Frustrated by young women in real life

[AttackFormation]

I feel like I don't register with them. There are some cashiers that seem to be extra friendly to me, but that's about it.

- Girls tend to like me when they get to know me, in fact they tend to wonder how I could not already have a girlfriend (I tell them it's because I haven't found one I want yet)
- I know my looks are at least attractive because every girl I know beyond the shallow surface and some I don't say so directly or indirectly
- I'm socially competent, I wear decent clothing, I smell good, I'm healthy - I have no obvious defects

Yet when I walk around and try to make eye contact with girls, it's as if I'm walking around in a different plane of reality. I have to resort to online dating where I scrape by, because I don't get many IOIs from real life.

I feel uncomfortable most of the time talking to sexually viable girls who are total cold approaches which is the only thing I can think of - and it goes away if I get any hint of warmth. That's why I'm trying to make eye contact, but it's not working. I want to go out to the suburbs and hook up younger girls there. I went out a little in the evening today, but no girl so much as looked at me. I didn't get the impression that they were avoiding me, just that they were totally oblivious, and it doesn't matter how revealing their clothing is (ie. you'd figure they'd be looking for looks).

Is it the anti-social climate of where I live (Sweden)? am I (not) doing something? are girls living in a different reality? or what?

Another thing that frustrates me is the sheer attention women get. Some of them (typically the ones who want you to be with them) - and these girls are not conventionally attractive, I'm not talking about playboy models here - just keep mentioning being hit on this and that time and update you on fresh attempts by guys. If you're a woman and you don't have a visible defect, you will be hit on at least from time to time no matter whether you're dirt broke, have 0 game, smoking, fat, etc. while I can't even get a f*cking IOI. When they want a guy they just go out and get one, that's why there's always less women hanging out at places/on dating sites/in clubs/wherever, because they don't need to be there the same way men do.

 

[SmooveMooves]

When game gets like this (and it will, there will always be dry spells) I default to social circle game. This is where having a big social circle comes in handy. Go hang out with some pals through those pals there should be a attractive chick you have access to mutually, then bang, viable option.

Whenever things get rough, (I'm probably in the meanest dry spell ever) I go meet up with some friends I haven't seen in while. Everytime I do this, theres some new chick around that I add to my tab easily due to my HVM.

I believe the best way to have all the womenz is through Social circle game, then cold approach, and all the way at the bottom, the Internet, if your into it.

PS: The reason you're not getting women has nothing to do with being in Sweden, you're actually in one of the good places for it although you guys are westernizing a Lil bit.

 

[AttackFormation]

I have no social circle anymore if you could ever say I had one, and the people I do know are dead ends in terms of hookups (guys in the same boat as me/girls with boyfriends and no single friends/girls I don't want who don't know anyone I want/you get the point). I am meeting up with an old friend next week who wants to do the same things I do though. And if my main plate has her girlfriends at her birthday party coming up now... :yes:

Still, I don't want to rely on that external stuff. I want to go out, look at a girl I want to f*ck, have her notice me, smile, start talking with her and feel a welcoming vibe. I know how easy it's supposed to be.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Women like ugly to average looking guys for dating and relationships. They have to have confidence though....they can't be ugly or average looking with no self esteem or confidence in their selfs. Had plenty of women admit this. There are some women who like guys with tattoos.....guy could have a jacked up face, but if he is decent shape and has tattoos...wallaaaaaa he can pick up this chick who loves tattoos on dude. Everybody has different taste and standards. Women like good looking men to, but tend to give them a harder time and would rather much more prefer having that guy for a ONS or a side dude and a FWB......When is the last time you actually saw 2 good looking people together?

 

[AttackFormation]

Women like ugly to average looking guys for dating and relationships. They have to have confidence though....they can't be ugly or average looking with no self esteem or confidence in their selfs. Had plenty of women admit this. There are some women who like guys with tattoos.....guy could have a jacked up face, but if he is decent shape and has tattoos...wallaaaaaa he can pick up this chick who loves tattoos on dude. Everybody has different taste and standards. Women like good looking me to, but tend to give them a harder time and would rather much more prefer having that guy for a ONS or a side dude and a FWB......When is the last time you actually saw 2 good looking people together?

You know what, I actually believe that by experience. You wouldn't think so but it's true. My main plate recently told me that lots of women are looking for what we in Sweden call a "slipper" - basically a guy who is a whipped pvssy. She said so (in a tone implying it to be negative/her to be weary of it) when I said women want someone who (paraphrased obviously) is alpha. A friend of mine has a boyfriend who no one (including herself) says is anything but ugly, and he has the confidence of someone who lets his girlfriend do things like rest on someone else (me) next to him without saying a word and being pvssy whipped in general.

But should that really mean -I- can't get sh!t? I doubt I'd be getting hit up if I was ugly-average looking either and I have gotten some payouts from my looks. But why should it be like extracting blood from a rock? You would think that taking care of yourself = you can go out, spot a girl you like who is objectively below your SMV and say "hey " without coming off as some kind of freak/getting an anti-social reception, which is the feeling I (and other guys I talk with here) get.

WHY is it so d@mn difficult today ?

