"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Frustrating as fvck.

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Crazy Asian

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I have no problem starting convos with people. Although i'm scared sh1tless when it's a hot girl, i still do it. But in groups, i'm always the person nobody wants to talk to. I want to be the center of the group, and the person that everybody likes.

dam, can someone just try and find some posts on how to be looked up to, and how to be the one getting the attention from the group?
thanks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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nightcrawler

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I have your problem and I'm going on 21 soon:crackup:

I can't be alpha..people don't **** with me though. I guess I can command respect but I'm simply not an interesting person.

Read more books or something I guess....God I should follow my own advice.
 
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ezily

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what's a specific situation?

i used to be like that. However, as soon as I started to speak up and talk about something interesting people listened to me. If it is in a class in college and I have a group work I just take the initiative to talk to people. They then enjoy themselves as we work. This has worked because most of the time people don't know each other and are all afraid to really say anything.

However, you are only 16. You have a disadvantage because in HS everyone usually knows each other. If you have a bad rep then you're kinda screwed from the get go. Also, I think you're taking things too personally. Just lighten up some and don't look so tense. that could help. btw, actually talking and speaking up wouldn't hurt.
 
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