Full Discloure Plate Spinning?

[guru1000]

Just want to shoot this out there and get some feedback. i work 12-15 hour days Monday-thursday. The only available times I have to go out are Friday night-Sunday. I have 3 Consistant plates and 5 new plates (first dates set up for next weekend). I had to double up dates friday- sunday of next week and i still fall short of seeing two. I already dropped one plate because of this time factor and her complaints. The consistant plates(plates im sleeping with) seem annoyed to skip a week without seeing me but frankly I dont care.

In the past I would keep a 2-3 plate max to keep it manageable but this seems like its out of control now. My interim strategy is to keep the top 3 plates and constantly recycle with new upgrades.

My final goal is to find ONE and settle down. My concern is the one I am looking for is going to be a high quality woman and likely won't tolerate other plates spinning. I feel a true high quality woman with self respect wont jump into this circus. She will have enough self respect and decency not to be one of the groupies and be an individual different than the pack. In conclusion, I dont know if FULL-DISCLOSURE PLATE SPINNING is conducive to attaining my goal.

I don't spin plates to attain confidence. I already have an inflated sense of confidence. I do it more for entertainment and to go through the numbers game to find the highest quality girl.

Do you feel that FULL DISCLOSURE plate spinning can be counter-productive to finding a TRUE QUALITY woman?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Do you feel that FULL DISCLOSURE plate spinning can be counter-productive to finding a TRUE QUALITY woman?

When has full disclosure ever been a benefit to you? Women's "one up" on men is that they know how to keep their mouths shut about things that would make a guy feel guilty.

In your situation, why would a woman even know that you are spinning plates? Yeah, she may assume that you aren't exclusive but she's only guessing unless you let the cat out of the bag. The only other way that a woman goes down this path is if she's led there. If a guy acts as if they are a couple so as to get what he wants so what is she to expect?

So I ask, what advantage is there to disclosure especially in regards to plate spinning? Where's the benefit? It's your choice to recognize whether she merits your lable of quality. Now if there's difficulty in determining that and you're concerned that she'll find out about your other plates before you decide, that's a different problem.

 

[guru1000]

Now if there's difficulty in determining that and you're concerned that she'll find out about your other plates before you decide, that's a different problem.

Exactly! Let's face it, in the beginning , it is role playing. It takes time to recognize TRUE QUALITY. How many of us thought we have true quality and ended up with lemons?

On the other token, if it does take time to recognize and if she truly is of Quality, I just shot myself in the foot.

It's a lose lose. If I fully disclose , high quality leaves. If i don't, she will sense the scenario in time.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Exactly! Let's face it, in the beginning , it is role playing. It takes time to recognize TRUE QUALITY. How many of us thought we have true quality and ended up with lemons?

On the other token, if it does take time to recognize and if she truly is of Quality, I just shot myself in the foot.

It's a lose lose. If I fully disclose , high quality leaves. If i don't, she will sense the scenario in time.

I still don't get how she'd find out other than you telling her? What would make her sense it in a way that jeopardize things?

 

[betterthandead]

Are you co-dependent or have some obsessive-compulsive need to be busy with things/people?

Just want to shoot this out there and get some feedback. i work 12-15 hour days Monday-thursday. The only available times I have to go out are Friday night-Sunday. I have 3 Consistant plates and 5 new plates (first dates set up for next weekend). I had to double up dates friday- sunday of next week and i still fall short of seeing two. I already dropped one plate because of this time factor and her complaints. The consistant plates(plates im sleeping with) seem annoyed to skip a week without seeing me but frankly I dont care.

In the past I would keep a 2-3 plate max to keep it manageable but this seems like its out of control now. My interim strategy is to keep the top 3 plates and constantly recycle with new upgrades.

My final goal is to find ONE and settle down. My concern is the one I am looking for is going to be a high quality woman and likely won't tolerate other plates spinning. I feel a true high quality woman with self respect wont jump into this circus. She will have enough self respect and decency not to be one of the groupies and be an individual different than the pack. In conclusion, I dont know if FULL-DISCLOSURE PLATE SPINNING is conducive to attaining my goal.

I don't spin plates to attain confidence. I already have an inflated sense of confidence. I do it more for entertainment and to go through the numbers game to find the highest quality girl.

Do you feel that FULL DISCLOSURE plate spinning can be counter-productive to finding a TRUE QUALITY woman?

 

[STR8UP]

Just want to shoot this out there and get some feedback. i work 12-15 hour days Monday-thursday. The only available times I have to go out are Friday night-Sunday. I have 3 Consistant plates and 5 new plates (first dates set up for next weekend). I had to double up dates friday- sunday of next week and i still fall short of seeing two. I already dropped one plate because of this time factor and her complaints. The consistant plates(plates im sleeping with) seem annoyed to skip a week without seeing me but frankly I dont care.

Try having ONE night (ZERO days) per week available to "spin plates".

Guess what that relegates me to? You got it....ONE plate.

But I don't care cause I don't invest myself in any one plate, so it doesn't matter as far as following the Plate Theory.

In the past I would keep a 2-3 plate max to keep it manageable but this seems like its out of control now. My interim strategy is to keep the top 3 plates and constantly recycle with new upgrades.

With your schedule I don't see how you could maintain 3.

If I had three days available, the last thing I would want to do is spend all three of them on women. Maybe that's the difference between an introvert and an extrovert. But I couldn't do it. More power to ya if it works though.

My final goal is to find ONE and settle down. My concern is the one I am looking for is going to be a high quality woman and likely won't tolerate other plates spinning. I feel a true high quality woman with self respect wont jump into this circus. She will have enough self respect and decency not to be one of the groupies and be an individual different than the pack.

At what point in the relationship are we talking?

In the beginning a well adjusted woman shouldn't have a problem with it. Most of them are doing the same thing.

I hear what you are saying though. You don't want a decent one to slip away.

In conclusion, I dont know if FULL-DISCLOSURE PLATE SPINNING is conducive to attaining my goal.

Don't say sh!t. If she brings it up I would try not to give a direct answer, but at the same time don't lie. I got asked that question the other day and I danced around it. Neither confirm nor deny.

From what I have seen women are like ostriches. They are very good at sticking their heads in the sand if they are into you. Even if she suspects there are others she will rationalize your behavior so she doesn't have to face an uncomfortable truth.

I have had more than one g/f tell me "If you're gonna cheat on me, just make sure I don't know about it". Was that a permission slip?

 

[squirrels]

Why do you feel the need to disclose anything??

You're not a BAD person for "shopping around". Get that sh!t out of your head.

Until you've actually discussed "being exclusive" with a girl, she should assume she's not your only option. If she doesn't, she's a moron. Or you haven't projected enough value.