 

[Trump]

I have no social circle anymore if you could ever say I had one, and the people I do know are dead ends in terms of hookups (guys in the same boat as me/girls with boyfriends and no single friends/girls I don't want who don't know anyone I want/you get the point).

That is your main problem. Social circle and connections are very key in early 20s for meeting girls. The trust/vouch/having stuff in common goes way further than blindly going out to meet a girl to try to have sex with them.

All in all, unless you are a natural, 22 is a rough age for a guy to get lots of girls. Girls know they have the power at that age and can make life difficult for a guy if they want to. Wait to you get older, you'll make their heads spin without even trying....:woo:

 

[AttackFormation]

That is your main problem. Social circle and connections are very key in early 20s for meeting girls. The trust/vouch/having stuff in common goes way further than blindly going out to meet a girl to try to have sex with them.

All in all, unless you are a natural, 22 is a rough age for a guy to get lots of girls. Girls know they have the power at that age and can make life difficult for a guy if they want to. Wait to you get older, you'll make their heads spin without even trying....:woo:

I'm f*cked in that regard. I have my old friend again now so now I finally have someone I can call "buddy" and do stuff with, but that's about it. The one star of hope is my plate's birthday party... if her friends are there, I can make some new acquaintances... the only thing is these girls are fit, or at least not fat - and I like 'em big with a big @ss. And those girls you have to go looking for around here. You guys in the states have it easy in that regard

 

[JohnChops]

You do not need a social circle to get laid. I've had no social circle before and have gotten laid and vice versa.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

What is your body language like? Do you stare at a woman for more than 5 seconds? What's your facial expression like?

Staring at a girl face to face or from your peripheral or behind?
If I see a girl checking me out and we make eye contact I look at her till her eyes dart away. I do get greedy with viewing women I find attractive I need to settle down I stare to much and try to force eye contact which never helps or works

 

[Obsidian]

Some of them (typically the ones who want you to be with them) - and these girls are not conventionally attractive, I'm not talking about playboy models here - just keep mentioning being hit on this and that time and update you on fresh attempts by guys.

This means that she wants you to ask her out. She is trying to increase her social proof, which is a tactic that she wrongly believes will actually work on a man.

 

[SmooveMooves]

You do not need a social circle to get laid. I've had no social circle before and have gotten laid and vice versa.

Why do you guys read shít, and then speak in absolutes? I could say 'I like cars' and y'all would be like 'So motorcycles aren't good enough for you? lol

I didn't say you NEED a social circle to get laid, I just said I find it easier to get laid through it and OP should look into it.

And Bullshít you don't have a social circle. You're telling me you don't have a group of friends? People whom you mutually like and hang around? Your telling me you're a total loner and outside of your cold approached chicks and fam there's no one? If you can't manage a small group of friends picking up chicks isn't half of your worries.

 

[YawataNoKami]

OP I really do not want to offend you
Sweden ...............
http://oi40.tinypic.com/294qn86.jpg

Went 2 years ago.Truly a basketcase.I used to believe that Sweden was a country with a high standard of living. What I saw was that Sweden has become a female-tyrant state and swedish men looking like females.

There is no country in the world, where you will feel the hatred against male. Women and girls are arrogant, talking like men, argumentative and try to compete with men in every issues.The divorce rate is high and relations very cold and weak. Men talk and act like women. This sick feminism distorted the nature of man-woman relation and attraction has disappeared.I know many Swedes who marry Asian women, because it is often impossible to stay with a masculine woman. The children has whatsoever no respect to parents, specially girls, who mom teach them how to be a masculine woman. Swedish men are very weak because of feminists threat and accusation.
The main attraction for women is the male power and when you take it from them, so the attraction disappear.

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

OP I really do not want to offend you
Sweden ...............
http://oi40.tinypic.com/294qn86.jpg

Went 2 years ago.Truly a basketcase.I used to believe that Sweden was a country with a high standard of living. What I saw was that Sweden has become a female-tyrant state and swedish men looking like females.

There is no country in the world, where you will feel the hatred against male. Women and girls are arrogant, talking like men, argumentative and try to compete with men in every issues.The divorce rate is high and relations very cold and weak. Men talk and act like women. This sick feminism distorted the nature of man-woman relation and attraction has disappeared.I know many Swedes who marry Asian women, because it is often impossible to stay with a masculine woman. The children has whatsoever no respect to parents, specially girls, who mom teach them how to be a masculine woman. Swedish men are very weak because of feminists threat and accusation.
The main attraction for women is the male power and when you take it from them, so the attraction disappear.

It's interesting you point this case out. Each of the bullet points they wish to achieve reduces male potency and masculinity by another degree. In the end you have a study like this Sweden thing like your saying.

Masculine females, women saying the men are "weak". Men actually "weak" from being hen-pecked by these females and the state, and having to take on feminine women from other regions of the world.

 

[HoneyHitter]

By default, women don't value respectful men. Just authorities, the genetically blessed and criminals.

 

[YawataNoKami]

By default, women don't value respectful men. Just authorities, the genetically blessed and criminals.

They do not respect swedish respectful men. If you are a foreigner you will be fine.