From target to girlfriend.

[nvictor]

DJs,

Just established her as my GF yesterday. I'm
totally aware of not becoming an AFC. Past
experiences have taught me a lot.

I'm making modifications to DJs' rules.

You are who you are around with. I wouldn't like
to be the one that goes out with a *****. For
that, I won't allow others treat her like a *****.
If both of us can't respect that, I'll stop the rela
tionship.

I demand her, respect to my time, my goals. And
I judge her only on the way she treats me. But
somewhere, I must protect her, from jerks.

So what do you think of that?

Opinions wanted. Thanks.

 

[resilient]

You're on the right track.

One note on protecting her from jerks. You really can't make the decisions for her to wanting to be with someone else. If you guys have the exclusivity talk (hopefully brought up by her) than you've got a pact of trust until broken or proven otherwise.

What you can do however is be your best self and someone that she'd always look forward to being around. Doing things right will keep her attracted. You can correct AFC behavior, but don't think DJs are spotless, we're human - we make mistakes as well, just not as many as AFCs.

Life is a long learning process of making decisions and taking risks. If things don't work out in the end than that's ok because you learned something about what you're looking for long term and more about how you handle your strength and weaknesses in relationhips.

 

[nvictor]

Thanks bro.