You dodged a bullet...
Whooa whooaa, am I the only one who is seeing a problem here?
Man you needed to drop that female as of yesterday, she sounds like a selfish, needy, and emotional basket case who has a strong "brat" streak in her.
Now I tend to shy away from relationship advice, part because the complaining party does not tell the whole truth (i.e. where they did wrong) and part because both sides always try to make themselves look like the "victim."
However, no one deserves to put up with emotional whinnying and neediness, it is just a drain and a waste of time.
You dated for four months? Honestly, do you really believe that that was prelude to marriage (or that you were already married?) What did you learn about her in this time? Is she a giving person, does she think for herself, is she stable (mentally and emotionally), does she show any compassion for anything outside her "world and wants"? Did you ever question her motives or loyalty? Can she take care of herself, or is it all "me me me"...not that four months (or even four years) is enough or too much time to know these things, but there are things you seriously need to consider when you are in it for the long haul. Did you seriously consider what type of person she is or where you blinded by oneitis?
We were together everyday and we talked every... under normal circumstances I would call any dude who had oneits this bad a simp, however I guess you qualify your experience under a relationship....
She was your girl and you were her man, ok, nothing wrong with being in a relationship (actually it has a lot of benefits) however there is no sense in being in one if it means...
*You have to drop everything to please the other person.
*The relationship revolves around one person.
*You do not know how to say "no".
*You have to constantly deal with drama and or bull
*There is no reciprocation or appreciation
*You are dealing with a selfish and dysfunctional person
She started fussing at me for not... And what did she do for you? Did she "do" special things for you or did you just go "See my balls fit nicely in your purse." From what you have told everyone it appears she falls into the category of a self-centered brat whom wants what they want when they want it (In essence 98% of the females that live in this society also suffer from this dysfunctional way of thinking.) You should have squashed that crap right then and there and or either dropped her like yesterday's paper.
talking about a future... Ask yourself this (and make sure you give yourself a no bs answer), but could you really see yourself marrying this female or was it the oneits/thrill of being with someone (anyone) that made you act/think for rash? Plus the female wasn't even ready to be in a relationship (probably gots hoein on the brain.)
Slow, steady, and discerning wins the race.
She broke up with me...and by doing so she just preformed the most unselfish act in her life. She did you the greatest favor anyone could have ever done, short of taking a bullet or giving you a kidney. Now it is your job to RUN not walk, but RUN as fast and as hard away from her as you can. Be thankful her true attitude (not the fake casual/acquaintance one) revealed itself early on. Better now than later, i.e. when she could take your butt in front of a judge and have the State rape you for alimony/palimony, child support, or assets in a no fault divorce. Better now before she does something completely over the top and emotional and "blames you". (Seeing is how we live a mangina/feminist society, you would carry the blame too.)
Only your ego has been bruised, not your wallet, and not your future, move on...
She had other guys...and that should have been a huge ****ing red flag. If she was being run through and used up by those other guys then your gut should have told you that something amiss. You don't turn a hoe into a housewife, and you don't go claiming the rusty old "town bike" as your own. I don't know about you, but I do not care how good a broad looks, I am not into sloppy seconds under any circumstances.
She wants to be in relationship but without...if the broad wants entertainment she can take her ass to a movie. As far as you are concerned you are done. Learn from your mistakes, don't let oneness (or female looks) cloud your judgment, move the hell on, and for god sakes be a man in your next relationship. You not only need to have high standards for who you date but for yourself as well (standards, respect, courtesy, and selflessness is a two way street.)
