

Anyway i mostly keep myself busy with bodybuilding. I only started into the DJ mindset tword the begining of this school year and didnt think i wanted to do any sports. This summer and onward however im going to be keeping myself busy with karate, basketball, baseball, electric guitar lessons, summer and fall jobs and after summer ill be able to drive and take myself to other places.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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golf takes up about 4 hours of my day; gr8 game
 

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call me a nerd but during holidays from time to time i like to compile my vocab list and memorize more words so i can get more than my current score on the SAT test im taking in May.. still trying to get 1450.. i got 1350 on my previous one.. which sucks... its better to start now then to regret it later.. im gonna have to send in my college apps in around 7 months.. its a scary thought.
 

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Hobbies. Key word.

Hobbies provide a few things

social outlets
increased skill potential
enjoyment

There are so many things you can pick up and try, and there will be other people doing them that will be more than happy to invite you in. Why do you think sports are so popular? They're fun, you get to stay in shape, and you meet/know people. The downside is that some hobbies require a bit of money, but hey, what doesn't?
 

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Parks are cool places to go hang out with friends; you could play frisbee or basketball or hackey sack or something. It's outside, you get some exercise, it's a pleasant environment. You could go at night and have a campfire. If you play acoustic guitar you could bring that and sit around the fire playing music.
 
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Go to your nearest drug dealer and get me a quarter of some juicy fruit dank, pronto...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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List of things I love to do in spare time at the house:
1) Read, be it novels, articles on the web, newspaper, et cetera...
2) Find one tv show (Dont want to much of this!) that you can attach to and follow weekly. I personally love the apprentice since im looking to major in business.
3) Exercise in my room, just pushups and abdominal exercises.
4) Find a collectible hobby, or just go outside and enjoy nature around you.
5) Music
 

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Dude, Gav, you play golf too? I love golf! Me and about 9 of my buddies go out on the course and have a great time. And we won back to back NH state championships. Whats yur handicap? (Mines a 5). And Deeloo, are you on crack? A 1350 does not suck. Obviously if you want to go Ivy League then you do need to get better, but a 1350 definitely does not suck. Thats what I got and its in like the 98th percentile in the country. Anyways, I play golf, lift weights, go bowling on Wednesdays, party all weekend, and mini golfing when its warm. All of these things are 100x more fun if your doing it with friends. I honestly cant stand hanging out at my house with a friend or two, not doing anything. Also, watching sports, doing homework, and reading my latest book takes up most of my weeknights.
 

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I guess it depends how much of an outdoor person you are, but I like to sometimes just chill outside in the woods, or around a river, or whatever. Just doing nothing at all every now and then is cool.

Aside from that, try bookstores, go look for small restaurants/coffee shops/whatever to eat in (which can also be helpful when looking for places to go on dates later).

call me a nerd but during holidays from time to time i like to compile my vocab list and memorize more words so i can get more than my current score on the SAT test im taking in May.. still trying to get 1450.. i got 1350 on my previous one.. which sucks... its better to start now then to regret it later.. im gonna have to send in my college apps in around 7 months.. its a scary thought.
Good luck, man. You should be fine -- I got a 1460 with no preparation except lots of weed, so you shouldn't have a problem getting a high score if you're trying.
 

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I would suggest getting a hobby. Find something you feel you could vent with.

Feel artistic? try painting or drawing.
Feel uncultured? Read magazines.
Feel Un-inteligent? Read Novels (none of that harry potter LOTR crap, read inspirational books such as Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintnence By Robert M. Persig or Sidhartha by Herman Hessa)
Feel like you need more nature? Start hiking
Feel like you need nature and art? Try photography
Feel like you suck at basketball? start shooting hoops.
Etc... etc....

Those are some very good ways to kill the time during the day but now lets say its night?

This is tricky because every city is different.

If you like cruisers, just go to the local cruisin street and just chill out there.
Just go hang out with people from your school. Try and find parties.

Like i said every city is different, just don't be like me and sit home for freshman and soph year. There is ALWAYS something to do
 

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Guys, there's an ENDLESS list of things to do in life. It's great to do things that you love doing, but don't ignore things you haven't tried before. Do something you never tried before or believed was impossible for you. Remember that "Impossble is nothing, for nothing is impossible." Go out there and experience the wonderful things life has to offer you, which is not just videogames and pu$$y.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Deeloo, the best way to improve your SAT score is to go through as much of the book "10 Real SATs" as you can. It's a lot more efficient than memorizing vocab words or anything else you could do such as going to a test prep class.
 

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Originally posted by zachamun
Dude, Gav, you play golf too? I love golf! Me and about 9 of my buddies go out on the course and have a great time. And we won back to back NH state championships. Whats yur handicap? (Mines a 5)
i'm off 4 :D

me and about 5 of my m8s go out every weekend. gr8 laughs... aiming at ducks and pheasants and old women etc.

NH state championships? well done, sounds important

i've got a bursary to play just now, which means i get about £700 a year (over $1000).

are you into the fitness side of the golf? when i started training for it, started shooting consistently good rounds, because i actually was getting tired at the end, even though it didn't feel like it. have you tried making golf swings using cables in the gym with light and heavy weights, raising and lowering the height of the cable?
 

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Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance is an awesome book, I'm readin that in Theory of Knowledge class...Vincent, are you in an IB program?
 

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Originally posted by Need-2-B-Pimpin
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance is an awesome book, I'm readin that in Theory of Knowledge class...Vincent, are you in an IB program?
1st: we don't have one :)
2nd: I'd be to stupid to get in anyways :D

My friend reads a lot, and he gets me hooked on really awesome books. So give all the credit to him. but i'm seriously loving that book.
 

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werd, you say there's nothing to do there at night? i can relate to that. around here, we're lucky to find anywhere to go that doesn't close before 10:00, and that's just on normal weekends. sundays are the worst of all. on sundays, most places close around 6:00. it's terrible. me and my buddy just resort to driving about as far as reasonably possible looking for new places to hang out, but, as i said, these places run by a much different clock than ours.

and bombshell, have fun with those guitar lessons. that'll be nice, because i've discovered teaching yourself is a bit harder. sure, it can be done, but it would be nice if i had somebody with experience there to tell me what i'm doing wrong. lol.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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