Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Wilko

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Came up with this while buying some cheese at a deli the other day, went down a treat. Can't use it everywhere, but hey, we all need cold cuts, cheese and nibbles from time to time, especially when they're sold by barely legal hotties just out of their teens.

Cute blonde girl is serving me, I ask her for a handfull of shaved jarlsberg. She rummages around and comes back up with a healthy handfull of wafer-thin-melt-in-your-mouth swiss cheese and asks if it's ok. I get eye contact, smile and say "Big hands eh?". She cracks up and says "Noooo! Medium at most!"

Kinda thing you'd use at a place you go to regularly.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Atom Smasher

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I might be missing something here, but if you're saying you told her she has big hands out of the blue, I think that's a huge mistake, even if it did work in this particular case.

There is a general consensus, which I agree with, that says you never neg a girl directly on a physical attribute. That is just an insult. If I ever tried that, I'd get blown out every time. Most women would take huge offense at being told directly that there is something wrong with them physically. I think it is better to make a vague statement that could mean one thing or another. That's what knocks her off the pedastal, because she's trying to interpret the statement and she thinks it could be a statement of judgment on her, but she's not sure. Therefore she can't get offended, but her tree has been shaken.
 

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nah, it works just fine. I told women they had short arms, were too blond, had muscular arms (while sizing up their biceps), stubby fingers, etc.And I also let them know that I find it cute sometimes... It's all silly things and nothing to take serious or be offended about. Only a completely stuck up PMS ***** would be insulted - good to weed them out.
 
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