Froze up in the club.

[Tyson420]

My friends took me to a night club, they tried to get me drunk.

So its three of us, one alpha dude, and his wing. I was the newb.

So these three asian chicks approach us, I don't remember but one of them was a big girl. I do remember she kept talking about how big her chest was and kept squeezing them and I was quiet the whole time.

The Wing kept telling me. "Dude you gotta talk to these chicks man!" He pulled me to the side and the girls were in a brief huddle. Alpha buddy seemed to have the one in the blue dress in the bag, so the big one and the skinny one were mine and the Wing's

Well.

I don't know. I froze up, didn't take what should have been mine. I sipped my drink and kept quiet, the chubby one went in my face and asked why I was so quiet. Our Wing exasperatedly said I was shy.

He was probably pissed that night, but he got over it.

We had a great time, but I still don't know what happened. My buddies keep telling me not to worry about it.

But it's ridiculous, I'm usually better than this. How could I F this up? With girls that were actually DTF for once?!

 

[Vice]

First question: when was the last time you jerked off?

Anyway, it happens.

A better question is to ask yourself, "What did I learn tonight?" before you go to bed. What did you learn after spending time and gas money, cover, and drinks?

 

[Tyson420]

What does that have to do anything?

Do you have any idea how hard it would be for me to stop?

 

[Mike32ct]

We've all frozen up at one time or another. I actually hate another guy pushing me to approach and/or talk. It makes me MORE self-conscious and likely to freeze up. I feel pressured which destroys my game that night. That's the main reason I work alone.

Also you were probably too worried about WHAT to say so you held back and said nothing. Most girls don't expect Hollywood-style entertainment. If she likes you and it appears she did, you can talk about anything, even lame sh@t. My biggest objection to this PUA stuff is it brainwashed guys into thinking they need some elaborate script to talk to a female. You don't. You could have even just asked Ms Big Chest what she's drinking or how she knows her friends. Then go from there.

Like the other poster said, just focus on what you learned that night. Or as a friend of mine used to say, "Ok you had a bad night. So how/when are you going to redeem yourself?"

 

[Vice]

What does that have to do anything?

Do you have any idea how hard it would be for me to stop?

It has EVERYTHING to do with anything. It delpetes your physical, mental, and especially social energy. It makes it difficult to speak up or be motivated to do ANYTHING. Chances are good that you jerked it recently before that encounter with the girls.

In short, it sounds like you b*tched out because you masturbated earlier.

And in order for you to achieve success, you will need to cultivate that energy instead of wasting it.

 

[kentgraham10]

It has EVERYTHING to do with anything. It delpetes your physical, mental, and especially social energy. It makes it difficult to speak up or be motivated to do ANYTHING. Chances are good that you jerked it recently before that encounter with the girls.

In short, it sounds like you b*tched out because you masturbated earlier.

And in order for you to achieve success, you will need to cultivate that energy instead of wasting it.

While not everyone here will agree with Vice, I am one of the ones that do. Keep it to a minimum, and no, once a day is not keeping it at a minimum.

 

[Mike32ct]

I also agree with Vice regarding wacking off. It used to hurt my game big time. I didn't WANT to believe that it had an effect at first. It sounded silly, superstitious, and new age "wu wu," but it's absolutely true.

 

[joverby]

I never thought of the connection until I read it here and I also believe it has an impact. I used to jerk off WAYYY too mucha nd didn't really have much ambition to find a chick(but then again could've been linked to depression more so; lots of factors)

But I would say once every few or couple days would be fine, by my standards at least.

 

[Iceberg]

It has EVERYTHING to do with anything. It delpetes your physical, mental, and especially social energy. It makes it difficult to speak up or be motivated to do ANYTHING. Chances are good that you jerked it recently before that encounter with the girls.

In short, it sounds like you b*tched out because you masturbated earlier.

And in order for you to achieve success, you will need to cultivate that energy instead of wasting it.

Hahaha. Are you serious?

I spanked off at 7pm last night. Met up with a girl at 9:30. Banged her by 1am. Passed out. Banged her again around 4am. Passed out. And then banged her twice between 8am and 9am.

You people and your masturbation myths. That stuff is a gimmick. The man needs confidence. The confidence that comes with trial and error. Success and failure. Masturbation is not a part of that.

He froze up because he was nervous. And he was nervous because he cared about the outcome. And he cared about the outcome because he hasn't kicked enough game to develop a "who gives a f**k" attitude. And that's all it is.

Don't listen to these people and their gimmicks.

 

[loveshogun]

I spanked off at 7pm last night.

Hey guys, I just got done wringin' the rag. What's up?

 

[bigneil]

I don't think masturbation has anything to do with anything, except it's supposed to improve prostate health.